I started seeing this girl 3 weeks ago and we've only seen eachother 4 times, she texts me lastnight and says that she loves me, now I dont know what to say to this as I think its to quick. Any advice would be appreciated.
2007-01-22 19:33:38 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why dont you tell her that whilst you were flattered to receive her text and that you like her a great deal - you feel you cannot say the same back as you like to take your time when it comes to matters of the heart.
Tell her that you feel that in time you most certainly could grow to love her - but for now she'll have to accept the fact you like her a great deal.
When you tell her - be direct - dont talk to her like a child as she could find this offensive. Basically - put yourself in her shoes - how would you like to be told....
Good luck!
xx
2007-01-22 20:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do the man thing and dump her. Well not just yet anyway.
Giver her some time, don't forget what women say and what women are actually meaning are normally two different things entirely.
She may just be saying that she likes you and perhaps she wants a bit of assurance that you like her to. If everything else is OK then just keep dating each other and see how you go.
Some people decide to get married after 4 dates so everybody is different, it doesn't mean you don't get along or aren't happy together, things happen at different times for different people. Give her the benefit of the doubt!
2007-01-22 20:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by peachy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a bit quick AND it depends on what is really being said.
Saying "I love you" could mean:
a) I like you a lot and want to continue seeing you to see if this will work.
Also, I am a bit insecure, so I don't want to loose you.
And, hey, this is really good - I feel loving feelings for you.
Or,
b) I want to marry you & have children and spend the rest of my life with you, stop you going out with mates or seeing other people & generally control your life.
Perhaps if you think of her words as meaning (a) rather than (b), at the moment, this might work better for you.
The best thing to do is keep talking about how you both feel.
It's OK to be uncertain and to find out more.
Also, bear in mind that falling in love is a BIG feeling as it has to do with trust, committment, reality, fantasy etc. etc.
You may need to think about how you feel about trust, committment etc. etc. in relation to this person.
If you feel that she really means (b), then that might be a problem if you don't have the same feelings.
It sounds like you are not certain at the moment and that is fine - you should take time to see how you feel and do what is right for you.
Good luck!
2007-01-22 19:45:51 · answer #3 · answered by echo c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that feel that expressing those words so soon in the relationship is uncomfortable for you. Tell her that at least as, if how and when you choose to say those 3 little words, that at least she'll know you mean it, rather than just returning it straight away.
My partner told me he loved me before I said it back, but he knew once I said it, that I meant it.
2007-01-22 20:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah, that's a bit soon to be saying that !! She sounds as if she's going to be the clingy type. If I was you I wouldn't say anything & just carry on seeing her as normal & see how it goes. You may find that she's too clingy & end it but it all depends how you feel about her I suppose. You never know, perhaps she is the one & you just don't know it yet.
2007-01-22 19:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by EmmaB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's easier for some to love than others but either way you don't have to tell her that you love her too. It would be worse to tell her that you love her too when you don't than it would be to tell her the truth and tell her that you would like to get to know her better before deciding on anything or your feelings. If she should start putting pressure on you to tell her that you love her also then I suggest you run and never look back.
2007-01-22 19:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i havent seen a guy since primary school but i speak 2 him on msn. he texted me sayin me loved me nd started asking if i loved him, he was desperate 4 an answer. i told him i wanted 2 think bout it. i still havent answered his question. i think hes forgot. just dont lie 2 her so dont say u love her if u dont. itd hurt her even more eventually
2007-01-22 21:04:46 · answer #7 · answered by Laura4864 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a serious talk with her. Tell her you want to take one step at a time.
Its a bit soon to declare her love after 4 dates.
2007-01-22 20:02:23 · answer #8 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must be a bit unstable or desperate, you cannot be in love after 4 dates.She doesn't even know you that well.
2007-01-22 19:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Margaret 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her easy dose it girl too early for that crack an she will get the message
2007-01-22 20:09:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋