Hello all. Im seeing this great lady. She is wonderful and we get on great together. When we kiss it is awesome. I asked her to spend the night with me - to sleep with me. Initially she seemed keen but then told me that she wants to wait - possibly until marriage. I have no problem waiting but im wondering if there is an interim step. I woud love to spend the night with her holding her, caressing her, kissing her, pleasuring her orally - no pressure for sex. Should i suggest this or are there other things we can do to be closer but not have sex. Advice appreciated.
2007-01-22 21:32:04 · 20 answers · asked by Pa J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats a long time to wait. i remember this episode of sex and the city where one of the girls wait till marriage to have sex. they finally have sex and she finds out he sucks at it and cant live with it and leaves him. sorry but marriage is when you are tied down and a lot of people find it to be the worst part of their lives. you are young and alive so might as well do it now then later when you are too old to be having sex.
2007-01-22 21:35:39 · answer #1 · answered by wtfitsnguyen 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly the only person who should talikn about sex after marriage is a virgin. If she a virgin respect her wishes and de-flower her on honeymoon. If she is not a virgin, thats bullsh*t, she tryin to bait you with sex or something? She f*cked someone before and now she wanna play ''sex after marriage with you''. All people who are not virgins fall into the same sexual category which means its equally possible shes been f*cked 5 time or 100 times before. I can see from your words you need to get some bro..... go get some. Its not possible to have oral sex and not f*ck.. you will be boiling inside and you will need to release the pressure. Be carefull or someone will screw her for you, once f*cked they will always need it, maybe you did not convince her good enough coz you said she at first seemed keen on it. Tell her you want romantic night with her, have rose petals on the bed, burn candles and when she comes over kiss her hard and turn her on so bad she will be begging for your key into her ignition
2007-01-23 05:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is good she is waiting for marriage..you guys can just play with each other she can jerk you off even though it might sound funny and you can play with her down there or like you said do oral or rub on each other. if you love her you will understand and just try the things that i said and yes try to suggest that and maybe she will understand you but do not pressure her you sound like a great guy so i don't think you will maybe you should please yourself while thinking of her i bet she does. i hope i helped somewhat. she seems like she has a good man in you because you even ask for help so that's an A+ in my book and you have a good girl in her because she is waiting which is definitely good
2007-01-23 05:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by ebeyes23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd better think about this: What makes you think that because she wants YOU to wait until after marriage, that she's told every other guy "No"...you may just be the last and only guy in a long line of suitors, who she's been able to make wait. If sex is important to you, let her know. If she's a virgin and you don't mind, fine...you both can remain celebate. If you don't want to wait, but you love her, there are other alternatives; but don't be lead to believe that because you're waiting, she has too, unless you are sure.
2007-01-23 05:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with her suggestion to wait.I see that your love and intention for her is honest.Pleasure will be greater if you follow rules of moral life. I am also not the fan of sex before marriage even though I am single.You'll do the right thing if you wait.
2007-01-23 06:53:13 · answer #5 · answered by miske 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than 50% women in my country (indonesia) are saving themselves 'till marriage. Well, suggest her those things u mentioned above, but if she doesnt want to do it, then dont push her to do it. You could get close to her without have her spending a night with you, just going through normal dates and so on so on. Well i bet you can do this ^_^
2007-01-23 05:40:19 · answer #6 · answered by d4rk_w4t3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best advice is to just wait, she has morals and thats a good thing. She won't be staying the night but it is worth it if she really means a lot to you and you think she is the one then respect her wishes and wait.
-NmD!
2007-01-23 05:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that this is a very principled lady,she wouldn't dare put herself in situation like that because the probability of her, falling is 90:10
sex is a process and ones you have started it , it is very difficult to go back, if you want to wait, just wait and don't start maneuvering out schemes, of making her go to bed with you
2007-01-23 05:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by seyhay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait coz thats what she wants i can assure u the suspense thatll b pent up before the wedding wil make it all worthwhile wait
2007-01-23 05:36:19 · answer #9 · answered by ladyluck 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, tell her that you respect her wishes to wait until marriage...let her know how you feel...make a movie night and watch movies together...put your arm around her...kiss her...be romantic...ask her how does she feel about oral intimacy...
2007-01-23 05:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by music ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋