'They' all say that when you have a baby, even if you never wanted one, that your opinion changes and that your kid becomes the best thing in your life and you don't miss the great life you had when you were childfree. Are they right or wrong?
2007-01-23 01:08:56 · 11 answers · asked by SmartBlonde 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
"They" should realize that everyone is different and every pregnancy is different. For me, I never wanted kids but as soon as I knew I was pg, I knew I would love my child and she would be the best thing that ever happened to me. That doesn't happen to everyone though and for some women, they have post partem depression that doesn't allow them to feel that connection to the baby. There are plenty of options out there for parents that find they don't want their child. I do miss some of the carefree parts of my life before my daughter but I wouldn't trade them for anything that would take her away from me. Just remember that no one is exactly the same. It's not wrong to not feel a connection to the child and it's not wrong to miss the carefree way of life that we had before children came into the picture.
2007-01-23 01:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by poppywest1223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a child when I was 15 and another when I was 18. I am now nearing 30 with 2 boys. I love my life, it's great. I would not change it for the world. My advice would be if you have the choice wait.... If you don't have a choice and you are already in the situation I think you are. It is not the end of the world. I hold down a full time job, and am a full time single mother to 2 adorable boys. I own a car and have my own mortgage. It is hard work, but every time I get down in the dumps I just have to look at the faces of my sons and realise the gift of life I have in them. You don't have to stop living but you will at times feel suffocated. Maybe want to rebel... I had my fair share of wanting my teenage years back. I had very little input from the father. not the best way to start life at 15 but I damn well made the most of it. Everybody has choices in life, whatever choice you make just make sure you hold your head up high and never give up. Life will always be a battle and there will always be people ready to judge you whatever you do. You don't have to be a statistic. Good luck
2016-05-24 00:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are a bit of both, right and wrong.
My son was unplanned, not unwanted but I can quite honestly say I wouldn't change a thing! I was 21 when we had our son, a bit younger than we had planned and we did have to change our lifestyles pretty drastically. No more spur of the moment things and mad nights out.
Its true there are things I miss, like working and going out with my colleuges for drinks, I miss not just being able to sit at 6pm on a Sat evening and think 'Stuff it lets go out'. I do still go out, just has to be planned a bit further ahead!
So to answer your question, there are aspects of my pre baby life that I do miss but I wouldn't change the way things have happened for anythig!
2007-01-23 01:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first kid when i was 15....the dad left and didnt pay no mind to my kid.I knew i was way to young to have a kid but i wasnt about to have an abortion.Mind you i didnt get pregnant on purpose.I was on birth controol when i got pregnant.So it was all stressfull to me.But i knew what i had to do.I love my daughter and from day one i worked a full time job to take care of her.6 yrs later i had a son with a guy i was ina 5 yr relationship with....well he recently left and my son is 2.So now im a single mother twice.There were so manty times that i just sat and cried cuz my plans were not to be a single mother.But i love my kids and wether a mans in or out of my life i have to do what i have to do to keep my kids happy and well taken care of.So yes sometimes you wish you could go back but once you look at your beautiful baby smiling at you ......the feelings change.
2007-01-23 01:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was 15 when i gave birth to my first son and there were definitly times that i wanted to go back to being a teen, when i was working 2 full time jobs and going to school of course i missed the "fun" life, but i loved being a mother and i wouldnt change that for anything, i now have a handsome almost 7 year old son :), im married to a wonderful man that has been dad for 5 years, i became a step mother of 2 little boys and i had my second son 4 years ago, Im expecting my third in may. Things are wonderful for me and now i look back and see how my life was changed by having my son and i dont miss it one bit. Im a mom and i love that
2007-01-23 01:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
ok, im a guy, but i was a unwanted child from conception, i was one of 14 children, only two of my brothers and sisters had the same father, was adopted out at 5 years old, and was abused and wound up in a orphanage by age 11 untill i was 17, before being reunited with my birth mother where i only stayed a short time before joining the service, my point is, its a very drama filled life for a unwanted child, i often think this world would be a better place if my mother had a abortion.
2007-01-23 01:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by Dean A 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
They are right~ It changes every last selfish thought you ever imagined having. Life becomes about THAT baby and the funny thing is that YOU DON"T MIND!
2007-01-23 01:41:39 · answer #7 · answered by dbzgalaxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are hard times, and fun times. you cant just generalise like that. children can be a handful- correction, they ARE a handful. a child could ruin your life or make it meaningful, depending on the person you are. but generally, after your child is older, you can sit back and say "that is the best thing that has every happened to me".
2007-01-23 01:16:37 · answer #8 · answered by chatterbox15 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know two females who were questioning the thought and had a child. Now they cannot live without their children and love them dearly.
2007-01-23 01:31:54 · answer #9 · answered by shashana2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I came into this question out of nosiness. Just to see if anybody really answered honestly instead of the 'earth mother' answer....... :o))
2007-01-23 01:24:53 · answer #10 · answered by Janbull 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋