Parents If your kid comes home with a black eye and tells you they've been getting bullied what do you do?

Question

Do you go to the school and talk to their teacher?

Or do you teach them how to fight and tell them next time they are bullied to go bobcat on whoever is giving them abuse?

Answer 1

talk to the school 1st and if that doesn't get anywhere yeah, teach them to defend themselves. you dont wanna just ignore it, cuz it never works

Answer 2

If bullying is the issue, then I would talk with the teacher and the principal. But what I've told my kids is that if the other kid hits first, then they have the right to defend themselves. And if they do decide to hit back, then make every punch count. Because if they are going to get suspended along with the other kid, then they need to make it worth the effort. I don't care what anybody says, sometimes it is a matter of gaining respect so that the bully will leave them alone. This happened to my son in the 5th grade. After that, the other kid basically left him alone.

**Of course these days, kids bring guns and knives to school to fight with, so think carefully about this as well, and if the situation is serious, then you may have to contact the police in regards to the student who is harrassing your son.

But remember, I said to talk with the school authorities first. They have the power to stop it or ignore it, and I get really fed up with teachers saying they aren't aware of what's going on when it's their job to make it their business what goes on. They just need to pay more attention.

Good luck to your kid! And by the way, your son might be interested in taking martial arts. That doesn't promote fighting at all, but gives them confidence.

Answer 3

Teach them to stand up for themselves. There is a difference between defending your self and starting the fight to begin with. I would still talk to the teacher/principle about these kids. But definitly make sure that he was getting bullied for no reason and not because he did something to egg these kids on.

Answer 4

You do both.
Talk to the principal of the school and they should call the
partent(s) and tell them. Then when you get home make sure to tell your child what you did and if this doesnt work, then go tell a teacher right away. If it still doesn't work then you should teach your child how the stand up for himself. But only to hit them if the bullies hit them first.

Answer 5

I recently went through this with my 14 yr old. My son is at ana age that he doesnt want "Mommy" to fight his battles for him. I had to take him jeans and socks to school because the boy had kicked him in the knee so hard it ripped his jeans and put a gash in his knee. He had a lot of blood on him. But my son would not tell on this kid because the boy is a bully. (even the bad kids stay away from this kid) So, I went to talk to principal which didnt do alot of good.......(1 day after school dentention). Then I found out this bully is almost 18. I went straight to the police and they picked him up at school and had a nice little chat with him!! Since then he has not even looked my sons way!! I also put him in Karote lessons. My son was mad at me for getting involved but I would rather get involved now than to be looking at my son in a hospital bed because I didnt stand up for him.

Answer 6

first and for most, you need to go to the school and talk to the principal. if you need to teach your son self defence(and every child should know basics)make sure you teach then to defend not kill. you child should also be told to run if he has to(to nearest store or even a nearest house.that way he can call home)..it the school refuses to make any changes, then you make the next best step and that's going over their heads and going to the school board. IF all fails, involve the police. protecting your son is #1. Best of luck to you!!!

Answer 7

Both things are important. You should talk with somebody at the school. This may be going on with others as well who are afraid to say anything. I believe that it's important for our kids to stand up when they are right even if it means kicking a little -ss. No kid should be afraid to stand up for themself or not no how to potect them selfs from people like that.

Answer 8

I would go to school and talk to the teacher and the principal. It is their duty to protect students from bullies. Sign the child up for karate, also.

Answer 9

talk to the school, if that doesnt help, talk to the other kids parents, if that doesnt work then teach the kid to DEFEND himself, [not to become a bully]

Answer 10

Talk to the principal...also teach you child to stand up and defend himself.
OHHH put him in a karate class !!!