Am i asking too much???

Question

I met the man of my dreams not so long ago, but it's very complicated! He only split wiv his ex a couple of weeks before we met and they still live together. This doesn't worry me cause i trust him implicitly, but i know how mess break ups can be! He says he has really fallen for me, but that he doesn't wanna break her heart by telling her that he has met someone he really likes so soon after splitting from her! I've put myself in her shoes and i completely understand where he's coming from cause i'd be devastated if i were her. At the same time i can't help wishing he'd just come clean bout me???? What do you reckon?

Answer 1

i think you need to be very careful as i have just been through same situation except i was the girlfriend, my boyfriend left me, but we have a house together so i lived with him for 3 weeks after we split, he was sneaking off in that time seeing another girl, wen i confronted him he said he didnt want to rub my nose in it and i was devastated, i moved out imediatly, but it has been 2 mnths now and my ex has come crawling back realising the mistake he made, ended it with her, and has been wanting me to give a second chance, why im telling you this is, dont believe everything he says cos he could be usin you as a distraction and to convince himself he did the right thing, in your case i hope for your sack he genuinly means it and everyone is better off, girlfriend include, but my guess is there gona have a lot of history together and you cant stop your feelings that easily, he obviously felt strongly for her to of bought a house with her, all i say is be very very careful, but i do hope it works out for you

Answer 2

I was in this exact situation, I told my now ex-wife i was not in love with her anymore, and was ready to move on and did. But I also moved out. i was only there maybe a couple days after we split. He needs to move out, no exceptions. Even if its temporary in a hotel till he finds an apartment or something. There is no excuse not to move out. NONE! i lived with my parents for a few weeks till I ended up moving in with my girlfriend. And i also told my ex about my girlfriend, and that was before we were divorced. Cause I'm a honest person, and i respected her enough to tell her the truth, before she found out on her own. the key thing about these things is to be honest all the way, it may hurt her in the beginning, but she will eventually get over it and move on herself. my situation was a little different cause there is a child involved. So things had to remain civil between me and my ex. But still there is no reason for him to live with her still, it maybe giving her false hope if he is telling you the truth, and will make things worse in the long run. Tell "your" man to "Man up" and do the right thing. And be honest. Its the only right thing to do in a situation that could get uglier then it already is.

Answer 3

In my mind, if they are still living together, they haven't really "split". Sounds like this guy wants the best of both worlds- have a wife (sort of but not really), have a girl he's "fallen for" (again, sort of but not really). If they've "split", he or she should move out. If they are "split", it shouldn't be that devatating to learn he's moved on- unless they haven't really split. I say you should step away from this guy, and until he gets off the fence and really leaves the wife, stay far away.

Answer 4

I hate to say he is probably playing you like a fiddle. When you get "separated" if you are getting a divorce you can not live together for 6 months.

You must be "separated" not together. You only get together if you are trying to reconcile your marriage. Don't be blind on this one find a man that is either already divorced or tell him to call you when he is all moved out and has the paper work to at least prove that he has filed for the divorce and don't let him say why don't you believe me, blah, blah, blah.....

Answer 5

I reckon he's a double-dipper having the best of 2 worlds. Still living with his ex means he don't want to move out, simple as that. It's like this:

Girl meets boy
Boy already has gf#1
Boy installs gf#2 because he tells her the "truth" and she "understands"

HE AIN'T GONNA MOVE. So this will go on until YOU decide you don't want to be THE OTHER WOMAN.

Answer 6

Complicated, you said it. In my opinion he's not man enough to tell his "Ex" about you and if she were really his ex then he wouldn't still be living with her now would he?
He's never going to come clean about you. I'd walk if I were you and stop wasting valuable time on this wimp.

Answer 7

I think that he should tell the other girl about you. The only way for him and "you" to move on is for him to get the other girl out of his life. I know it seems complicated and mean but that's the only way to move on. It's better for him to tell her then, her to find out by accident!

Answer 8

I think he should tell her the truth and also NOT be living with her anymore. It is only going to make it more heartbreaking for her when she does find out, not to mention, for all you know he may be having his cake and eating it too so to speak.

Answer 9

properly, i for my section think of that ladies ought to often times ask boys out, in simple terms reason i'm a guy and dont have the middle to ask them out myself. yet i think of why diverse the adult males are worried approximately asking is approximately what unusual rumours would be around as quickly as he asks. often times it facilitates if the lady asks, it particularly is going to provide the boy a splash shallowness.

Answer 10

Been in this situation, he wants his cake and eat it. I stuck out for 2 years, it would be better for him to get it over and done with, but dont sound like he wants to, could be he's hoping that things will get better with her, then where will that leave you. Men can be very devious.