My boyfriend and I recently started living together. I suspected something was wrong before I found some misc. items around the house that I know he uses to smoke crack. He stopped making love to me, talking to me, doing things with me. I confronted him he acted like I was crazy and didn't know what I was talking about. And it's gotten much worst. He is like a different person now, he comes home work goes straight into the bathroom and stays in there all night smoking and doesn't come to bed until anywhere from 12am to 3am - and he has to get up for work at 3:45am. He's started going into work late, calling in - and when I tried talking to him again he got defensive but admitted that he knew it was getting out of hand and would do better. But, it's gotten worst. . I want to help him but he's in denial about how bad it is and doesn't think he needs help & I'm getting bitter and resentful and don't want to be with him- you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved am I right?
2007-01-23 02:10:40 · 9 answers · asked by Cris 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
girl it sounds to me like this man doesn't want any help with his problem and if he doesn't want help there is nothing you can do about it.
this is your cue to leave...
do you really want to live a life with a man who is addicted to drugs and doesn't care who he hurts while he is doing it?
get out girl and find someone who loves you, respect you and is grown up. stay away from the druggies or they will bring you down.
2007-01-23 02:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by mmh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to save yourself. By staying with him and sticking by him you are enabling him to keep going. He may have to hit rock bottom before coming back up. Ask him to get help, mention that you will help him get help, if he refuses or makes excuses and you have tried it all, you will have to get out. What happens when you end up pregnant and are really stuck and alone, trying to take care of both your boyfriend and the baby? I wish you the very best and I know that its hard, but you have to think of yourself, your safety and your future. Good Luck.
2007-01-23 02:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by Claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would be right to get the heck outta there. crack will suck the life out of him & the money out of you. if he's in denial & doesnt need help, then there is no hope, UNTIL he sees the problem. youre not doing yourself any favors by hanging around trying to SAVE him. TRUST ME get out NOW. ask any professional, they'll tell you the same thing. you cant help him till he WANTS the help. take care of yourself before he destroys you. the choices we make are not always easy, you know
2007-01-23 02:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by Tim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out, it's a no win situation. Its only time till the police kick the door in. He's very unstable and could end up hurting or killing you while hes high
2007-01-23 02:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he care about you for starters?if he really loved you or cared about you he would get help.and thats what u need to tell him,either you get help or im gone.u should not have to deal with something like that.if he feels drugs are his answer and his world,go find better.im sure you could or have done alot better for him,but if he doesnt want help then thats his problem,just tell him you dont want to be apart of him ruining his life.everyone is gonna die someday but why make it sooner then needed?
2007-01-23 02:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by cancer4228 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing you can do, the person needs to want to get help you need to move out before things really go bad for you.
2007-01-23 02:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right, offer him help and if he refuses move out because next he is going to lose his job and start stealing things out of the house and becoming violent
2007-01-23 02:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is way out of hand. thw best thing now would be for him to get busted that maybe the only way he will ever try to get help
2007-01-23 02:15:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋