I was in a long distance relationship & she who would repeatedly tell me that she loved me madly and was totally commited. We discussed marriage. We talked for hours a day despite the distance. She would be very uncomfortable with me going out on weekends. So I would stay in and talk to her. However when I would call her in her time zone during her weekend nights sometimes she wouldnt answer. After this happened for the 7th time I wouldnt let it go until she told me the truth. It took two months of me pressurizing her but she finally told me that she used to go clubbing with her ex bf. Also she dated men off an internet dating service. She admitted to sleeping with atleast 3 men including her ex bf. I dont knw but there may be others. During those 18 mos we met up around 5 times.She used to portray herself as an angel who could never look at another man. She says this happened bcause of the distance she wants to move in with me in my city or I with her. Will she cheat again?
2007-01-22 23:15:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A cheater will always be a cheater
2007-01-22 23:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by nanoosha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she's seriously lacking in self-esteem, self-confidence and self-restraint! Due to a severe case of insecurity, she seeks reassurance in the form of attention/sex/"love" from many men. Distance and loneliness is not her problem, so you two living in the same location will not drastically improve her behavior.
What she is offering you is a chance to dote on her, love her, be faithful to her and to be used for all of these things and abused by her need to seek these same types of fulfillment from other men as well.
If you're a man who knows what it means to committ (on any level B/F, Husband, whatever) to a woman, then do yourself a favor, meet a nice woman who can do the same at home. You'll save yourself the expense - monetary and emotional - of a move to a new city.
2007-01-22 23:25:39 · answer #2 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alrighty boy. here goes.
if you still love (like) her, by all means go ahead and start a fresh.
But let me tell you, it will NEVER EVER be the same anymore.
What I suggest is, you can accept her back. But DO NOT be too commited. I mean, hey, who knows she might cheat on you again. reality is such a *****, I know. But you gonna know how to let go. By not being too commited, if she ever cheats on you again, at least you won't be too hurt as she had done it before. What I mean by commited is, never love her too much. Or rather, don't let yourself fell hard in love with her again. Show her who's the man.
2007-01-22 23:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by kampung_minyak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey men be careful, reconsider your decition,girls will always be girls,you might not know the next person you'll be jumping to.
probably she might even be worse.
streach her a bit n take her back , I know is not easy but try if u really love her
Am telling u this cos I've been there
After aways keep talking to her
Good luck
2007-01-22 23:34:17 · answer #4 · answered by awana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Distance had nothing to do with it--at least the distance between the two of you, that is. The distance between what she says she is and what she actually is, of course has everything to do with it. Of course she'll cheat again. She may actually believe it when she says she won't--but she will.
2007-01-23 10:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont dig your own grave bro, I repeat ,do not dig your own grave. Leave her, a cheating woman is as deadly as a snake in the grass, she is not the one for you. unless if you also secretly cheated then you may forgive her coz you also be guilty. But sleeping wiht three guys is jus too much, if she had jus slept with one (maybe the ex only) then you could forgive her, but THREE?, sorry bro but distance or not she is a S.L.U.T, sorry but its the truth, imagine all she did with those three, sucking their cocks probably they came in her mouth as well
2007-01-22 23:33:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships never work in my exp. people need sex, even "angelic" women need to get ****** on some kind of basis...
If she comes back just treat her like an f-buddy or something, but whatever you do, get over her. She's definately not marriage material!
2007-01-22 23:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually have a feeling she is straightforward in her feeling via actuality of DISTANCE...... no longer some thing can impression kinfolk individuals more advantageous than being remote from one yet another, yet we received't make a familiar Rule out of this remark; i.e., the gap challenge... human beings might want to fluctuate from one to the different, and to undergo & face up to seductive nature of human beings incorporating both distance and the absense of one's different 1/2 is a relative challenge right here. I merely am somewhat hesitant via incontrovertible actuality that she had considered 3 adult males...that is somewhat bewildering...except her ex bf does have a lady in his existence, and can want to no longer be consisting of your gf in any respect cases..., that's the in user-friendly words logical rationalization why she resorted to others... In all circumstances, what she had chanced on as a non everlasting answer become as a lot as now some adult males over the internet, and that i imagine this noted as for some guts to do, and if i become to locate justification for her, i might want to say she meant as a lot as now someone who she not in any respect widely used earlier merely to locate an basic way out once issues bypass decrease back to widely used... If I were on your shoes, i might want to ask her instantly even if it is going to be A straightforward RELATION any further in case you recognize you actually LOVE HER... you may examine her eyes and coronary heart on the spot, yet she needs to do not ignore that divorse is what is going to be observing for her in case insinserity become traced at any aspect of time.... you want to take a company decision right here my chum, because you want no longer to stay in a international of doubt...that is a KILLER.... All you want to do is to take a accountable decision, and act for this reason...yet i will not allow you to recognize if she is gonna cheat lower back... this can fullyyt matter upon YOU AND in user-friendly words YOU in all words & by technique of all ability... you may change stone into water with love...I mean authentic love in both body & Soul... undergo that in innovations. strong success
2016-12-02 22:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by anuj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must go with your feelings on this one. Of course there is a chance she will cheat again, however, there is a chance that she is being sincere. So, you must examine yourself, your heart. And do what you think is best. Good luck to you and God bless****
2007-01-22 23:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if she will or not. but if you truely love someone you shoyuld give them another chance..
Take it from someone who just had that done to her.. can relate..well yeah thats i feel.
but if you don't truely care and want to spend the rest of your life with this girl then i don't think you should.
Chelsea-
2007-01-22 23:21:11 · answer #10 · answered by *Chelsea* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man i suggest u not 2 go for it! now-a-days girls chea A LOT! b4 it was d guys..its now d girls..if she really loved u or watever it was she would have done sumthin like this..i feel she is tryin on u again.DONT
2007-01-22 23:20:45 · answer #11 · answered by Iya g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋