Coping my pain to a bottle of brandy?

Question

So i def need serious help. I am sitting here staring at an empty bottle of brandy. im suprise i can even type. I am dying with pain from a past relationship, and am looking for the cure to move on. This girl i know is def not right for me but i can't seem to move on. i find myself trying to drink my pain away like tonight. I find myself thinking of her all the time thinking about her sleeping with other guys and it is killing me. i keep missing our sexual life and don;t want anyone else to have her. But i know she isn't the right girl for me but can;t move on. im tired of looking for answers in an empty bottle of jim bean. im dying and don't know how to move on and its killing me to no end. Every time one girl burns me i find myself thinking of my x and wanting her. anf then i get jealous to no end of her sleeping with other guys even though she is completley wron for me. how do i deaal with this pain in side. How do i move on. What helped u get over a serious relationship and jealous

Answer 1

You have serious self-esteem issues and need professional help and possibly medication as it could be due to a chemical imbalance. You are obsessing over an ex and wondering what or who she is doing now likely as although your head knows better, underneath you are idealizing a relationship that likely never was what you now think it was or want it to be.

Worse yet, your feelings or self-pity are allowing you a free liscense excuse to feel sorry to use the excuse to self-medicate.

To move on, realize she was not the end-all, be-all, to everything and that just because the relationship ended does not mean you are a bad person or not worthy; it merely meant you were not right for each other.

As long as you dwell on the past, you will never find your future.

Answer 2

I really wish I had some better advice for you right now b/c I've been in your shoes, and I really don't know exactly how I got better. But I do know it's like a deep cut or a broken bone; it hurts when you first get it. It will hurt for a while after you have it. But in time, it will heal and you won't remember the pain. And keep in mind, not all women are the same, and not every future women is going to burn you. Just wait, be patient, and work on yourself in the meantime, and you'll come out in one piece. If you know she's not right, then you really don't need to reflect on it anymore..right? So, keep yourself occupied, and pull yourself out of the bottom of the pit she threw you in, and grow from it. If you don't grow, you'll be on here every night, drinking and asking the same question. Well, the problem with asking the same question over and over is you usually get the same answer over and over. Stop asking "Why can't I move on?", instead try "What's on TV?", "Hey, want to hang out tonight?", "Have I tried the new bar/restaurant/coffee joint that's not a Starbucks that's across town?". Anyways, I think you see my point, and I hope this helps. Good luck to you sir.

Answer 3

Get help man-join AA - Grief group- Ymca- Big bro. group
anything you can to get you away from the BOTTLE. Don"t ask for more pain from the alcohol, Take Control! Get a Grip!
If you know she"s not for you, Move On WithOut Alcohol!!!
Simple, do what your heart says is right for you, I"m
sure brandy isn"t one of those things, Hey, look into your
future,get wise now before it"s to late!.

Answer 4

You gotta get out, meet new people and just press through it. The sooner you meet other people and get your mind off of her the better. You just have to remember that there are other girls out there, and this girl you are caught up on is a dime a dozen. You will meet someone new, and maybe the next one will be even more special. Just dont let it stop you from doing the things you know you should be or want to do.