im 14 1/2 and he is 18 (he a good one) we been together since november 16 2006 and every since that day i been happy and confused about alot.i asked him a very important question about sex before marriage and he gave da anwser i wanted and meant it.he tell me he loves me and i defintley do love him to but sometimes i dont know wat to do really because im afraid that when my mom finds out we are together and age differnce.then he say he want me but im to slow idk wat exactly he mean.then he say i dont show i care about him but i do really what should i do because this boy has my heart and i must say i love help me plz guide me through a good path thank you in advance
2007-01-23 01:21:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he dont wanna have sex wit me until i am ready and if that is when marriage is upon he is fine with it and i am very intelligent
2007-01-23 01:29:24 · update #1
I think this guy is preying on you and this is a very serious issue. You say he says you are 'too slow' for him - he is telling you that you are mentally too young for him. So why is he with you? He says you don't show you care about him - you are 14 years old - what does he want you to do to show you care?? You also say that you are afraid your mum will find out - that's your inner voice telling you that this relationship is WRONG! You must tell your mum - hear what she says. You must not give in to your boyfriend's demands that you should show him you care. He is far too old for you.
2007-01-23 01:37:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think by him saying your too slow he is meaning your not moving fast enough for him, he wants sex.
You are a young girl & sex should be the last thing on your mind. You have so much life to experience still. When I was young & started dating I believed I loved every guy I dated. Your young, take your time..be a child. This guy is too advanced for you honey he is at the age where he wants a sexual relationship, this you can not, should not give him.
Don't grow up so fast....Growing up isn't all it's cracked up to be.
You will love atleast 30 more boys before your out of college i promise.
2007-01-23 01:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be in that situation, though I was the 18 year old. It lasted 6 months and ended due to the age difference.
At your young age, your friends might think of your boyfriend as creepy and it will definitely be on your parents' minds. Plus, you're both at different stages of your lives and it makes it difficult to relate because of that.
Although you might love him, I would never want to be put in that same situation ever again. I got accused of a lot of untrue things and was generally disliked because of it.
I think personally, if you desperately want a boyfriend you would be more comfortable with somebody of your own age who is experiencing the same things that you are, at the same time. Though if I were you I would just enjoy life and being around good company.
2007-01-23 01:29:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take it easy and let things sort themselves. Be honest with yourself and him, let him know how you feel but in a fairly relaxed way and don't take it too seriously. If it is meant to be then it will happen, and if your mum flips cos of the age dif then that is quite a good point-you might just be going after different things cos you are at different stages in life which is why you are confused
2007-01-23 01:30:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay you are too young and you need some experiences, he is great to start with because it could help you to learn waht to do next time. You don't have to get serious with him because you are too younger for this thing. If you are confused, stop that, dump him because you need to enjoy your life, not his. If you want to stay with him, then don't let him get you or have sex with you if it happen. Remember hes 18 and he might leave someday because he has to go to settle down on his own and leave you out. You don't want that, right? then you have to do something about it. You need to focus on your life, school, yourself and your family.
2007-01-23 01:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i suggest is...don't do it..u r only 14...tell him u still have to develope ur organs..and u ll be ready when u ll be at the age of 18.He can wait till then.Better be special and virgin to a person u ll lead ur life......be happy..
2007-01-23 01:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 14. You shouldn't even be thinking about relationships yet. Go do your homework and get smart. Boys like intelligent girls who can make intelligent decisions.
2007-01-23 01:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he called u slow coz ur are not matured yet dear.. plus hes 18teen ,&he needs a gurl who can have a common way of thinkin as his...
it might be coz u actin like kids..(well u are actually)...so thts what make him feels tht way..
i suggest becareful in ur r.ship...just don simple GIVE IT!....coz once ull regret for it..
g.L
2007-01-23 01:28:47 · answer #8 · answered by young wifey~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your too young to be serious.
2007-01-23 01:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by gorjis gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋