Hello,
I've been engaged to this girl from about 6 months now and I recently went on a holiday to see my family who live on the other side of the country. Since returning I have realised that it's where I need to be right now so I have decided to move there. My current partner whom I am engaged to does not like the idea of moving and she said she would but I think she would be misserable if I made her go. On the other hand there is this other lovely young lady whom I know that wants to go with me and would love the opportunity. ( I'm not cheating with this other girl, I've been friends with her for a long long time.. happened to mention I was moving and my mrs doesnt want to go so she said she would love to go ).. Anyway I've been fighting a lot, and I mean a lot with my current partner lately and every time I see this other girl, she knows how to treat me right.. What do I do? Do I stay with my partner and try work things out in hope of living happy.. or move with the other?
2007-01-22 22:31:17 · 19 answers · asked by Jye B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
one thing i can say..you need space!..a lot of it..and realize who's more important for you..pray about it..you should choose the right and more practical one since this is marriage we're tallking about..and since you're gonna be bound for each other forever legally in God's rules..but really,IF YOU TRULY LOVE, YOU NEED NOT TO CHOOSE.
2007-01-22 22:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, ever hear the old saying, "a son is a son until he takes a wife, a daughter is a daughter for life?"
Really, you should stay where your girlfriend's family is, but DO NOT marry her if you are having these doubts! Already this isn't a good sign, and you are only going to hurt her worse in the end if you follow through with this. Don't marry her just because you don't want to hurt her, THAT'S WRONG. Like I said, it would only be more cruel and hurtful.
You can't always rule with your heart, use your head, too. Ask yourself this- Who blends best with my family? Who has always been there for me? Who do I best connect to personally, spiritually, emotionally?
If you really knew you were meant to be with someone, then you wouldn't be asking a question like this. I think you know deep down what you should do. And if it hurts your girlfriend, she'll get over it. Life goes on.
2007-01-22 22:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me, being with someone for the rest of your life is not going to work if you see yourself being with someone else, or at least have thoughts about it. I know people get cold feet before marriage but if you can see your future with girl number 2, and girl number 1 doesn't want to support you by moving, then maybe it's time you move on.
2007-01-22 22:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by Please Help 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the other girl is being nice cos she knows she's fighting a battle that is almost over, believe u me she'll kiss ur ass clean if that will make u want her, most women are like that try to convince ur fiancee and if she refuses to COMPROMISE u can move on but dont jump into the arms of the second girl she might not be the woman u left ur fiancee for after the battle is over.
All the best!
2007-01-22 22:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by Naughty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"The grass is greener on the other side..."
Of course the "other" person seems appealing when you are fighting with your fiance! It sounds like you are already having an emotional affair with this "old friend".
Focus on your current relationship, and cut off all ideas of making something happen with said friend unless you actually break up with your fiance. Otherwise, it's called "cheating" and you will be the cheater.
2007-01-22 22:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by Julia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there, me talking from experiences here i now what your going through i have been there as well just a different story. i always say go with your gutt it works better and its true they also say the grass isn't always greener on the other side but in my case it was i had the time of my life
so if u feel this way go with it the less a woman complicates a mans life the better and this coming from a woman
2007-01-22 22:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by laydee stefanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Why did you propose? Are you in love with your wife to be? Can you see yourself with her for the rest of your life? Having children together?
How do you really feel about this "friend"? Are you in love with her? Same questions.
This all depends.
You two are probably fighting alot because you are most likely being distant and she is having mix feelings on moving across the country.
You two need to have one serious talk on your future.
2007-01-22 22:39:17 · answer #7 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might wind up to be a poor partner to any woman you meet if you can't make up your mind and stand your grounds. Why ask Y!A to do what is yours to decide? Women are not pieces of meat you are undecided about choosing on the shelf. Neither are you for them, for that matter. Grow up, man.
Good luck
2007-01-22 22:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave her alone, there's nothing more horroble than being with a man who is not sure whether he wants to be with you or not. And, you say you are not cheating; emotional cheating is just as bad
2007-01-22 22:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by blondedarkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's up to you to decide
it seems you don't love your partner anymore, if that is true then break it off now before it's too late
good luck
2007-01-22 22:36:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋