How do you deal with a rude house guest?

Question

One of my co workers just told me that his girlfriends mother is coming to visit for a month. He says that he is making up "No smoking here" signs to put up in different areas of the house because the last time she visited she smoked and he didn't appreciate it. I asked him why doesn't he just tell her not to smoke in his house since neither him nor his girlfriend are smokers. He says that he doesn't want to be rude or make her feel uncomfortable so hes just going to put up the signs. Would you put up a bunch of crazy "no smoking" signs in your house or would you just tell people what they can or cannot do while they are visiting?

Answer 1

Ok. Listen carefully, do as i say, and it will all work out perfectly.

1. Don't worry about your co worker, I know that you are worried but you don't need to be.
2. Rip off those stupid signs, no questions asked.
3. Set out a small seating area outside the house (preferably in the front garden).
4. When the girlfriend's mother arrives, casually explain that the seating area is the 'Smoking Porch'. Compliment this statement with a smile and a nod.
5. If, later on, the gilfriend's mother still lights up inside the house. Then ask if she could please smoke out in the designated smoking area.
6. If she still persists on smoking indoors. Then I amm afraid it is time to 'get nasty'. Tell her that you will remove the cigarette permenently, if she does not sit in the designated smoking area.

This plan that I have created for you, will not fail. Please use it. I have not writen it for my own leasure, but for your comfort.

Answer 2

These days, one really should know that smoking in someone else's house is just not on. All the publicity about this lately should have sunk in by now. He must speak to her as soon as possible - I don't smoke in anyone else's house but nip outside when I feel the need. Don't put up "no smoking" signs - it will only make matters worse - But if she takes offence about not being able to smoke - hard luck. She should respect his home and his furnishings, etc. Tell your friend to make up some rules about smoking and not to be a wimp - she is a guest for goodness sake.

Answer 3

No signs! Also his girlfriend should tell her mother no smoking in the house. It's not rude to ask people not to smoke in your house. However, It's rude to assume its okay to smoke in ones house without asking first. If she talks to her mom about it. I dont think she will have a problem with it. My Mom doesn't.

Answer 4

I would never invite a smoker to my house. Some go outside to smoke but they stand right by your door and/or open window and that nasty smell comes inside the house. Then the people stink to high heaven of smoke (their hair/clothes) when they come back inside your house. Smokers should all move to an island of their own so they smoke their little hearts out and not bother us non-smokers who like things to smell clean and fresh.

Answer 5

i would put up the signs and just tell her that we had run into the same problem when friends came over to visit like that she will not feel the reason for the signs is only her and well explain that since they dont smok they dont appreciate the smoke in their house either

Answer 6

I wouldnt bother with making signs..It maybe a relative,but if they are comming to visit or stay in your house,they need to respect your wishes and your rules and if they cant do that then tell them they will have to stay in a motel or leave..You could also first try kindly asking them to smoke outside only

Answer 7

He's now acting childish. he should just be forthcoming to her and let her know that he would appreciate it if she smoked outside the home. Most people even smokers don't allow smoking in their home, as long as you are not obnoxious when telling her there should be no problem at all. I'm sure she will will comply.

Answer 8

I would definitely just tell her that you do not smoke in your house and would appreciate it if she didn't either. There are places outside where she could be comfortable doing it. Putting up signs will only insinuate that he doesn't have the courtesy to tell her to her face. It would look sneaky.

Answer 9

I would tell them that there is no smoking permitted. No need for signs. And if they feel put out by the "ban", then they can stay elsewhere.

Answer 10

I would just politely tell the person straight up that I dont like smoking in the house but that they are welcome to smoke outside. That was really rude of her to do that.