Recently a guy who I know for years (but just as an acquaintance) came up to me and started telling me compliments and that he really wished for both of us to get to know each other better. I said "yes" because I thought that we could hang out with him and his wife and other mutual friends. The next day he called me (he didn't know my number, so he must have asked some of my other friends for them to give him my number) and asked me to come and have coffee with JUST HIM! I was a bit taken aback and said I would have coffee with him next week. Now I hope that he really wants friendship and nothing else (because he is a Christian and I don't think he wishes to cheat on his wife), but once I had a friendship with a guy and it turned out that he fancied me, so now i am a bit cautious with "friendship" between males and females because I just don't believe in it. So what should I do?
2007-01-22 22:48:36 · 27 answers · asked by LadyLike 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've gotta be careful, maybe he is just lonely and wants a friend, but it sounds like he wants more than that. Go along and have a laugh, you don't bring it up, wait for him to. If he does you'll know he wants more because if he didn't want more, why would he bring it up?
2007-01-23 00:24:34 · answer #1 · answered by T M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to bring his wife with next time and see what happens! OR Call his wife and say you know (husbands name) invited me for coffee and I would really like to hang out with the two of you because I feel so awkward if it were just me and him. This gives the wife a heads up and she can put him in check plus the husband will know the wife knows about you two so it will curb him from doing anything distasteful or at least force him to look elsewhere. Remember, us girls have to stick together and keep these blokes in check!
2007-01-23 07:02:16 · answer #2 · answered by amyth74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to be cautious he is a man regardless of his religion! Make sure if you have ny contact with him you never hide it from your partner (if you have one) and if you suspect him to want more than friendship cut your contact with him. Try and suggest involving his wife in activities and see what he says, if he doesnt seem interested in that then he wants more from you. Don't go there, he is married and you will always look like a trollop and a home wrecker! xx
2007-01-23 06:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by Banny Grasher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, you should not go. Deep down inside you know you should not be the one to come between Husband and Wife. As they say it will only end in tears. Yes men and women can be friends only, but usually their partners know right from the start. It has already beeen sujested that you meet on your own. Oh!..No.No.
2007-01-23 07:33:27 · answer #4 · answered by JoJo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole idea of him wanting to have coffee with ‘just him’ bothers me. Next time he asks, tell him to bring his wife. I’m also concerned about how hw sees you as a person. Does he think you are the kind of girl to have flings with
2007-01-23 07:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by blondedarkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have coffee and ask him outright. Nothing wrong with having friends of opposite sex. I have 2 very good male friends. My partner gets on well with them too. I often go out with one or both of them; never a problem.
2007-01-23 06:59:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ilkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go have coffee with his wife he's after sex the friendship bit is just a front tell him to rack off.
2007-01-23 06:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by flossypants 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a marreid man .If his wife found you having coffee she might have a wrong impression.Dont ruin your reputation.Only have coffee with him when the wife is present.Unless you want to be the other woman in his life.Be proud and find your own man.
2007-01-23 07:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by jus-tus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know u are interested to be friend to the family and not ot him alone. Ive got friends who are married and are christians, but just because Im not married they are trying to get down with me. So hey it happens
2007-01-23 07:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to talk to his wife. The wife is supposed to be his best friend. If his relationship with his wife is in trouble, you take the risk of being painted as the home wrecker. Not a nice situation to be in.
2007-01-23 06:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by Michael T 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋