who is in a relationship with 3 different men at the same time? She cares for each of these men differently and trusts and respects them all. She also feels respected and valued by each in return. (Safe) sex is also part of these relationships. This woman has been married before but doesn't wish to be married again any time soon nor does she want a committed relationship of any kind.
She feels very positive and free in what she is doing and has no problems with what society might say.
So what do you guys think about it? Just dating behavior or serial sex? These men all know that she is not exclusive with them and all are cool with that.
Is this what dating is all about or does the sex make it somehow problematic for you in the morals department?
2007-01-22 18:28:25 · 24 answers · asked by Ande 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For those who are wondering, there are no wives, no girlfriends. All the men are single, available and the sloppy seconds remark is just disgusting. No mention was made of the type or even frequency of the sexual activity.
2007-01-22 18:42:24 · update #1
Sounds like an honest sexualy secure woman of the 21st century. All 3 men are lucky, as is she. All are informed consenting adults. As long as she can keep up and is having fun it is as it should be. She is NOt misrepresenting herself, nor "whoring around".Enjoy being single.
Why so many people confuse dating with monogomy is beyond me. The purpose of dating is to find the one you want for monogamy. No wedding ring, no harm no foul. And btw single women are just as entitled to sexual exploration and satisfaction as men.
2007-01-22 18:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by D4gotten1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to comment by which moral code anybody should live by. But I think this woman, in the end, will be very lonely. This woman also sounds as if she is in her own moral crisis and is looking for the support of others to justify what she is doing. And this woman believes that she is being respected by these men? They are participating not because they care for her and are concerned that she is not being sexually satisfied!!! They are participating because they are using her for their own sexual satisfaction -- this does not equal respect, this means she is being used. It seems quite coincidental that 1. ALL 3 are single, 2. ALL 3 don't mind that she is keeping an active sex life with 2 other men simultaneously, and 3. ALL of the men don't want anything more from her than their turn in the bed. Perhaps this woman isn't being completley honest.
2007-01-23 03:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, she is happy with 3 guys and they are cool about it so I have no problem with her. If she dates a marriage man then everyone has an issue. I think she has the best time of her life with dating behavior. She is free as a Butterfly. It is her body so she can do what she wants. No one writes her a cheek and people have no business to judge her. Life goes on and Happy day.
2007-01-23 02:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by ryladie99 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If no one has problem it is fine. But i would like to suggest the lady that it is not a good decision. I understand she needs support & doesn't not what to commet with other .
1 But involving with more than one men is morally not good.
2 she must be hampering their personal life with thier wife or gf.
3 when she need some support each person can say that other is there why should i
4 many more if u thing in it deeply
2007-01-23 02:38:29 · answer #4 · answered by dilu 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
personally i think its fine if all the men know about each other. If they are happy with the situation and so is the woman then whos to say this is wrong or even sexually immoral? The only thing i would be disagreeing about would be if the men didnt know about the others. They have a right to know if the woman is being sexually active with other men.
2007-01-23 02:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by Kris 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The sex makes it rather problematic in the morals department - they are screwin ya because they know they wont be keeping you. You should have more self respect than that. Even if its not about getting a keeper - they arent respecting you - thats what it comes down to....
I mean, the sloppy seconds that men share are the women they dont give two poops about.
2007-01-23 02:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by freshbliss 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First you must accept my sincere THUMBS UP for your bold statement sharing with us without mincing a single word , who believes in LIVE AND LET LIVE happily without disturbing or indulging in other people's matter .
Today's world there is no meaning of Morals , as people love to indulge in others activities , because they deprived of giving and receiving happiness .
What you are doing is , only making yourself and your friends happy by spending quality time without complaining or cursing the world . Do keep enjoy your present without bothering the sadistic world .
2007-01-23 02:43:28 · answer #7 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my thoughts are not good or complimentary about such behaviour and the whole thng is highly unattractive to say the least , it does not fullfill any fantacy i have ever had and i would frown on her for it.
i think the "sloppy seconds" is a fair remark Seldom ..it is not true but it does discribe how many men would feel about it and is the language we use in the culture about it. I know it is not flattering but you did ask.
2007-01-23 11:07:42 · answer #8 · answered by lowroad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as ALL the men you are "dating" know about the others, there shouldnt be a problem. be sure to mention that you are having sex (even if safe) because some men may not want to he with u knowing another guy was there recently. be VERY open about what is happeing and then all should be fine from there. good luck and ALWAYS practice safe sex if you are doing this!
2007-01-23 02:34:34 · answer #9 · answered by mich_teddybear 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think people are too quick to judge, and i say good luck to her if everyone is happy with the situation where on earth is the problem...just because it is a woman running the show and who is /seems to be in demand...why shouldn't she be? if it were a man he would be praised and there would be no problem with that...i say people should get with the times, and allow people male/female to be.
2007-01-23 11:23:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋