i'm 17 and will be 18 in september i would like to move away from southampton to London and start college over there for a year or so.i would move in with my boyfriend.but i'm scared about telling my mum because i dont want to upset her,she likes my boyfriend but my nan hates him and i'm scared what their reaction will be what shaoul i do???
2007-01-22 20:47:36 · 14 answers · asked by Mal S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sry i spelt should wrong
2007-01-22 20:48:02 · update #1
thanks for all the helpfull answers i'm sooooo scared
2007-01-22 21:31:47 · update #2
Sounds like you need to get your mum on side before you break it to nan.
September is a while away so i think rather than just breaking it to your mum that you are going, bring it up that its something you are thinking about but you havent yet definitely made a decision and are planning to give it some careful thought over the next couple of months (or until you need to get your application in by). Then ask her if she wants to go to London for the day with you to have a look at the college and where your boyfriend lives (providing this is in a nice place!). You can work out together how you could commute between your boyfriend's house and college etc (She will be worried about your safety). She will hopefully be supportive if she thinks you are properly weighing up all the facts of the decision and not just jumping in with both feet - her worse fear will be you going off without thinking about it properly then being unhappy.
This will show her you are taking a responsible and sensible approach and hopefully she will be more supportive if you involve her in the decision-making process, rather than her thinking you have cooked it up behind her back then announced it. Good luck.
2007-01-22 21:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your still very young to leave home i know when your 18 you will be an adult but you have your whole life ahead of you at 18 you should only be starting to experience life like going on holidays girls weekends etc. theres lots to do instead of getting barred down with lots of bills i know you said your off to college but is there no were nearer home that you could go i didnt leave home until i was 25 and it was the best thing i did at 18 i was in college but had a great life not having to worry about lots of bills is there a reason for your nan not likeing your boyfriend maybe you should sit down with her and see why whatever you decide to do good luck but dont rush into anything
2007-01-22 20:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by smiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your family the truth, if they agree than its less problems for you, but if they don't agree maybe they will give you extra cash to rent your own place.
To study means to concentrate, if your mind is constantly worried that you could get caught then how can you study well.
Just don't get pregnant or you may end up finishing a 9 month course to motherhood.
2007-01-22 20:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by civilestimator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them soon, you will get stressed out if you keep it to yourself.
They may be a bit disapproving or angry at first but they will settle down in time.
Good luck with college! XXX>
2007-01-22 21:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter what ur mum or nan thinks ...... in the end off the day its up 2 u ... if u think u love him go 4 it ... ur old enough 2 make ur own mind up xx good luck
2007-01-22 20:52:50 · answer #5 · answered by a perent 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its never easy to leave home i know i left my home a long time ago but you have to do whats right for you by the way im not from around here so you sould be ok your destiny is calling do whats right god bless you
2007-01-22 21:28:29 · answer #6 · answered by muky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly stay at home as long as possible, for your first place you should get one on your own its better for the relationship between the boyfriend and nana. if you cannot afford it stay home and build up some money.
-NmD!
2007-01-22 20:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whats best for you. You are living your life for you not anyone else. It may upset your family a bit but they should understand that you are doing whats best for you.
2007-01-22 20:50:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont tell your nan tell a white lie tell her its a female college freind and dont let her visit that might help
2007-01-23 12:37:19 · answer #9 · answered by The tagg master 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me i have just moved out and its hard! Stay home as long as you can
2007-01-22 21:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by Molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋