Should I trust my mother in laws house?

Question

Should I trust my mother in law's house?
I feel uncomfortable leaving my daughter over my mom in laws house. She's have younger children, a boy who 11 and a girl 13. Before I was married I'm pretty sure I saw the girl (8 at the time) with her hand down her cousins(a boy, 5 years older than her) pants. To me this is not normal. I told hubby and he told his mother and he said she handled it (whatever that means). The girl has told her mom that she was touched unappropriately before, not sure if anything was done about it. Now I am uncomfortable with my 2 year old and my 5month old going over their house alone. I have bad dreams of daughter being molested over there. hubby is not worried and doesn't think anything will happen. what do you think?

Answer 1

God has given you instincts for a reason. As a mother, you should never send your child into a situation that is unsafe (or that you think may be unsafe). Trust your gut and don't let your daughter go to that house without you! If you take her over there, only allow her to play in open areas where you can see her at all times. Children who have been touched inappropriately frequently repeat that behavior with younger children! Keep your baby safe!!!

Answer 2

You are right to be worried. I don't think you should leave your children there until they are old enough to communicate things to you and you can teach them about good and bad touches and what to do if someone tries or threatens them. It's hard to trust anyone, even family, especially adolescents. Men just don't have the protective instincts that mothers have so don't let him talk you into something you don't feel good about. Trust your motherly instincts, you can't be too careful. If you do have to leave them there, let the 11 and 13 year olds know that you are on to them and if they touch your children inappropriately in any way you will know and you will see that they are sent to juvenile detention. Maybe that sounds harsh, but whatever it takes to protect your babies is okay in my book.

Answer 3

Ive been in the same boat with you hunny. I have 10 mon old twin girls and I am so scared of the same thing. My brother in law is gay and he molested two of his younger brothers now the youngest is acting strange. My sister in law had issues with her little by not wanting to be changed when he was a baby. What I do is I stay with them when they are there if I do let them keep my kids its for a minuscule amount of time and they stay with grandma or their favorite aunt. I would just as well not let them see them sometimes because they treat my more difficult twin badly but its not fair to grandma or their aunts or their daddy so I just watch close Ive also told them I would kill whoever hurt my babies I think I was serious enough to scare. Unlike your in-laws my mother in law did do something about it, and when I say miniscule I mean ten min to bk

Answer 4

Trust me if you don't feel comfortable leaving your child not only at your mother in law house but anywhere by all means don't leave your child anywhere you are not comfortable because people are doing sick and real f-ed up things to child today so me i would not leave my baby anywhere i'm not comfortable with. Good Luck and talk it over with your husband and tell him why you feel the way you do . God Bless cause i lost two of my three children with letting my friend watch my children and they got broken bone , skull fractures , and not living with me ,and it's killing me to not have seen my now 16 and 14 yr olds sense they was 4 and about to be3 when i last seen them so PLEASE DON'T LET NOBODY TELL YOU WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR CHILDREN. It's always best to be safe then sorry. Mad Love to you cause when I let my gaurd down I lost a life of watching my now teenagers get to be teenagers.GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS

Answer 5

So, five years ago you think you saw some inappropriate touching between two children, but you're not sure. Now you're willing to change multiple relationships and interdependencies because of that?

Certainly if you have something more recent to go on, something more concrete, you may have reason for concern and should act on it.

Instincts are what we are put on earth to rise above. Try cultivating your reasoning skills instead. Protect your children, but don't sacrifice their happiness and that of other good family members over what are possibly fantastical guesses on your part.

Answer 6

Trust your instincts. The only thing you can do is protect them. If that means you have to keep them away then do it. That is something that will stay with them forever. I still think my mom is the greatest for protecting us. You do the same. Don't let hubby change your mind. Your their mom. Keep doing a good job!!

Answer 7

There is no way I would allow my child over there! Follow your gut it's normally right! And when it comes to your kids nothing against your husband but us mom's just know thing's! I was molested by my Grandfather when I was little and let me tell you something you never get over something like that happening to you. Protect your kids they are what's important!

Answer 8

Follow your instinct, always! You are the Mom, Mom's sometimes have a certain instinct about things. Sometimes it's just being paranoid, but sometimes, in fact often, instincts are right on. If you are no 100% comfortable, then don't leave your kids their alone.

Answer 9

If you are sure you saw this it is not normal.Trust your instincts-children are the best gift from God .You need to protect them.If you do not trust these people make sure you are there with your children and they are not ALONE or out of your sight when there.

Answer 10

Youre a mom. If you think your kids are in danger, dont leave them there. Of course, you cant go being worried about everything, so make sure your worry is well founded.