I have a question about my boyfriend?

Question

Well first let me start out by saying that we live together and are 16 years apart in age. I'm 21... Also, from Sept-Nov, I couldn't work because I almost died in an car accident and was injured pretty badly. I quit my job, it was very rough on me emotionally. By the beginning of Dec. I had a job.
Well, in early Nov. he quit his because of a stressful work situation. He sold some of his belongings to keep his half of the rent up and I used my credit card for one of the months. He told me it was okay with him that I couldn't do much for bills because I couldn't pay much.
He finally has a new job, but he couldn't start because he wouldn't pass his drug test, and he KNEW it would put the date off, so he lied to his work about the situation. He also plays video games almost all day and night now, he rarely comes to bed before 4 AM.
This month I'm going to have to cover all of the rent by myself. And my car broke down, so I'm going to have to pay for the costs of getting that fixed.

He tells me that the next month he's going to cover rent so it's equal. He also bought himself a 500 dollar computer monitor for Xmas. He has the audacity to tell me that might need to lend him 100 dollars for some shoes he needs to start work because he won't have the money to cover it. Then when I get upset about it and bring it up he tells me I'm being mean and taking cheap shots at him emotionally. Am I being taken for a ride or am I being unfair and should help out? Also, when I get upset he brings up the fact that he held up the fort for two months. He tells me he isn't keeping score.

My question was, does it seem like I'm being taken for a ride? He did offer to pay me back for the stuff. If he doesn't pay me back, I will leave, but if he does, then is it all equal?

Answer 1

using to see how long the ride will last sorry

Answer 2

Drop him. He's in his late 30s and he's acting like he's in college. You've been through a hell of alot this past year and there's no reason for him to drag you down when you've done a pretty awesome job getting yourself back on track. The longer you enable his behavior (ie cover the rent, buy his food, etc), the longer he's going to sit on his butt. Now, he's taking you down with him and if he cared for you, he wouldn't do that to you. If I read your question correctly, it also sounds like he's doing drugs (hope I got that right). That is a big sign of a LOSER. Sorry. He needs to get out of your place. It is your place now because you're paying all the bills. You can make it on your own so don't let him to continue to drag you down. There's a saying my mom tells me "You can do bad all by your da*n self". That's true and it applies here. Dump his stoner, video game playing a** and don't look back! Good luck!

Answer 3

In my opinion you are letting this guy take full advantage of you. You being out of work due to a car accident is an uncontrollable situation. Him being out of work due to being stressed out ,not being able to pass a drug test, and sitting around the house playing video games all day and night does not show that he is putting much of a effort in to contributing to his half. As for him throwing it into your face about you being out of work due to a car accident that is B.S., at least you had a ligit. reason for not being able to work, the only excuse he has is no excuse at all. If most of the people in this world quit their job because it was too stressful, then just about every buisness would be hiring non stop. considering that he is 16 years older than you he is a grown man and should learn to act like one. dump him if your smart.

Answer 4

ok first you he needs to help with the rent no matter what and top doing drugs if he wants to get a job. you are one person and if he cant live up the responsibility maybe he should get a credit card and charge stuff on it till he gets a job cause i dont see this as fair to you


good luck

Answer 5

It may be annoying for you, but your mom is only protecting you and does not want anything to happen to you. Age difference does not matter she will always assume a guy is to old for you because you are her daughter. And yes your mom may have met your father the same time you met yours and your mom probably made some mistakes that she just does not want repeated to you. Just listen to her because in the end if something does happen to you, you will feel bad for not listening and you will regret the outcome.

Answer 6

So whats the question? Tell ur bf to find another job til the other one starts and to get off his lazy **** and clean ur place up and cook u dinner every night seein ur the one workin all day and payin for everything.

Answer 7

Pack your bag and be gone by the time he gets out of bed at noon. This is a losing proposition and the longer you stay, the more money it will cost you. Get out right now, not a moment longer.

Answer 8

You never asked a question. But you don't sound like a bad person. You haven't left him for stupid reasons such as no money or a random fling.

However, he does sound like your boyfriend doesn't have a very good life, and doesn't make good choices... Except for having you as a girlfriend, perhaps.

I personally don't think he deserves you.

Answer 9

I'd vote the bastard off the island. You've already gave him too many chances to amend his ways. If he's not on the program now you should send that sucker on his way. Hit the road jack dontcha come back no mo no mo no mo...

Answer 10

Sounds really worrying to me - it sounds as if he is taking you for a ride. Cut the money and see how long he sticks around.

Answer 11

Wow, you should leave him NOW thats soon! Trust me, this is not the man you can trust to make a family with.. I mean he is 37 and plays games still? Leave and save yourself! He is not mature yet, and you will not be happy!