I feel like total crap quite often, usually because of my shyness, lack of self confidence, and lonliness. right now, I feel bad cuz this girl i've been talking to for the last month isn't answering her phone or returning my calls (I haven't made that many, but did leave a couple messages). I've completely lost self confidence. I'm chatting with a friend online (the best friend I have) about this, and I'm almost crying (i've had a few tears on my cheeks). Should I let it all out or bottle it up?
2007-01-22 18:41:45 · 11 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, Man "EVERYONE" feels that way from time to time.. We all think that its only us, but its really not. I've been thru the same thing and its gonna hurt. But the sun will come up tommarow...no matter what you do.
-vegas
2007-01-22 18:46:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really bad to bottle up....let it out...it's ok...your friend on the net can't see you.....We all go through the same thing...girls and guys (Except guys who still chooses to act macho and who think crying is whimpy...) Crying is not whimpy.....it's the best medicine for healing.......espacially broken hearts........ then settle part two and three......
Why are you lack of confidence? Is it because of this one girl? I hope not..... But hey, if you feel you don't have confidence, you should build it.........sometimes we see ourselves so often in the mirror espacially when we screw things up.....we start hating and disbelieving in ourselves, thus resulting in lack of confidence.........and shyness is the sister........
So how do you get it back? Just a suggestion here.........try getting a mini make-over, you know a nice new haircut, color it, get a new style of clothes (just change your appearance from the old one).... after looking at the new you, you will get back some confidence..... makes others notice you too.... I've helped a few people with this and it worked. Who knows, she might be in for a surprise if she sees the new you....and if she doesn't then so what......have faith in yourself......there will be other girls around....but first things first, you've got to work on the confidence part and the shyness will slowy fade......
2007-01-22 19:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by Cookie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a very sensitive person. work on your shyness and confidence. Why are you shy? Why are you so concerned with what other people want? So this girl isn't calling you back. Maybe she's not interested, maybe she has a family emergency.
You may need to speak to a counselor. This is too much stress to go through just over a chick you just met.
If you are depressed or sad, reach out for help.
2007-01-22 18:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by Tellin' U Da Truth! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I used to be nerdy looking with thick framed glasses, straight hair and square outfit. Looked like crap! I didn't have confidence and was extremely shy. I had a make-over and wow! I turned a lot of heads in school. Soon I was getting lots of friends and dates. I stopped getting teased and my confidence came back! A few of my friends were so impressed that they did the same. We had the best last year in school and we finished with great grades and confidence. Whats more, I'm not as shy as I used to be! You should try it!
2007-01-22 19:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, c'mon cry if you have to, no one will know anyway :) Lack of confidence is sooo self destructing. I know cos I used to be shy. You're worth as much as the next person, and there's just something so negative about not being able to believe in yourself.
I woke up to myself oneday and realised no-one thinks i'm crap, i'm doing it to myself. Shyness is all in the mind, actually out of fear really. Try to be with people you are comfortable with and go from there. Try to get out more, the more you see, the more you know how to be with people, the less scared you'll be.
2007-01-22 19:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by Olivia L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how you're going to let it out of the bottle. As far as you're self confidence or lack there of....try to find a hobby or a group or something out side of your house. If you find people that have things in common with you. Or feel like you are a part of something it tends to help. Good Luck
2007-01-22 18:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by peoplerstrange62 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it out. We've all been there. When a relationship goes bad, we all feel lose self confidence and feel lonely. You'll snap out of it. If this girl is being that rude, try not to worry about it. Easier said than done but there will be other girls.
2007-01-22 18:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
neither, you do either and the results can be ugly at best. the key is letting your anger and frustration out gradually, talk to her instead of just leaving messages and stuff, go up to her and find out exactly what's up. I happen to know about the shyness thing, jsut let it out in some sort of activity tha relaxes you, like a sport or hobby or something where you can relax and reflect, letting it out peacefully and gradually.
2007-01-22 18:46:07 · answer #8 · answered by Jon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u cud just just talk to ur best friend online and tell him everything and be a little light. or go to the girl and talk to her. Just remember u have to feel better about urself in order to confront the girl. Don't make another person let u feel this way. Be strong and think about the good things u have accomplished in your life....Girls can be really stupid sumtimes and they r not sure of anything at sume point they are confused b/c of their hormones a.k.a PMS... anyways well just remember to feel good about yourself.
2007-01-22 18:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by Legant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it from me girls will drive you insane, the best way to deal with it is to let it all out to a good friend. Always makes me feel better. good luck
2007-01-22 18:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by gordonr83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋