When she is sober, all is fine. She is hurtful when she drinks but can only remember that some times when she is drinking.
2007-01-23 03:21:52 · 20 answers · asked by MЯ BAIT™ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds like she has issues like the rest of us...just ask her what is wrong? tell her how she makes you feel when she drinks. If you do not tell her she might tell you something really hurtful not meaning to.. and then the damage might be to much for you cause drinking are not there is no excuse for her to treat you this way.. If you really like her tell her how you really feel about the whole situation.. let her know she can tell you whatever is bothering her..and she might actually feel better. good luck
2007-01-31 00:34:09 · answer #1 · answered by renja27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either record her to prove what she says, or really help her and point her in the direction of AA. If she truly loves the person she is being hurtful to while drunk then she should want to try to fix this issue buy sobering up or drinking in moderation so that she doesn't get drunk.
2007-01-23 11:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by Issym 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chances are she does remember when she's sober but she's prob just embarassed by what she has said. if she's being hurtful when she's drunk tell her when she sober that you dont like that side of her and dont know if you want to put up with it and as the girl above said a tape recorder wouldn't be a bad idea
2007-01-23 11:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by louisem28 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can really do but decide if she is worth the headache of trying to figure her out when she's intoxicated. Does she do it often? I blacked out many a time when I was drinking and was told that i was a very angry and abusive person when I did so. I am ashamed of what I did and hoped that someone would have told me sooner and maybe asked me to stop.
2007-01-23 11:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by Ana M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess the big question is... how often does she drink?
You can either live with it, get her help, or move on. Taping her when she's drunk and playing it back when she's sober might serve as a wakeup call...
2007-01-23 11:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In Vino Veritas - in wine is truth.
She has issues that she needs to address but can't. Talk to her (sober) and confront those issues head on. She may not remember her words, but she'll know the feelings that led to those words. Talk it out.
2007-01-31 09:18:52 · answer #6 · answered by RM 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she is not lying, I too forget a lot when I'm drinking, I'm not hurtful, but often very uninhibited, which can be good or bad. Record her definitely, but maybe even better, cut her off at a certain point so she is coherent
2007-01-23 11:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by Cute Stuff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's time to get her some help. I'm going through the same thing with my sister. I admitted her to the hospital and everything took off from there. Don't let her continue to hurt herself.
2007-01-23 11:25:31 · answer #8 · answered by kayjay 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to stop drinking. It's either you or the bottle.
2007-01-23 11:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by Dave B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get her to stop drinking!
2007-01-23 11:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by evilcharm1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋