I am 20years old,doing engineering..i had found the love of my life last year..V both love each oher.But as usual,there is a big problem in my love story also.He is 10yrs older than me,working in a good firm.His family is forcing him to get marry now.but,i cant marry for more 4-5 yrs.no one knows about our relation in both the families.what should i do??i cannot live without him.i told him to get maried with the girl his family will choose for him.he dont want to mess up my life.thats why,will get maried this year.He havent choised a girl yet.but.V are still in contact.we are not able to part.what should i do??i cant forget him..plz help..
2007-01-23 00:32:01 · 17 answers · asked by ruprekhawati 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel sorry for you my friend.
Remember..everything in life is associated with a price... price in terms of sacrificing a few things/relations/opportunities to avail a few.
If you both are ready to pay the price then go ahead and marry.
If not then move ahead. forgive and forget. but what you are doing right now is cribbing.. which has no end. It just keeps you in an illusion that you can't live without him but actually it's not.
There is no such thing as 'love of my life' love itself is life and as long as u continue to live you will continue to love. People falls in love many more time in their life and feel the same strong intensity every time.
Further more, Love is about giving away, Possessiveness is about getting it. It may sound strange but most of the people don't understand that love and marriage are two different things .. marriage will lead to love but nowhere it is mandatory that love should end in marriage.
2007-01-23 01:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r in a tight corner dear!Its really tough for u.If ur man also has the feelings for u, then why doesnt he wait?If u dream of having a future together then once u hav 2 say this to ur families right?Then why not now?At least he can say this to his parents!If he cannot gain the guts then how ud he ever marry u?Just think...u luv him a lot, no doubt but is he the same man whom u had given ur heart?Dnt u think he has changed?Or why on earth ud he agree to marry someone else?He ud ruin his urs as well as his wife's life by doing that!
2007-01-23 00:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by moon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiiii......i think u are messing up urself! age is not the actual problem,its very clear that u love him very much......but does he love u with same intensity .....i doubt!i wonder why he hasn't discussed with his family yet when he is set to get married?if he loved u soo much then why he isn't taking any step to preserve ur relationship!just talking with u and on other hand getting ready for marriage does not makes him a wise man!he will be okay...but ur actually getting emotionally eroded!and if he is confused then he's messing with 3 lives!it may be hard time 4 u!but don't spoil ur whole life with a load on heart..........either u discuss this issue again and compell him to take step or simply let go!its better to be late than never!take control of ur life!its urs!
2007-01-23 01:03:58 · answer #3 · answered by beautifulsoul 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why cant you get married for 4-5 years? Girl go for it. if you both love each other then be together. Your both adults and there should be no reason if you love each other to not be together. Depending on where your from also, no one can force you to marry. But then again I don't know where your from.
I say be with him. And love your life. It is better to be happy then never know what could happen.
GL. Be true to yourself.
Blaze
2007-01-23 00:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is English your 2nd language? If it is, you're doing good. Anyway, marriage is such a serious step that shouldn't be entered into as lightly as you're writing about. You sound way too confused to be thinking about marriage at the time to anyone. I'm glad you wrote about waiting for 4 or 5 years. That sounds like the thing you should do.
2007-01-23 00:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What about talking to the families and seeing what they think...If you to really do love each other then it should work in the end. And age is really not a problem. But seriouly try sitting down you and him and both families and explain the sitition and see if you all cant work out a compromise. I hope everything works out
2007-01-23 00:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by angelsweet774 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally this age difference is not vary good, but there is a solution, get engaged, I would normally say finish engineering and let him go, which he does not want any way.
See what happens.
If he gets engaged family will not force him and you will be able to complete the education.
2007-01-23 00:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't live without him, you better catch him before he runs away. Make his family pick you to be his wife. You would do anything for love wouldnt you? You sound like a wonderful woman, and I'm sure his family would love you. Who wouldn't?
2007-01-23 00:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear it is not good 2 thik like that.u both bear with yr families. see love is not2 make others sad but it is 2 do all sorts of good things for others.don't think about only d physicalattraction but love him with d soul.
2007-01-23 17:17:25 · answer #9 · answered by naresh p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope your engineering skills are better than your english. He's playing games, it is not the 15th century anymore and people marry who they want nowadays. If he really wants you, he'll be there but again, sounds to me like he is playing games.
2007-01-23 00:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by spedtrap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋