and offered suggestion what not to look for when finding a gf. Like when people mention me or tease him, he'll say" yeah, she's psycho" or describe our phone convo to others. Like, I have to go. oh do u have work to do? yes i do. will u call me later?why wouldnt u call me later? "
A mutual friend Tom told me this. And i couldnt even believe it. when we were together he was always so nice and polite. i cant even believe someone like him would say that. Now i seriously hate him for saying that. tom said he might just need to vent. And he's unhappy with a lot of other things too, like he's on academic probation. But still, it hurt so much. And i cant believe even thought about somewhere down the road like 2 or 3 or 6 months later we'd be together since this is our 1st relationship, for each of us. I wonder if he'll ever come crawling back like when probation is overso that i can get my revenge.
PS:he's very shy and spoiled as an only child, indecisive, not having even one female friend
2007-01-22 17:29:43 · 10 answers · asked by little asian gal in cresent city 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
blame or shame take your pick it's always easier to place the responsibility to the person.
2007-01-22 17:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by resigned 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds young and immature. It's a young guy thing to bragg or say nasty things about people so that they could sound cool. It's like an ego trip where guys say that to make their friends think that the girl is after them and that they are not interested in the girl....... etc. It's supposedly 'cool talk'......... It doesn't mean he hates you or even mean it....but yeah....it sucks to know it. It just goes to show that he doesn't really respect you that much. If a man really loves a girl they wouldn't do that......But how sure are you that Tom is telling you the truth? Are you sure he's not making it up to get you away from you bf? I've been in a situation before where my bf's friend told me stuff because he wanted to break us up..... the motive was to have me for his own...... so get your facts straight before thinking of taking revenge. You know it's puzzling.......if you said he's spoilt, indecisive and so on....why are you still with him anyway? Are you just saying all those things out of anger?? Anyway, my point is you should not listen to people other than finding out the real truth yourself (innocent until proven guilty).....and if it all so true......just leave the guy.....he's not for you...... don't think about revenge, heard the saying "what goes around, comes around." What good will revenge do for you? Will it make you better than him? Let it rest.......and you will have many blessings in future.....good luck....
2007-01-22 18:00:23 · answer #2 · answered by Cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is just trash talking with the boys.
I know it hurts but he probably felt that way about you.
Obviously since it's his first relationship he has no idea that being asked questions by his girlfriend is just a way for her to make conversation.
And since it was your first relationship maybe you were too naggy and did not realize it.
I would just move on.
If this Tom person tells you something else your ex says, just say, "I do not care what he thinks, he is full of sh*t anyway."
And leave it alone, your ex sounds immature.
OR
You can take SUNSHINE's suggestion and tell them he use to talk about wanting to have sex with guys or that he has a small dick.
2007-01-22 17:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by *nevermind* 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cream has got a few points, find out the whole truth and nothing but the truth before thinking about revenge. Will it make you a better person if you took revenge, will it make you better than him?? IT is true you know about what goes around comes around. 'Karma' they call it....just loose the guy.....and loose Tom as well. He may be bad news too.
2007-01-22 18:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Beverly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep people like to talk bad because it makes them feel better. But one day you will find the man/woman that you will know that you r meant to be with because they will believe in God and will treat you as a person that was made in the image of God and would NEVER disrespect you in that type of way. Thats when you know that you've found the love of your life. When they only want the best for you. I'm going to buy the cd of last Sundays sermon on marriage, just go to church and trust...you'll find it
2007-01-22 17:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
babe ignore him and get yourself a life. Dont even allow him to crawl back to u. Its part of life, we kiss a few frogs b4 we meet our prince
2007-01-22 17:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by LadyK 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
men are pigs, they have to look hot for their little cronies and thats what he is doing. dont waste your time on someone like that
2007-01-22 17:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by jls91380 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why waste the energy on him...Just ignore what he says, he has his own issues...
2007-01-22 17:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a fuc kin loser just forget about him already shiet
2007-01-22 17:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by joe v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your friends he's gay
2007-01-22 17:37:31 · answer #10 · answered by SUNSHINE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋