My best friend was dumped by his girlfriend in october. They'd only dated for two months, and desided to stay friends afterwards. He started dating someone last week, and his ex IMed him and told him she was furious that 'he didn't tell her first', even though it had only started the night before. She swears that all her friends agree that he should have told her before he started dating this girl, but I think its just silly- she dumped him, so she dosen't have control over his life any more, or at least no more then any other friend. Is that really what people are supposed to do? Let their exes know before they start dating someone new?
2007-01-22 18:47:03 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thats for the support here, people. Thats pretty much what I said. While they were dating, she was very cruel and manipulative, and he's a very sensitve guy, so she had control. She definately just wants that back.
2007-01-22 18:57:24 · update #1
The relationship is definately over, but he stays friends with all of his exes, and this is the first time its bit him.
Besides, if he desided to get back together with her, I'd slap the **** out of him. (figuratively, of course.)
2007-01-22 19:00:57 · update #2
Since they've split as girl/boyfriend why would either think they had anything to say about what the other one did in their own life????. Actually unless they had an agreement while dating, they had no say even at that time as to what the other one did .
Don't ever get serious over someone who is that manipulative-it wrecks havoc in a marriage, let alone a dating relationship!.
2007-01-22 18:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by marlynembrindle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she does not have any say in who he dates nor does she have to be told first. I don't know where she got that idea from but she's way wrong. She's probably just very controlling and jealous and doesn't want him to be the first one with a new partner. She needs to let go and move on. She dumped him and they're exes for a reason.
2007-01-22 18:58:02 · answer #2 · answered by Wishing on a Dream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way!
If they truly stayed friends she'd offer her support and be accepting of his new girlfriend. She would be able to honestly and politely give advice on why she thinks the girl isn't right for him. If they're not dating anymore it is none of her business what's going on in his personal life. She's probably upset that she didn't find someone first.
The only way I can understand her wanting to know first is if he broke up with her and wanted to prepare her to see him dating other people so her feelings aren't hurt.
2007-01-22 18:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Gist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless there are communal children involved, which in this case is obviously false, no, she has not right to ask or dictate who he decides to have a relationship with, especially since she dumped him.
If she is throwing a fit now, he should really reconsider his "friendship" with this girl; sounds like she has ego/control issues and is likely mad because he is not around as her "back-up" when she gets dumped by her current flame which = self-centered spoiled little-girl that thinks the world revolves around her and her wants and needs.
2007-01-22 18:53:00 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm on the different area of the fence. i do not realize why human beings won't be able to be acquaintances after splitting. that's totally stressful to me when I run into ex-boyfriends and they act so stupid. They act surprisingly stupid in the adventure that they are with their new better 1/2. And, if I say hi, they seem to act as if i'm "after" them. Pfft. organic silliness on their area. My ex is my maximum acceptable chum. we've mutual appreciate and love, yet that is as far as our relationship is going now. he's an truly good guy, and that i'll't imagine him no longer being in my existence. he's in a relationship with a tremendous woman now, and each and every thing is advantageous.
2016-12-02 22:33:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck, no!!! Sounds like someone is jealous. What difference would it make if he did tell her? He don't need he approval! Sounds like he needs to just get rid of the Ex even as a friend. Hes going to lose the new girl if the Ex keeps sticking her nose into it. He needs to be a man and tell the Ex to butt out and stick, she left him she has no say so!!!!!!! Not even his own mama!
2007-01-22 19:10:48 · answer #6 · answered by darlingnicky772 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has no say so whatsoever. What did she expect, that he would put his life on hold so he could pine away for her? It doesn't matter how long they were together, she still has no say so. Even if the roles were reversed, (he dumps her) she still would have no say so. No, exes have no obligation to tell another when they start dating someone new.
2007-01-22 18:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no! Sounds like she doesn't want him but she doesn't want anyone else to have him either. This is one good reason why staying "friends" afterwards doesn't usually work out. Tell him to dump his IM ex girlfriend and date whoever he wants!
2007-01-22 18:50:33 · answer #8 · answered by Amy S 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would the ex need consent from someone he/she isn't with anymore? The ex's opinion doesn't matter, especially since she was the one who called it off in the first place.
2007-01-22 18:51:30 · answer #9 · answered by Morphage 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is the flame still alive, or is it really dead? Perhaps their relationship is not over yet, they are only pretending that it is. Else how could she say that, and how could he afford not to be furious with her for even suggesting that.
2007-01-22 18:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by zymzyv 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋