My brother is getting married in June and i'm really really happy for him. I mean he thought he would never find love(Just like I do right now.)but anyways, that's besides the point. They already bought a town house and are moving away from us in an area that's about 30minutes away...and that's fine and dandy, i mean it's going to be different without him around the house but the thing is they said that in about a year they are going to probebly move to California(5-6states away from where I live) That got me really upset. So now he's working full time so they can offord the place and he has no time for me anymore. I feel so selfish for being all sad bout this. I'm not telling him because I am embarrased with this selfishness I have. I'm really close to my brother. Me and him would watch movies, talk,ect. And now it's like ZIP. It's really really hurting me inside and I have no idea what to do. Can anyone help me not be so selfish and idiotic? Please.
2007-01-22 23:47:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You will still be living in the same country as your bro. He has not died or moved to Timbuktu. Be grateful that you have had all this time with him, but sweetie, it's time he moved on to other things in his life that you can't completely share with him. He is not cutting you out of his life but he has to do what he has to do. You will move on too and find other relationships that will not be the same as with your bro but will have meaning in your life and that will teach you the things you need to know and grow. It's time to find yourself and learn what other things will fulfil you in your life. Get involved with stuff in your community. Volunteer at an orphanage, humane society, red cross, there are loads of things that you can do to fill your time. Are you into sports, theatre? Join some clubs and meet new friends. Think on this new future as a time of discovery for you. Go and live your life!!
2007-01-28 14:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by sinned 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is still walking the earth with you right? He can be reached by phone, computer, anyway your little heart desires. The real sad thing about life is that nothing stays the same and a many a person has problems with the fact that nothing stays the same, you will find love, you will move on, no you are not selfish or an idiot, you are a person, a sister who loves her brother and you still have your brother, but just not under your watchful eye, but you know what he will be alright and you will too, you are a good sister and I am sure your brother feels the same, but like him, you have to be strong for the both of you, watch, this will make the two of you even closer. God Bless.
2007-01-29 20:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being selfish. Your growing up and want to hold on to the special bond you have with your brother. That would be considered normal. Talk to your brother and tell him that you miss those times together and make a "date" with him. Try to carve out some time once or twice a month when it's just the two of you...
2007-01-23 01:19:53 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah to be human and feel all the things that really hurt. Well sweetie, I send you a lots of hugs. It's normal to feel this way. Change is not easy for most people. But try to look at it this way, your relationship is going to change anyway, now you have two people instead of one to relate with, he has a whole new lifestyle that he can share with you and you can learn from. You can love him the same and as much. You just need to tell him how you feel. He'll probably understand when you tell him "that missing him hurts." Big Hug!
2007-01-22 23:59:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not selfish. You miss the closeness you once had. Have you told him you miss being around him? Let him know. Maybe you all could get together once a week for a movie or just messing around. It might be nice to include his wife, too, since they are now partners. But do talk to him. You're ok, you're not bad.
2007-01-22 23:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by Scoots 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-12 18:21:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being selfish you just miss the time that you had with your brother. But he has taken a wife now and he has to provide for his family. It is not like he has forgotten about you he has just started this new life. Give him time to get things situated and ask if you could spend some time with him and involve his wife so that you can get to know her as well.
Good Luck
2007-01-30 01:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by luscious0071 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel happy your brother has found peace love and happiness. His feelings for you will not change because of the distance unless you change something about your relationship. Welcome his wife as your sister, keep in touch with them both. If you see they have a wonderful relationship, look for the same yourself. I am sure your brother will be overjoyed if you find what he has found.
2007-01-29 20:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down, you're nor selfish, since you're happy for your brother. I inderstand you miss him, but this is part of life, right? But you didn't lose him, he has his wife but youi can keep in touch, he'll always be your brother and your friend.
2007-01-23 00:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by Steiner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your brother how you feel. He may not realize how much you miss him. I don't think you are selfish, I just think that you love and miss your brother.
2007-01-30 06:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by humbleone02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋