i'm seeing a very nice woman now that doesn't want kids and i grew up in a houshold with a mom that tells me i'm going to have kids someday....i personally don't care if i have kids or not because there is always good with bad in having kids just as much as there is good and bad in not having kids....so the question is, is it better to have kids or not have kids....meaning should i dump my girl and find another that wants kids to satisfy my mom or stay with this girl i care for a lot and disappoint my mom that was assuming her whole life that i'm going to have kids?
2007-01-23 00:20:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should listen to your mom and your instinct.
You should listen to yor mom cos she has good intentions for you.
You should listen to your innervoice cos it will come to haunt you in future.
My advise is for you to have kids. They will be all you will live for when you are successful and aged.
2007-01-23 00:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st and famost you shouldn't be worrying about having kids until you get married. But of couse that should be discussed with the person you will be marrying. If she doesn't want to have kids now but maybe sometime in the future then that's coo. But if she doesn't want kids period, and one day you might want kids then eventually there will be a problem if she doesn't change her mind. Don't do something based on what your mom want b/c it seems as if your mom is going to try to assume the role of a parent and not let you be the parent.
2007-01-23 08:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never have children to please someone else, that should be your first consideration. Children are a lifetime commitment that are not something you can just get rid of if you change your mind later. Second, you should do what is in your heart, if you know you will want children some day, you need to discuss that with your girl. If she says no, no, never, then you may want to think long and hard if you think you might want them. If you are 100% sure you do not want them, then you need to let mom know that "you" do not want them, it has nothing to do with your girl, it is you. Don't put that off on your girlfriend, be big enough to tell your mom that you have no desire to have children.
2007-01-23 08:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are, and things that are of no importance right now could turn about and become important in time.
I think if your young just go out have fun, as for having children to please anyone , no that's not the way to go, and children do grow up leave you, so more important that you find a partner who you truly love and share a lot in common.,
2007-01-23 08:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by LMH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi,
it depends on you. if you want kids then fine if you don't then fine.your mom will be hurt if you don't but she will in time get use to the idea. and who knows maybe your girl just doesn't want kids right now she might change her mind in the future. it comes down to the two of you.your chose not you moms. just don't stress let things lie and see where they take you.
2007-01-23 08:36:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should decide for yourself whether are not you want to have children. If you decide you don't want children, then your mom should realize that this is your decision alone and get over it.
2007-01-23 08:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by GENE D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋