I would like to hear from parents who have autistic children?

Question

Hi everyone, i have 3yo boy, when he was one yo,he hated whenever i sang and danced he would get angry, shout and yell at me. In restraunts he was never interested in eating food, he wouldnt sit still, would run around the place climb under tables etc,he began to walk at 9 months by the ways. whenever strangers payed him attention he would get angry and yell or run away, sometimes he liked attention, he used to say 3 words then but then it stopped and he hasnt been able to talk since,,,only says "papa". he does point to things which he wants but whenever i try to teach him words he either ignores me or acts foolishly, he still doesnt eat well, he is over sensitive to temperatures. He doesnt show interest in learning either, unless it has anything to do with cars,,,which yes he does line up.he is hyperactive too. Hes very intelligent. i live in japan with japanese hubby, he doesnt think theres a prob so he wont have our son evaluated, i dont know who or where to go.

Answer 1

i dont have an autistic child myself, but i have taken care of autistic children in group homes. i can tell you, your child is probally not autistic. it sounds more like some sort of ADHD. if you feel there is a problem, its always safer to ask his doctor when he goes for a check-up. most doctors cannot diagnose ADHD untill the child is at least five years of age. if this is what he has, talk to his doctor about what you can do to cope with is behavior untill it can be properly diagnosed. lining up toys a certain way is something alot of young children do. it gives them a sense of accomplishment, so they do it over and over again. with him not talking anymore, give him time and he'll talk. my cousins daughter didnt fully start talking untill she was almost 4, and now she's a little chatterbox. he probally dosent eat well, because childrent at this age can be picky eaters. and thier stomachs are very small, so dont expect him to sit down and eat a meal as big as we can. but, like i said, if you feel there is something wrong, its always best to discuss it with your sons doctor. take care! hope this helps!

Answer 2

I am the mother of 2 autistic kids a boy 8 and a girl 5. I understand some of things your saying because my kids share some of the same similarities. I live in MN so I don't know what Japan has to offer as far as help and intervention but I would definately seek some help as soon as possible. My children were luckily diagnosed with it at an early age and with the help of teachers and doctors we've been able to get them on a schedule which is really helpful to autistic kids. They like the repetition and it helps to guide their way and make it easier on all of us. My kids will follow the schedule without problem as well many autistic children and you'll come to find if it gets off course then that's when it upsets them. It also helps to calm my kids down a bit and keep them from lashing out and you can incorporate many things into their day such as reading time, game time, when to eat and I even have a singing time because again before they would hit me or run away screaming if I tried to sit and sing with them. Also getting them help earlier can ensure that maybe they can gain some independence which helps them along in life. Both of my children also benefitted from having speech and ocupational therapy while in school and even at a young age of 2 and 3 the therapist would come to my house and do it there. They taught my kids to speak and now my son can say anything he want to. Of course its your choice on whether or not you seek help but from experience and meeting other families going through the same thing the older you let your child get without having a schedule and some specialized help the worse it will be to help your child lead anything of a normal life. It also helped with sensitivity to touch which my children have and helped them show affection which I could never get before. Go to your doctor and tell them your concerns and quite possible the school district can help also. Sometimes medication is the answer along with different therapies but you won't know until you try something and it will maybe take several tries but do go for it. If that doens't work there is are many websites that you should be able to find easily to give you information and resources hopefully in your area..Hope this helps a little. It is so worth it in the end.

Answer 3

Hi. i have a brother who is 10 years old. He was diagnosed as having autism at the age of 3 years. It is a sad story. Basically, he was an amazing child. By the age of 2 years, he knew his alphabet, numbers up to 20, shapes and colours. He would always be writing his alphabet and saying them etc. With toys, he would line them up but there was no problem with communication. He used to talk so sweetly. At around the age of 2 and a half, i noticed that he used to get scared and jerk all of a sudden as if there is someone scaring him, it used to scare me because he used to say 'im scared, im scared' all the time and cry, but when asked what of, he couldn't say. He used to look around the house and make us take all the picture frames off the wall. Soon after, he slowly stopped talking altogether, and he didnt understand anything that anyone said to him. It remains a mystery to this day. Even to this day, he sometimes just fixes his eyes on something, as if there is someone invisible standing there, it freaks us out.

Answer 4

As a friend of someone who has autism, I'd definitely get him checked out, doctors can give you tips on how to deal with his behavior, for example loud noises and strange textures can be torture for him because he's extra sensitive to these things. He's probably going to have problems with social skills too, but thats fine.. there are classes he can take to help with that if he gets treatment as soon as possible, the sooner the treatment begins the easier it is on the child. Trust me, when he's older he'll thank you. Treatment makes life a lot easier for both parents and autistic children.

Answer 5

the substantial difficulty is maximum human beings don't have an understanding of what autism is and incorporates. i imagine rather some human beings get the incorrect idea of who they're and what they could accomplish. they ought to coach themselves previously they decide someone with autism or someone with particular needs. Your toddler is a artwork and present of God, i'd ask them how ought to you're saying that about one of God's children & that whoever their God would properly be, He is conscious what they reported and how they experience and how do they think of their God would respond to the type of poor fact. Or as some human beings would say "What would Jesus Do?" in line with their fact. i'd also tell them that your son is already a more suitable robust human being than they're because he does no longer decide human beings as they have with him. at the same time as their day on earth is composed of an end, whoever their God is, he will undergo in concepts this. keep your head held up severe and stay proud because you've no longer something to experience embarrassment about. through the fact they made it purely is going to instruct purely how ignorant some human beings can actual be. i do not imagine you over re-acted one bit, a organic instinct of any mom is to strive against and stick up for his or her toddler.

Answer 6

well my friend has a boy whos autistic. it sounds kinda like that. look it up on google or something. it also might be A.D.D. or a.d.h.d.. but look all those up and find out symptoms and treatment. good luck, i know how hard it is.

Answer 7

Hi,

Here is a great discussion forum. Theres lots of great advice and plenty of support available here but it is UK based.

http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/