I went to see an old friend who I used to like a couple of years ago, and we had a great time... we ended up sleeping together, but now he seems distant, and the texts have changed, even though he said he doesn't do one night stands, and was really caring... has he had second thoughts?
2007-01-22 22:00:59 · 21 answers · asked by Lola* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on pal, he is not worth it, if he was your friend he wouldnt treat you like a doormat,goodluck
2007-01-22 22:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by LYNDA M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no I think the phrase is "he's got what he wants - hes had his cake and eaten it".
There is a guy I was dating about 5 years ago, on and off over a year, his main aim was to get me in the sack - he never did. It used to wind him right up - so I was more determined to not do anything with him.
I still see him every now and then and for the first time in five years (when i saw him a week ago) he was sinceer, asked how I was and actually took an interest in me. he then apologised for treating me so bad.
some men really after only one thing - but it would appear that some of them do grow up eventually.
2007-01-23 00:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not trying to be harsh.. but why did you sleep with him right away.. even if you knew him before or not .he might of just wanted to see if you where going to give it up or lost a lot of respect for you because you did .. most men say things that might sound good in the beginning to hit it . and i don't think he just had second thought i think he got what he wanted and that's it. also even bad men at first say good things to get what they want. also don't mix friendship with pleasure that always ends up being the worst if you just want to continue to be friends unless you both know that you made a mistake. most men want a challenge not someone who is going to give it up right away because they can find someone that will give it up anywhere.. but they can't find a lot of women who won't .if and when he text's you or calls and started acting like he cares don't listen to it or talk to him right away and if and when you do talk to him don't fall into his trap anymore let him know you are a strong women and let him know how he made you feel after sleeping with him. friends don't do this to each other.. so i don't think he is a friend just someone who waited to sleep with you , but learn from this mistake and don't sleep with him again even if he says all the right things again and sounds sincere.. any man that treats you different after you sleep with him is not worth you . you need to show him and any man that you are strong because if they know you are weak they will use that against you every time. If women start being more stronger maybe then these boys will become men.....don't let this eat you up inside a lot of women do this just don't be one of those women that continue to do this. i wish you all the best .
2007-01-22 22:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by ebeyes23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god! Exactly the same thing happened to me about a month ago!! Personally I think the "no one night stands" thing is telling you what he thinks you'd like to hear. If the texts have changed as well he's either used you or is having cold feet. What I'd do, or should I say what i did is text him laying it on the line and ask out-right what the score is. You deifnately deserve to know where you stand and if it does appear that he "one nighted" you, maybe it's timeto give him a piece of your mind for it.
Best of luck with finding out.
2007-01-22 22:35:47 · answer #4 · answered by fishbrain 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You shouldn't sleep with him that was a big bad wrong mistake .
Why you did that ?? even that you didn't see him for ages that doesn't makes any seance But the question did you love him again ?? if the answer was yes you should talk to him but if you found him bad with you , you should leave him without even thinking because he isn't a real love.
2007-01-22 22:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by Ice princess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a guy and all he wanted was sex. I think you should as him strait out what is wrong and if he hesitates all he wanted was sex.
I am a man and we do treat women as sex toys most of the time. Just try to find someone who loves you for who you are and not for what you can give them.
Good luck.
2007-01-22 22:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by ... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea that was a lie with the"no one night stands" if he changed real fast after that night, he does not like you anymore or he likes someone better.
2007-01-22 22:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by arosedale 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he got what he wanted. Now he doesn't quite know how to get rid of you. Hey, we have never met, think we can hook up for a sleep over, you seem easy.
2007-01-22 22:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you asked him if he's seeing someone or had just broke up with a very long relationship? do you know him too well? have you had any regrets having the night together? please try to reasses your feelings. is he worth your time to brood around and wait for text messages from him of love and endearment? think it over sweetie.
2007-01-22 22:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by iris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he has run out of dollars on his mobile phone account.
so he can't send long text messages now.
He is a cheapskate who is a giggle o
2007-01-22 22:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by satnee2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wasn't as good as he had hoped. Chalk it up to experience and move on...things don't always work out as planned, but no need to prolong the agony.
2007-01-22 22:07:14 · answer #11 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋