I met this girl a little over a year ago (I was 19 at the time and she was 17, still in High School, now I'm 20 and she's 18), we met because we were dance partners in one of my cousins party. I really didn't have strong feelings for her at first, but the more times I would see her at rehearsal my feelings became stronger. I found her on myspace telling her that I really liked her, (I didn't tell her in person because of our age differences) but in return she told me she was "talking" to someone at the time, she told me I was a great guy and all. The last time I saw her was 7 months ago when she invited me to a graduation party she had. We didn't talk at all because a lot of her family and friends were there and she had to attend to them all the time. I still send her messages trying to ask her out, but I get no responses. I think she's shy or their might be other guys, but she is still available. What can I do to find out if she has feelings for me? Plese help me.
2007-01-22 19:14:16 · 11 answers · asked by Mr. X 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What is funny is that when we would see each other at rehearsal, we never talked at all, mainly because I was shy and she never really said a anything to me, and my friend always had her attention and they always hung out, but I'm positive she doesn't like him as a boyfriend, she was only around him because he always has to be the life of the party while I was always looking on. And he also has her number while I'm wondering what I need to do. Please help, what should I do? Should I ask for her number through myspace?
2007-01-22 19:25:03 · update #1
I would give her some space. If she has feelings for you she won't let them pass by and she'll find a way to contact you.
I'm sorry to say but my opinion is that she doesn't have feelings for you and that she's moved on.
By sending more messages you may push her further away and lose touch completely.
Let her be and concentrate on your life.
Here's a little poem: If you love something you must let it go, if it comes back it's yours, if it won't it never was.
2007-01-22 19:20:58 · answer #1 · answered by Gist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm sorry that ur going through this. Been there done that. OK, from what i read it sounds like.....(sorry), she isn't interested. If you've sent her messages & she hasn't responded then that is her way of letting you know she isn't intrested. Granted she should of just been honest & let you know right off that's how she felt. I'm sure she doesn't want to hurt your feelings & she thinks that this is the best way to deal w/ this. You sound like a nice guy I'm sure you'll meet someone special. Not sure if i helped. Hope i didn't make it worse. Good luck.
2007-01-31 03:22:14 · answer #2 · answered by bitch_goddess_72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since u already told her how u felt abt her, now is to get her answer. If u don't wanna beat around the bush for answers, then ask her upfront whether u have any chance at all in being with her, how does she feel abt it? Those sort of questions shld make her give u an answer rather then u making assumptions on what's going on. All the best!
2007-01-23 03:20:16 · answer #3 · answered by DooGie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop with the Im's and phone calls. Go see her, and ask her out. If she hims and haws, then she's not into you, and you have to move on. Sometimes we care for someone, but they just don't return the feelings. It sucks, but it's a fact of life. Good luck.
2007-01-30 23:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not send her flowers for no occasion..Then call her if she received it, and ask her out again.. If she said yes, then great. If she still says no but with a good/valid reason, believe her and then you invite her again next time... Goodluck! Shy girls are really hard to get so be patient...
2007-01-23 03:26:10 · answer #5 · answered by kelley282 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its so much easier to be straightforward in am email. Tell her that you are interested in going out with her and you were wondering if she felt the same way and if so could you have her phone number so you could ask her out sometime. I hope this helps. Take care Heather
2007-01-31 00:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Download the song "Dance With Me" by Orleans, send it to her, and see what happens. Make sure she knows it's from you.
2007-01-23 03:21:26 · answer #7 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her if she wants to go get something to eat and youll see if should be able to tell if shes into you.
2007-01-23 03:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by mrcarl92807 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its too late bro, your stuck in the friends zone. there is no way out now
2007-01-31 01:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a ******* creeper.
is your name Tommy?
2007-01-31 00:20:46 · answer #10 · answered by Paulie Walnuts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋