my daughter has always been very independant, not wanting a lot of cuddling etc. but all of a sudden she is whining and crying and saying ' mama as soon as i leave the room or am out of her sight. She is making stange with people that she knows as well, only wanting mommy. my husband even said that while i was at work yesterday she stood by the door crying for me almost all day. Anyone have any idea as to why she would suddenly be acting this way?
2007-01-22 23:44:24 · 9 answers · asked by laineyhaz0101 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
no there is no chance she is being molested. my husband stays home with her during the day while i work, then when i come home, my husband goes to work. She is home only with us. No one else.
Also, Me going to work is not a new thing for her. I have been back to work for 10 months now. and this just started last week....
2007-01-22 23:53:00 · update #1
kids sometimes favor one parent for the other and right now she is favoring you. my son is 25 months old and only wants me he follows me around everywhere, he constantly hugs and kisses me and cries when I go to the bathroom it is very annoying but I'm trying to look at it this way there is going to come a time when he's not gonna want me around so I'm going to try to enjoy it which if you think about it getting all those hugs and kisses isn't so bad. I'm with my son 24/7 and he behaves the same way maybe worse so I wouldn't think that something bad is going on you know your husband I hate it when people say terrible things.
2007-01-23 00:24:23 · answer #1 · answered by fluttergirl2004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is going through seperation anxiety and I would not classify it as normal. Her symptoms are normal for seperation anxiety but the point is WHY is she having seperation anxiety in the first place? It could be nothing serious. She could just be maturing to the point that she has suddenly realized that you go somewhere all day without her and she does not like that. Maybe she never really understood that fact before. It could be something as simple as that.
More likely something has happened or is happening in her little world that is causing her anxiety. She is regressing to a behavior that she should have outgrown.
The idea that she is being molested would not be my first one but it should be considered. More likely it is just something going on that she does not like. The way you handle this obviously depends on what arrangements you have made for her while you are gone and how often you are gone. It is possible that you will need to change her situation. It sounds like her daddy is the one that cares for her during the day and if that is the case maybe it is something that daddy is doing that is making her upset. Does he try to do things in the same way that you do so that her life is fairly consistant? Is he good with her? Does he punish her for things that you would not? Does he have a lot of patience? Some men make excellent "Mom's" and others are just awful at it! Talk to him if you can without making him defensive. I am sure he loves your little girl too and would like to see her happy again.
I know that if you have to work it is not something you can just stop doing. If possible I would try to work less hours, increase the amount of time that you are the one watching her.
Pay attention! Something may be happening to her.....maybe a check up with her pediatrician would be a good idea. Sometimes kids will open up better for someone other than their mother. Let the doctor talk to her while you are not there, or while you are sitting near by and not seeming to pay attention. She may not want to talk in front of you!
Whatever you do, do not ignore this. It is a sign and she is counting on you to pick up on it. At this age children often cannot come right out with what is going on. Please pay attention to what may very well be her first cry for help. You may have to do some detective work! If she was only unhappy for a short time I would be less concerned but you say she cried for you almost all day. That is very clearly cause for immediate concern!
Before you decide that it is" just nothing", please be sure that you have done your job.
Good luck dear.
Blessings
Lady Trinity~
2007-01-23 08:16:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Trinity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why it is a sudden thing, but I know what you are talking about. My daughter has been going to the same sitter since 8 months (she is now almost 2 1/2 yrs), and all of a sudden one day she had a fit when I left. It had never happened before, she was always a happy-go-lucky person around others, and had no problem with anyone. Just one day she was clingy like that, and it wasn't when she was younger, it has happened more as she's gotten older. Same with daycare. Occasionally when my sitter isn't available, I'll take my daughter to daycare. She was pretty good about it at first, she'd go as long as one of the girls took her and paid attention to her for a while. But lately, it's been a totally different story. She throws almost a fit when I try to take her, and clings to me like you wouldn't believe, but she is perfectly fine the rest of the day and happier than you can even imagine when I come to pick her up. They say she is wonderful all day long, it's just that dropping her off all of a sudden has become a nightmare. I'll see her interacting with one of the workers when I pick her up, but the next morning she'll want nothing to do with them at first.
So like I said, I have no idea why they do this suddenly, but apparently you and I are not alone!
2007-01-23 09:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separation anxiety. It's normal. Once she gets used to you going away but always coming back, she will settle down, I promise. This is a tough stage for babies and Mommies because you are at work all day thinking of your child missing you and wanting you. It has been the toughest stage I have been through yet.
2007-01-23 07:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by kelly24592 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something had to have scared her, maybe a tv show or movie or loud noise, take her to each room and see if she can show you what is going on. Children don't switch up for no reason at all. To be on the safe side maybe take her to the doctor to rule out any medical problems.
2007-01-23 08:36:55 · answer #5 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seperation issues, a lot of kids will do this. Could she be cutting some teeth?
Don't worry it happens, she will get over it, I know it can be a confusing time for everyone. Have a picture of you where she can see it and have daddy tell her that Mom will be home soon.
2007-01-23 07:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by dragonlady 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is just a stage trust me I have a 2 year old boy and just when you think it will never end and as quickly as it began it will be over!! I believe my sons lasted 3 months maybe?!! Just tell your husband to hang in there it will end eventually!!
2007-01-23 07:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I really hate to say this but could there be a chance she is being molested by someone? Sorry but ,,never rule that out & trust no one.
2007-01-23 07:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Seperation Anxiety. It is totally normal. Do not fret and stick to your guns when its time to leave her. In time this too shall pass
2007-01-24 00:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋