PA...Parental Rights, and the new girlfriend??

Question

My ex (unmarried) and I recently split up and the very next day, he moved in with a new girlfriend (& her Mom). He now has his own place, and I am currently working on partial custody with him, but I am a bit bitter towards this new girlfriend he has, as she is 10 years younger than he is, and I consider her a "homewrecker". She has called me every name in the book and has put down my parenting (based on what my ex has told her) without even knowing how I live and raise my son. If I want my son's father to have partial custody--can I add a speculation that she NOT be around during that time period my son is staying? I'm worried about being bad-mouthed in front of my son, and frankly, don't think the relationship is that serious yet. They've only been together 2 months. I have a feeling my answer will be..."get an attorney" but I was wondering if anybody else has gone through this and have any suggestions. My son's father and I still get along, until the subject of HER is brought up.

Answer 1

Ok, I don't think you would be successful in getting an (what basically would amount to an injunction) order from a judge telling her to stay away from the child. However, you can get an order telling your husband that he must do everything he can to foster the relationship b/w you and your son. If he allows her to badmouth you or if he badmouths you himself then he would be violating that order. If he does so (and the judge will warn him of this when he tells him) the judge can fine him (civil contempt), or sanction him by forcing court supervised visitation b/w your son and him or restricting his visitation all together until his ready to come in line with the order. Sorry you're going through this. Good luck.

Answer 2

I think you still need an attorney for custody. But you can stipulate that any adults around the child CANNOT say anything bad. I have that in my custody. My ex husband always talks badly about me TO the children. The Judge yells at him all the time. As far as the girlfriend being not being around you really have to have good cause for why she shouldnt be there. I know every state law is different but you can really fight for what you want. I'm still in divorce court after a year and a half. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

Unfortunately the courts will not say that a particular person cannot be around during visitation unless that person is deemed to be abusive - and frankly they're not going to consider bad mouthing you to the son as an abuse. You say you have a good relationship with your ex except when it comes to the new girlfriend, but you also say that he's the one who gave her ammunition about you. He bad mouthed to her about you and she's using it as ammo. You need to have a serious discussion with him where you both agree to behave in such a way that will not undermine your child's world.

Answer 4

Sorry. Unless you can actually prove she is a danger to your child, your ex has the right to associate with anyone he wants to when he has the kids.

I empathize with you, I know it's a tough situation, but for the sake of the kids, you need to work it out. Maybe have a meeting with a family counselor and all of you to figure out some ground rules about how problems can be overcome and to set some groundrules. The first groundrule should be absolutely NO bad-talking about eachother in front of the kids, the only one getting hurt by that is them.

Answer 5

I dont think so!

My son had primary custody and when his son goes with his mother she can stay anywhere she wants as long as it is safe.
She does not have her own home, so she house hops from one place to another.

Its hard to see my grandson go with her, but there is nothing we can do unless he is being abused.