Why is it when you tell some guys that you want to break up, they try to make you feel guilty and wrong for "talking such foolishness" (mind you, they did nothing to try and save the relationship), then just when you think it might be worth another try, they want to break up with you and pretend like it was THEIR idea in the first place, and all the do's/dont's that applied to you, suddenly dissappear for them?
I literally had to isolate myself because this guy wanted me all to himself. He considers himself "old-fashioned" To me, he's just barbaric, but I went along with it because I loved him. Now, after all I've been put through, he want's to move on... and quickly!
I agree that this is unhealthy for the both of us, but why couldn't it have happened when I said so?
It sounds like H.S drama, but this man is actually 27 y/o! Does anyone have a clue as to why this happens? I am 23, btw.
Your responses are appreciated. Thanx!
2007-01-23 02:09:56 · 7 answers · asked by p00mkin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most men, not all feel some need to dominate. BUT want a woman they "can not dominate". They want a woman to take care of, but not totally control. Someone of the weaker sex but stronger then they are in many ways. It's complected I know but as soon as they get what they want they no longer want it. If a woman rolls over and plays dead because she thinks this is what her man wants, he will soon walk. Be yourself ALWAYS, let him take control where he needs to but not of you. Stand firm in your beliefs, but let him be the man. Talk out any and all problems, and any decisions that need to be made. Let him have the final say then do what you "know" is best. It's a game but he thinks he made the decision and therefor he feels in control. The man of the house must be "the man of the house". If you get my drift. As far as him wanting you all to himself, simply tell him "I belong to you but I am just me, my own person". Sounds corny but he'll respect that if he has any respect for you. And when it's over "THEY ALWAYS" have to be the one to break it off. Silly game they play to keep a grip on their manhood. Silly boys:)
2007-01-23 02:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by whateverhohum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plain and simple, this guy has some serious control issues. He's probably very insecure and feels that he needs to control you to make himself feel better.
I went out with a guy similar to this for a while. Trust me when I say, you don't need this drama, girl. I'm only 2 years younger than you. If I don't need the drama, then neither do you. Move on and find someone that respects you. Good luck.
2007-01-23 02:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Controlling. That's the only thing you need to know. He likes to be in control, so therefore that's why it had to be over when he said.
2007-01-23 02:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he likes someone else this dude is wack anyway keeping you locked up all the time get ride of him you are way to young for that crap
2007-01-23 02:14:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called senseless pride. He probably still loves you but he has to act like it doesn't bother him. Gather yourself and move on. Good luck
2007-01-23 02:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows why it happens but in this case it sounds like he is a control freak.....just move on with your life...who needs this kind of drama...good luck
2007-01-23 02:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they never grow up
2007-01-23 02:17:26 · answer #7 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋