i am in love with my bf but for sum reason there are times where i dont get aroused when we do things like feel up on each other or kiss...i mean most of the time i do get turned on but then there are times where i dont...i cant see myself with any other guy but him onli...am i getting tired of him? becase i feel like im not...wat would the problem be??
2007-01-22 17:44:02 · 14 answers · asked by jennifer 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should at least try being with another guy once to see if you get the same feelings you do with your boyfriend. If you get really turned on by this other guy, maybe you are sick of your current boyfriend and should let him know. Or, you could try spicing things up with your current guy (I'm not going to say exactly what it would involve, but I will spell it: B-U-T)
2007-01-22 17:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Too many movies. Too many soap operas. You aren't going to see fireworks every time he touches you. It's important to keep loving him - actively - if you want to survive the "settling in" of a relationship.
Don't expect so much. And having said that, if you'd like more, then share any ideas you have with your guy. Maybe there's something you'd like him to do, say, or be with you and you aren't being direct with him. But even if you get all that you want don't expect him to be responsible for all of your sexual experiences.
You are the one that needs to see to it that you are having the sex you want to have. You can ask or show him what you want. Most men would love this kind of instruction.
2007-01-23 02:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're counting ceiling tiles while having sex with this guy...run! What im trying to say is, sex is very important in a relationship and eventually he'll catch on that you're not into it...or him for that matter. Sounds more like it has developed into a brotherly type of love, you probably care about him and are more likely to stay friends with him if the relatioship were to end. This more likely will not last, speaking from experiance...hope this helps.
2007-01-23 02:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are describing the exact reason why people cheat - excitement only lasts for a few months and then we all want more. Sounds like to me that you need to experience life a little more before you settle down with one person. That is a completely normal reaction so don't think I am trying to put you down.
2007-01-23 01:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there are times when sexual arousal is just not right at the time being. If you arent turned on sexually by him when at the time, he is, then tell him about it. Communication is key. Maybe try something different. Experiment. Maybe he is just doing the same thing over and over. Maybe you should hint him to try something different. (such as oral) =)
2007-01-23 01:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you just have to try some different things. normally repetition ebbs the hot and heavy. Just think of ways to make things a bit more exciting. Do something to him he wouldn't have expected from you and see how he responds and who knows, he may surprise you too.
2007-01-23 01:50:21 · answer #6 · answered by donbenecio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't always get turned on...Sometimes it could be just biological or you're just tired. It doesn't mean anything unless you know deep inside that you don't feel anything. Otherwise, don't read into it...just make sure you know what you truly feel...Good luck
2007-01-23 01:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by Curiously 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will not always be turned on. Moods change, stress happens, life goes on. Concentrate on having a happy and fulfilling life in all areas.
2007-01-25 02:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by Say What? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like normal to me --- I don"t see any problem -- this is typical of relationships and marriages.
2007-01-23 01:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by Spock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural, sexual side of things isn't everything. Just try different things routines become boring.
2007-01-23 01:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋