"The Loser" will hurt you on purpose. If he or she hits you, twists your arm, pulls your hair, kicks you, shoves you, or breaks your personal property EVEN ONCE, drop them. Male losers often begin with behaviors that move you physically or hit the wall. Female losers often slap, kick and even punch their male partners when upset.
"The Loser" has very shallow emotions and connections with others. One of the things that might attract you to "The Loser" is how quickly he or she says "I Love You" or wants to marry or commit to you. Typically, in less than a few weeks of dating you'll hear that you're the love of their life, they want to be with you forever, and they want to marry you. You'll receive gifts, a variety of promises, and be showered with their attention and nice gestures. This is the "honeymoon phase" - where they catch you and convince you that they are the best thing that ever happened to you. Remember the business saying "If it's too good to be true it probably is (too good to be true)!" You may be so overwhelmed by this display of instant attraction, instant commitment, and instant planning for the future that you'll miss the major point - it doesn't make sense!! Normal, healthy individuals require a long process to develop a relationship because there is so much at stake. Healthy individuals will wait for a lot of information before offering a commitment - not three weeks. It's true that we can become infatuated with others quickly - but not make such unrealistic promises and have the future planned after three dates. The rapid warm-up is always a sign of shallow emotions which later cause "The Loser" to detach from you as quickly as they committed. "The Loser" typically wants to move in with you or marry you in less than four weeks or very early in the relationship.
"The Loser" repeatedly puts you down. They constantly correct your slight mistakes, making you feel "on guard", unintelligent, and leaving you with the feeling that you are always doing something wrong. They tell you that you're too fat, too unattractive, or don't talk correctly or look well. This gradual chipping away at your confidence and self-esteem allows them to later treat you badly - as though you deserved it. In public, you will be "walking on eggshells" - always fearing you are doing or saying something that will later create a temper outburst or verbal argument.
2007-01-23 03:05:06
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answer #1
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answered by Melina M 1
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Here are 20 things that I consider as someone being a loser.
1. No job.
2. Lives at home with family.
3. Talks about the past more than the future.
4. Sleeps during the day.
5. Drinks often.
6. Uses a substance to get "high".
7. Has a child and does not see him or her.
8. Never speaks about getting ahead realistically.
9. Daydreams quite often.
10. Not a licensed driver.
11. Involves self in someone's conflict or drama.
12. Creates drama.
13. Finds it neccessary to be with friends everyday.
14. Cannot handle being alone for a long period of time.
15. Says mean or rude things about others although, their situation is similar.
16. Never seems to have any money.
17. Does not handle bad situations wisely.
18. Expects others to do for them.
19. Does not display a sense of self responsibility.
20. Always asking others for help.
2007-01-23 02:56:27
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answer #2
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answered by ▒♥▒♥▒♥▒♥▒™ 5
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When you find yourself on Yahoo! Answers asking the world this question...you know you're dating a loser.
2007-01-23 02:53:00
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answer #3
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answered by Anonymous
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When he's depending on you for money and make no effort to look for a job, when he calls only if he need something from you, when he take advantage of your love, when he flirts with other girls in front of you, when he checks out other girls, when he's still living with his parents even though he's old enough to live on his own, when he gets you to pay for the car gas and when you guys go out together.
2007-01-23 02:52:51
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answer #4
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answered by Hanna 6
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try checking out the below website and there should be an article on signs of a loser or red flag signs or something to that effect.
2007-01-23 02:52:20
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answer #5
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answered by cfalways 5
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They have no goals, no money, make you pay for everything, doesn't have a car, still lives with their parents and they are an adult, they talk down to you, act like they own you, steal from you, spend any money they do have on alcohol and drugs rather then getting their act together or doing something for you...I could go on and on...
2007-01-23 02:50:06
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answered by Anonymous
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Controlling , secretive, secret phone calls and emails. Time spent away from you that the person can not account for. Always asking to borrow money and car. Doesn't care about your feelings. Ogeling others!
2007-01-23 02:50:59
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answered by roseysuzy1128 2
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No Job, No car, lives with parents, has ex wife(husband) and kids.
To all the women out there that fit this description, yeah you're losers too.
2007-01-23 02:50:00
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answer #8
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answered by Anonymous
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no.1 he are she is always lyeing
no.2 he are she always depend on you to do it all
no.3 he are she never has any money but want you to go out. that means you have to pay all the time totalley a "L"
2007-01-23 02:53:37
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answer #9
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answered by lady p 1
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when he lets you know his financial situation right out front whether he has lots of money or he's broke.
When he won't stop talking about his ex
He only talks about himself
Only comments on how "hot" you are, but says nothing about your personality.
He cheats
Looks at other women infront of you
Talks about other women parts infront of you
If he thinks he's hotter than you
2007-01-23 02:51:05
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answered by Mel 4
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