He would occasionally whine, no biggie...we would address it and it would be over. Now it seems he whines ALOT. Is this an age thing? Do some 8 yr old boys go through this? It seems to be fueled by his frustration whenever there is something he can't do or something doesn't go right. Whenever this is the case I try to help him think through whatever the problem is rather than doing it for him.
I make him stop right then & there what he's doing. I draw his attention to his whining and ask if that really helps anything. He says no and then he stops. It's gotten to the point that I've told him I'm going to have to punish him for it if he doesn't stop. Any suggestions?
2007-01-23 00:05:34 · 9 answers · asked by milldan65 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
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2007-01-24 02:42:07 · update #1
I would say it's a phase. My 7 year old is doing the same thing right now and he's not really a big whiner, but it's getting worse. I think some of it is what he sees other kids at school get away with and the results. So, the in turn want to try it out at home and see how far they get with it.
I just told my boy that whining won't fix it, it won't get it done any faster, and it's not going to help his situation if it continues.
They're just testing the waters, that's all.
Keep your patience and let them know that it isn't working in their favor and don't give in to it.
2007-01-23 00:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably just a phase. He's getting to an age where he feels more emotions but doesn't really know how to deal with it. My son went through the same thing. Why are you punishing him for having emotions? I would figure that would make him whine more. I would talk to him and see what the problem really is. There could be trouble at school or somewhere else. You punishing him only makes it worse. He's going to feel as though he can't come to you, you should always be on his side, you're his mohter!
2007-01-23 08:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OHHHH yeah! Normal and wicked annoying! My 5 year old tells the older one he is a whiney baby! I always just tell him that he will never get what he wants like that and nobody else will get into trouble. I say punish him. But if that just makes him whine more then I would pretend he wasn't even in the room, don't look at him talk to him or anything. Tell him you can only hear nice kids.
2007-01-23 02:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by MmEe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like an age thing. he's a pre-teen. he's beginning to throw out the idea that his mom knows it all, and so he's beginning to assert his independence, and feeling frustrated that you don't see things his way. my mom always said there's only one thing that works when a kid is whining. *i-g-n-o-r-e*. when ur drawing his attention to his whining, ur still giving him attention, even though it's negative, and at that age, they'll take it where they can get it. if u ignore his whining, he's got no reward for his effort. it's like any other bad action, like teasing or tantrums. if they don't have an audience, the fun goes away. As long as his whining is just that, whining, and not him lashing out and hurting himself or others, just ignore him. after a few minutes ,he'll c it's no fun whining to a brick wall. if ur in a store, just keep doing ur shopping, as though he's not there. he'll realize how ridiculous he looks,esp. since ur not giving into what he wants. Good luck!
2007-01-23 00:17:33 · answer #4 · answered by kelleygaither2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 20:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by livesay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL YAH!!! this is a total phase it is completely normal it will last about 1-2 years sometimes more or less but will increase and decrease. but dont be worried. its an age thing. ALL 8yr olds do this. well try whining back to him over his voice level, if he wants to do something whine really loadly I DONT WANT TO NONONONONON noooo nonono and he ll find it annoying and then you tell him thats exactly what you do and he ll be too embarrased to do it any more
2007-01-23 01:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by abby_borg 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My eight year old does the same thing. I have taken his Game Boy way and that has not helped. Now his younger brothers are doing it as well. I do think that it is just part of growing up, they are in that in between stage and that is how they deal with it. We talk about it but it does not help and neither has taken away his Game Boy.
2007-01-23 00:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by applecrisp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is frustration and a hesitancy to ask for help. Kids believe that they will seem stupid if they ask for help and will avoid it. But they will find a way to communicate it, hence, the whining. Let him know that smart kids know when they need help and ask for it - that is how they become smart. When he begins to whine, acknowledge that he needs help but get him to use words to express it. After a while, ignore the whining completely and allow him to remind himself to use words.
2007-01-23 00:40:27 · answer #8 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nope. id didn't when i was eight. talk to someone about it.
2007-01-23 00:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by curt w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋