I've know this girl for about 3 wks str8, and we've been so close and i love to see her everyday.
The first thing is, she's expecting me to say something and i don't know what it is.. Secondly, she told me last night that we should minimize our seeing, and i asked why? she said "I don't know" Please help me
2007-01-22 22:22:56 · 22 answers · asked by codedfeelins 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Seriously, just ask her out. what's the worst she can say...No. It's not like the Sun wont rise the next morning. [insert Nike slogen here]. And even if she says no you'll still be friends. But here's the kicker. Even if you ask here and she says no that means that she'll know you have the hots for her. And since she has said no, that means you wont ask her again. So if at some point she decides she wants to get with you, she'll make the first move. Or you might just end up sleeping together. Either way, once you ask her you wont have to do it again.
To: Women answering this page.
Tell me I'm wrong
But honestly everyday for 3 weeks huh? WOW. I envy you. I don't even see my girl friend that much.
2007-01-22 22:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Hewitt, R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the expecting you to say something bit, but if she tells you that you should minimize seeing each other - it's over. She thinks you're cramping her space, and I'd agree. If you only knew me for three weeks and felt we were close and wanted to see me everyday I'd be weirded out too.
Next time, when you like someone, give them their space. I know the emotion is over powering but if they're not feeling it (and even if they are) you can easily creep someone out.
Give her her space - there's a 2% chance you can recover from this if you keep it cool. 98% chance the damage is already done and if you push it even more you won't even get to be friends with her.
2007-01-23 06:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by Kurama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me, both of you having difficulty in communicating, if so, why not try with email? At least that way you'd be able to get you're message across, telling her how you feel. By taking the first step, she too might be able to relax and admit liking you.
Even tough we're in a modern world, not all young ladies are able to make the first move. Some still have the need to feel being chased ( in a good way of course)
Being truthful is always best even if the result is not to you're liking.
Give it a try, good luck!
2007-01-23 06:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by SwissAK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do as she asks. Don't see her as much. Sometimes girls just need there own space.
Be honest with her and ask her what she expects out of this relationship. If she answers Don't Know assume that she may be not as interested in this relationship as yourself.
You sound like a great guy. I think any lady would love to be with a guy like you.
Good Luck with whatever you decide.
2007-01-23 06:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps you are moving a little too fast. this happens to some of my girlfriends (and we always talk about this),,, a good thing to start a conversation with is how is you day going/ how was your day? (if you notice change in emotion--- be like hey hunny what's the matter? are you okay? -- oh yeah & this leads to hugs lol ;)... ) but she may like someone else if she says i don't know...
it's either your moving TOO fast, she's nervous, or likes someone else :)
hope this helps
xox
2007-01-23 06:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she really likes you and wanted to move forward into a relationship but you aren't really showing that you want to.
She's waiting or was waiting to see if you felt the same way. She wasn't going to push it if there isn't any spark from you.
2007-01-23 06:37:28 · answer #6 · answered by Carey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me! you guys probably moved too fast... so it ended. just... back off a little. give her the space she needs and slow down what you're doing. don't see her everyday. just... chill. go a couple days without talknig to her then randomly say hi and start a conversation.. it'll be a pleasant surprise and she'll probably miss you while you're gone. good luck!
2007-01-23 17:52:22 · answer #7 · answered by harpielingo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be getting scared of the intensity of seeing you daily and the relationship being so new. Give her a little bit of space and breathing room. If it is meant to be, it will work out.
2007-01-23 06:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by spiritualjourneyseeker 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
urm ..since u mention that u two has been so close ..., maybe she's waiting for u to ask her to be your gf ??? ...n when u didnt say anything after a few days , she got frustrated n wanted to "push" u a lil so that u realised that she matters to u (?) hence , telling u two shud meet less often ..
anyway , gd luck :D
2007-01-23 06:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by Cassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its over, she doesnt like you move on, its not that big of a deal. You only knew her for 3 weeks you sound like your moving way to quick. Slow it down with the next girl.
2007-01-23 06:26:38 · answer #10 · answered by searay092003 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋