Everytime I get into a relationship the man falls for me really fast! Calls all the time, text messages, etc. I am not good at romance, dating, all that stuff. Sex? uhhhh I'm ok at it. BUT, I have been told over and over in my life that I have such a great personality and that I am a very attractive woman. It takes me longer to "fall" into someone appearently and by the time I am comfortable doing so, he stops calling, or finds someone new. I think that I have a problem with communicating and understanding how to play the "Game". As I write this, I am having trouble knowing what it is that I am trying to get out there. I feel like a loser; like I will never "get it" as far as what to do once I have a man in my life. I am a college student, great job, and have a bright future; it just seems that the only element I am missing is that ability to find and keep a relationship. Any thoughts?
2007-01-23 01:50:52 · 17 answers · asked by mymohum1969 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you atart dating omeone new change your mindset, let yourself be more free and try and express yourself as if that person is just a friend, with no pressure that you dating. A few years ago I was just like you and someone I loved left me bec I couldnt express myself and he said to me " I hope in your next relationship you will learn the value of expression because you just seem so cold to be with.....and by not being open and clear about your thoughts and feelings you come across as emotionless. My best advice is start small, with your friends etc write because for me thats when I can truly find myself. Good Luck.
2007-01-23 02:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have your focus on yourself and your education at this point in your life and I think that's terrific. A relationship will develop in time. It could be that you are more independent than most girls, don't easily fall for the standard 'lines', and therefore not an 'easy mark'. Chances are good that your relationships up to this point would have dissolved just as quickly if you had responded to the advances made. My guess is that as you get further along in life and meet more mature men that everything will fall into place. You're definitely not in the 'loser' category. Just be yourself and enjoy the 'here and now'. Good Luck
2007-01-23 01:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta find a man you are very interested quickly I'm sure you can find that, then you will both be all up on each other. You see men fall for girls right away from deep lust and the womans sexyness, woman fall when they get to know them a little later cause they drop their wall but by that time the man is either bored or just doesn't feel you are into him as much so he go's to another. Maybe your hot but your not going for guys that your really into like they are you
2007-01-23 01:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same exact problem. BUT the thing is you are dating the wrong kind of "men." You obviously are muchmore mature than the guys you are dating. When two mature people date they dont have to call and text constantly. You sound like a lovely chica and you seem to have enough good stuff going on for you right now that you shouldn't be worrying about men. The right one will find you with time (most likely when you arent even looking for him.) Stop worrying about these little boys and let the real MEN find you. Trust me, if you are as great as you sound, he will find you.
2007-01-23 01:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kamryn's Mommie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well one thing i would have to know is if you were really crazy about these guys?? Doesn't seem like or you would find away to keep them around, if you're that pretty it don't take much but a heart beat for most guys. At the same time your in college and don't worry about it and if it is a specific guy ur thinking about pick a phone up and call or text him to see if something is still there.
2007-01-23 01:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are introducing sex into a relationship before youre even sure what you feel then I would say thats where you are going wrong. You should hold back on that and get to know the guy and if he hangs around without the sex then he is genuine. This will be a lasting relationship then...
2007-01-23 01:58:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop loving yourself too much or making yourself too much a distant! Socilise and try to get to know people of the opposite sex, you do not have to fall straight, but via associations you could establish who is suitable and who is not suitable for long time relationship.
2007-01-23 01:58:31 · answer #7 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awe sweetpea, kisses and hugs. firstly, there is nothing wrong with you...AT ALL. its just that you havent met the right guy yet hunni, the old saying kissing frogs and all that is totally 100% true, you really are still very young, and you have sooo much time to perfect the art of relationships. but let me re assure you, when it is the right one, it will feel effortless being emotionally connected with him i promise you. good luck chin up and a big hug xx
2007-01-23 01:58:28 · answer #8 · answered by law 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're focused on your career, and just not ready for a permanent relationship. Stop being so hard on yourself. When you're ready to settle down with one guy, it will happen. In the meantime, stay focused, and be good to yourself. Good luck!
2007-01-23 01:56:08 · answer #9 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get into a relationship again,let the other person know that you wont to take it slow,pay around and just get to know each other.You rae not a loser.
2007-01-23 01:56:42 · answer #10 · answered by Dawn l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋