I'm kinda enduring an awkward situation at work. One of my closest guy friends works at the same place as I do and I began to develop feelings for him though he has a gf. I told him I liked him and I felt it was best that we ignore each other for awhile so I can get over him. Anyway he asked me if I wanted to hook up with him, i said i did, but then he said i should do it with another guy I like. Anyway during all of this, I got mad at him for jerking my feelings around and I ended up calling him a dog, but then I apologized. The thing is I said all of this via text. The next day I wrote him a letter saying how sorry I was for how I acted, and that it was better that we treat each other as professionals since he has a gf and I need to move on. The thing is that he ignored me. So far, we've been ignoring each other for the past 3 weeks and now it is awkward and i miss talking to him sometimes. Whenever we pass each other it is awkward. What should I do?
2007-01-23 00:10:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you want to have sex with a guy you know has a girlfriend?
If you got some values, morals, self-respect, and decency, you wouldn't BE in this 'complicated situation.' (It's not complicated - you went up to him like a dog in heat, letting it be known you don't respect relationships and he, rightly grossed out, sent you on your way.)
Yes, keep ignoring him, and start acting like a professional.
Then, get counseling to understand why you are trashing your own life like this and why you'd be so willing to trash other people's lives for a momentary ***.
2007-01-23 00:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made a mess here. You have crossed the bounds of friendship when you told him you liked him. You should not be texting someone at work your feelings etc. This should be done face to face, this includes apology etc.
It is easier to write things on a blank screen then face someone. I think you acted in haste and now have created an awkward silence.
You are to blame here and you need to correct the situation.
Do not text him an apology, go and see him and tell him and apologize. Shake hands be friends be pleasant and say hello. That is it.
Work and play do not mix first of all.
A man who has a gf.. why would you want to cause trouble, get involved and reek havoc for this guy who is working...
There are enough stresses in life without worrying about dealing with someone at work.
You need to hold onto your impulses, mature a bit and quit quit barking up trees that are off limits.
It makes you look desperate, and the rude and cruel remarks made you sound like an immature spoiled little biotch.
Why would he want to have a friendship with you??? I can't think of one reason. You don't respect his relationship, and you became enraged when he didn't come sniffin around you like a dog in heat. ..
You have cheapened your image and I would be very careful not to let your emotions get away with you.
Look for a guy that doesn't work anywhere near you......
2007-01-23 00:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want him even though he has a gf--and yet HE is the dog and in the wrong! YOU suggest you 2 ignore each other for a bit first--now that he's doing it HE'S the dog! What is with you women?? You wig out on him and send all these psycho texts and a letter (that btw his girlfriend could find-NEVER write anything down) and you feel wronged? He may have been your friend, but you have treated him like anything but a friend. He now knows you are NOT the girl he would wanna hookup with for sure! In the future step back and see the big picture and how YOU fit into it.
2007-01-23 00:18:38 · answer #3 · answered by D4gotten1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you asked for it. Your should have respect the his relationship, since you knew he has a gf and all. I say is a good thing that guys are away from each other, because it doesn't seems to me that he is leaving his girl any time soon, specially for you. I would not talk to him if I was you because he will go back to his jerk mood, and now with a even bigger head thinking that you are press for him. if you like some one else besides him go out with that other guy. I would try to avoid the boy with the gf and if its a must you guys have to be in the same room and have to talk, then talk to him as if you would to a stranger. Is not good that you started talking to him at work, chances are that your both are in the mouth of every co-worker, wondering why are you guy s now acting so weird. Try to play it cool and just talk to him when necessary for business matters, consider that friend a goner.
2007-01-23 00:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jeenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should allow this situation to be a life lesson for you and be thankful that his girlfriend didn't find out. The tension will soon be tolerated after awhile and you will be able to go on with your job the way that your employer would probably be thankful for. Next time if I where you, I hold out for a guy that is worthy of my time not someone who desires to take my heart and play with it like that and his girl's for that matter. You know that on the job romances are not always the best especially when others are involved. Be patient and I'm sure the right guy for you will come along.
2007-01-23 00:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's not really nice when you find out your close friend only likes you because they want your butt. By the way you've worded things it sounds like you've well and truly killed it - you asked to be ignored and he's doing exactly that.
You could try leaving a short, concise note on his desk saying you're sorry and you would like to take him out for coffee. But for god's sake, don't mention anything more about liking him ever again.
2007-01-23 00:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should accept what you asked for. You told him to stay away until you get over him and that is what he is doing. Moreover it is good for the both of you. You should also finish waht you begun . You are the one who begun to express your feelings. i am totally in agreement of that. But it also up to you to kill those feelings from your system. I would also advise you to go out with someone you really like who is not your best friend or your workmate
2007-01-23 00:22:03 · answer #7 · answered by cynnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You can't unring a bell. You've already shown your true colors via that text. That's probably how he'll sum you up from now on. You're right, just be "professional" and leave it at that.
2007-01-23 00:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is just give it time to die down and be forgotten.
Just leave him alone for a while & when he is ready he will talk to you again.
He has a girlfriend so you will have to just accept that you can only be friends with him.
2007-01-23 00:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get very drunk... tomorrow is a new day!
and he sounds like an a$$hole.
he deliberatly jerked your feelings around just to see what reaction he would get. you shouldnt have appolagised though as thats what he wanted..
good luck :)
2007-01-23 00:14:52 · answer #10 · answered by naph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋