my son is 11 and is constantly pooing his pants what can i do?

Question

we have cheacked out with the doctor and it is not a medically problem he is just lazy. he is almost 12 but is still pooing his pants (some days he dose'nt. he currently is in briefs/ slips because they hold the poo better and they support him better. what can i do to prevent this

Answer 1

Show him how to use a toilet - make him sit on it until he knows that's where he's gotta go! Didn't you pottie train him when he was of age?

Answer 2

I had a child who after beginning to be 'dry' suddenly began wetting and soiling again at age 3 plus a sudden onset of behaviour/social problems which were not in evidence previously. I went back to nappies and changed the nursery he went to after i had tried to talk to them and got a rather belligerant attitude from the managing members of staff. He was later diagnosed with mild aspergers syndrome (like a low dose of autism) which had been greatly exasapated by how the first nursery handled him. I had to go back to basics with potty training with him and take a very firm approach with zero tolerance of certain behaviours with immediate consequence whenever required. I picked a school where the staff were also able to impliment firm but fair boundaries with him and he turned some very significant corners in a very short time. He is now 7 years old and is making friends with children of differeing age groups and is well thought of by his teacher at school having also won a headmaster award at his school for being the best boy of the term in terms of behaviour and being a good role model for other pupils and being one of the few the teacher could trust to work alongside any other pupil in the class without ruptions. He also did very well in his SATS last year too scoring one of the highest in the class, dispite being the second youngest. Just to share that there are other kids out there with similar problems - but many of these problems are solvable with happy endings - hope it helps.

Answer 3

I got this from a text book from when I was in Nursing School. While it doesn't tell you how to prevent it it may tell you why he is doing this.

Why does it happen?

The primary cause of encopresis is unclear. A variety of explanations have been proposed - psychological, anatomical, physiological and dietary - but the most likely explanation is that the causes of encopresis are multifaceted. Most children with encopresis do not have a physical abnormality that interferes with their ability to gain bowel control. Some children may intentionally withhold for psychological reasons; they may fear using the toilet or the withholding may be due to a pattern of oppositional behavior.

In many cases encopresis occurs when there is a stressful family situation, such as divorce, birth of a sibling or a transition such as starting school. When a child actually smears feces, there is a strong indication that there may be a problem in family relationships. The child who is reluctant to openly express anger may express it by soiling. Soiling may occur in a child who has had a traumatic or frightening experience, such as sexual or physical molestation. When behavior problems occur they are usually due to the social consequences of soiling.

The physiological basis of encopresis is chronic or intermittent retention of feces, resulting in distension of the rectum and colon leading to a lack of sensitivity for the defecation reflex. The stools become large and hard, and attempted passage may result in pain and avoidance of the toilet, which make the situation worse. Rectal impaction may result, and the watery contents of the higher colon are passed around the retained stool, resulting in involuntary soiling.

Other physiological factors that may contribute to constipation include dehydration due to febrile illness, hypothyroidism, or a medication side effect. Overflow incontinence resulting from constipation can be caused by faulty nutrition, structural disease of the anus, rectum and colon, or endocrine or neurological disorders.

Hope this helps

Answer 4

Believe it or not, a kid is sometimes too lazy to go to the bathroom because it is an incoviencience. I suggest having him do some chores like cleaning his room or doing the dishes if he messes his pants. If you make it more of an inconvenience to poo himself, he may decide that the extra effort to go to the bathroom is well worth it. Another idea is to have him go through the process of doing the laundry, to show him that his lack of diligence creates more work for those who clean after him.

Answer 5

I think it could be something emotional, maybe something has happened at school, who knows? But whe my wife babysat a 8 year old boy the teacher sent us a note one day saying he had had an accident and denied it. Well we told his mother and all she did was send another pair of underwear to school with him. Well, it continued for about 2 weeks, finally teacher wrote a note saying if he continued having accidents he will need to wear diapers to school. We talked to him, told him what teacher said and he still did it next day. so now, he is wearing diapers to school. They found out later he was bullied in the bathroom and right today he will not use the bathroom at school or at home. maybe you should make arrangements with teacher to spend day with him at school and see how his reactions are around other students. making a 11 year old wash their clothes though? Imagine the mess you would have.

Answer 6

Ninety percent of encopresis cases are due to functional constipation The BM is hard, dry, and difficult to pass. Many kids "hold" their BMs to avoid the pain of constipation,
many people mistakenly believe that encopresis is a behavioral issue - a simple lack of self-control. Frustrated parents, grandparents, and caregivers may advocate various punishments and consequences for the soiling - which only leaves the child feeling even more alone, angry, depressed, or humiliated. Up to 20% of children with encopresis experience feelings of low self-esteem that require the intervention of a psychologist or counselor.

If your child has encopresis, humiliating or punishing him or her will only make matters worse.
the longer you wait, the harder it is to treat. As the colon is stretched by the buildup of stool, the nerves' ability to signal to the brain that it's time for a BM is diminished.

There is a lot of info on this forums and such on the net.google it and you will be overwhelmed.

Answer 7

Did the doctor not give you any suggestions?

I am not experienced in this area but if it were my son and the doc said it wasn't a medical problem I would want to make sure it wasn't an emotional problem. If it was pure laziness, then I would make him be responsible for cleaning up his messes, doing his laundry, etc until he gets fed up of the extra work, particularly if he is doing laundry instead of watching his favourite show.

Answer 8

Maybe he is being molested and you are not aware of it. Take him to a psych. My brother also did this until middle school. He was not molested. He also was not lazy. Poop is a part of a person. Some children (usually young) feel that they are loosing a part of themselves.Their poop comes from them, therefore it is a part of them. It is not something they can explain to you. Don't listen to straight disciplinary reasons for behavior problems.
Unless your child is developmentally disabled or something, he probably is aware that he does it, it is probably embarassing for him, and he probably wants to stop doing it.
There is a child's book that I actually own it is called Everyone Poops, it is by Taro Gomi. It is a good book. Maybe you guys can read it and talk about it. It is funny there is a fart book by him too. Maybe in therapy or at home you guys can figure out what is wrong. PS. Good job seeking help for your child! Way to go mom or dad!

Answer 9

When I was in grade school, I was afraid to use the bathroom because I was shy and worried that the other boys might see me because not all the stalls had doors and the ones that did the toilet was either in use, broken, or gross looking. I wouldn't tell my parents until one day I pooped my pants and my mom found my boxers and I got in big trouble with them for not saying anything to them. My dad told me the next time I held it and messed my pants he would spank me and make me ware a diaper the rest of the day. I finally started asking to use the restroom in the office, they let me after my parents complained about the regular boys restrooms.

Answer 10

Reward him each time he uses the toilet, teach him it is where he needs to go.
Psychologists often recommend a reward when you have achieved something, it will give him the positive outlook he needs, don't tell him it was naughty or wrong or make him feel bad he probably already feels bad enough, have a talk to him explain why it is he needs to use the toilet and when he does reward him, reward him verbally sometimes treats like a lolly or taking him somewhere fun to do something.
Positive reinforcement should do the trick :) Goodluck

Answer 11

I'd do what my dad would have done to me: knock the hell out of him.

Then take away every single privilege (TV, phone, computer, going outside, friends, bicycle, etc.) possible.

Allow him to read a novel, nothing more....period. Remove any and all sweets from his diet, making him separate meals of something not very desirable (brussel sprouts, hominy, liver, etc.). This way you are still providing good nutrition for him, but again taking away the privilege of food that tastes good. Relax if he doesnt eat it the first few days, he will eat it when he gets hungry enough. If you really want to succeed you'll HAVE to be tough.

Make him do all of his own laundry, cook his own undesirable meals, etc.

If that doesnt work I'd start sending him to school in diapers, making him take extra diapers with him to embarass the hell out of him. Make sure they are pink and frilly if possible.