is it proper to inlcude something in the invitation to give the bride/groom something as a money tree or include a link for donations to a disney vacation for the bride/groom & children?
they really don't need anything as they've been together 9 years, two children and already have home.
2007-01-23 02:28:54 · 15 answers · asked by kathrynjtm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
absolutly not. You do not in anyway mention gifts on the wedding invitation. Its purpose is to invite people to join in the celebration, not to solicit gifts, which if you were to do what youre referring to would be just that. People don't have to give anything to a couple when they get married, and when you include it on the invitation, you imply just that.
Also, its highly rude to dictate that the guest should only give money, if they are gracious enough to give anything. In understand that couples may have all they need, but that still doesn't give them the right to dictate what people can and can't buy with their hard-earned dollars. If someone buys you a gift, understand that even if it is useless or awful, they took the time to think of you and pick that out, and you cheapen that experience when you dictate what is allowed. I would personally decline to give a couple anything if they chose to only accept money, I find it rude and it honestly pisses me off a little,...not every guest will feel this way but many will so bear that in mind.
My best advice is let word of mouth do the talking and don't register, when people ask, politely mention and have family members mention your plans for the trip, making sure to add the kids part...I feel that you will come out far worse if you include it on the wedding invitation!
2007-01-23 03:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never put gift ideas in the invitation. You can tell people when they RSVP to you if they ask. You can have a money tree set up at the reception or have a dollar dance to dance with the bride and groom. If she has a shower or something you can put the disney website link in the shower invitation.
Best Wishes
2007-01-23 10:47:20 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't register anywhere and most people will give you money as the easiest solution. Another idea is to set up an account with a bank or travel agent and by word of mouth let people know about it. They can put money in it for your family vacation or what not. Do not put it in the wedding invitations though! That would be tacky.
2007-01-23 15:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is No, it's not alright. It's presumptuous and tacky. I never understand when people say "They already have a home" or "They don't need anything, they live together." So what? Most engaged people, living together or not, DO own things they need for a home together. I mean, I'm engaged and even own my own mugs and coffee pot!*sarcasm* You don't get to substitute something else you want if you already have an established home. Next thing you know, people will be putting "In lieu of gifts, please donate to our registry at Acura." Come on. Even if it WERE ok to ask for something else, it certainly is NEVER ever put on an invitation!
2007-01-23 11:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it proper?, I would have to say no. Sorry, not what you want to hear. I would imagine that guests would know you have a home, you have children,....therefore not in need of traditional linens, china, crystal... Mostly wedding gifts are cash. Showers are for the gifts you register for. Weddings themselves are CASH! If you are having a shower, register for only the things you need, or have whomever throwing the shower(usually best friend, close family member) tell them secretly your wishes, ideas. They can pass it on as their own idea, not yours looking selfish or rude-I want $, or a trip to Disney. The individual could say to others, "hey how about we put together a honeymoon for the family--they could really use that, wouldn't that be nice?"
2007-01-23 10:41:29 · answer #5 · answered by The McK's 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its becoming a common and accepted practice to register your honeymoon, or in your case Disney vacation, with a travel agency. Then you can have your family tell anyone who asks that this is one choice that they can contribute to. I wouldn't include it on the invitations or anything though. As you can tell, some people get really offended by it. But if they hear it in a discussion with your family it should have a better effect. Good Luck!
2007-01-23 10:41:30 · answer #6 · answered by C E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just register? If you register, you can put down the stores that you actually utilized and I believe the travel agent can set something up where guests can send in a payment. Most people who use common sense know that you have already established your home life, so they will probably give money. Best of luck
2007-01-23 12:04:53 · answer #7 · answered by notnew2U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not proper and it is tacky. People invited to your wedding will already know that you are an established couple and will take this into consideration when they decide on a gift. However you should graciously thank everyone that chooses to bring a gift no matter what it may be as it is not mandatory for them to do so.
2007-01-23 11:08:26 · answer #8 · answered by tashag2805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO it is not; it's rude and tacky. If you really don't want gifts, say so, but DON'T ask for money, donations, gift cards, etc. People don't "have" to give a gift for a wedding, but obviously most do.
Gee, you should be reading more of the questions on here; lots deal with this...
2007-01-23 10:33:32 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most just give cash to help cover the cost of the wedding. Anything left over you can be used to go to Disney.
Family and friends know that the couple are established and don't need blenders and toasters so they are even more inclined to give cash.
2007-01-23 10:40:03 · answer #10 · answered by r s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋