there is this guy who is so not my type. the problem is he can't take a clue that i don't like him. he tries to flirt with me and stuff, and it's getting annoying.
i like a different guy. what do i do?
2007-01-22 17:14:34 · 40 answers · asked by teenqueen17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh and i told him i liked another guy and he just ignored it.
:/
2007-01-22 17:21:59 · update #1
Just let him know as kindly as possible that you like another guy. Be gentle. It is quite a compliment that he thinks you are so special.
2007-01-22 17:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you ladies can agree that men are clueless, would you be more clueless to insist on speaking in hints??? seriously if he doesn't get the "hint" your best bet is to verbally leave absolutely no misunderstanding about your intentions. It probably would have never got annoying if you just came out and said that you are in no way interested period. But chances are if he's still asking if you want to do stuff and you respond with either "maybe some other time," or "not today" or "I'm just really busy right now" all of these things have tones or implications of possibly getting together with you some other time. Don't be afraid to be blunt; and don't worry about hurting the guys feelings I guarantee you he will move on to someone else. We men have very short periods of downtime. But the longer you prolong doing what you need to, the more you welcome his advances. It may not be what you intend but from his end it's how he perceives it. Just be a decent person, woman up and level to him. And trust that you're both adult enough to be honest at least. That's not too much to ask of anyone I don't think.
2007-01-22 17:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by donbenecio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be stern and tell him that you are not interested and if he still keep's persisting on it then you need to show him how much you really like this other guy by kissing him, hugging him all in front of this guy, eventually he will get the clue and if not tell someone that can do something about it. Good Luck!
2007-01-22 17:27:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he seems more like a friend and that it would never work, and be honest with him. Tell him that there is someone else more interesting!! If you drag it and dont get to the point then he will never understand and then he will have a grudge that you chose the other guy!!! Some people dont take rejection so lightly.
2007-01-30 17:07:13 · answer #4 · answered by Shane M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easy. The thing is that guys are very bad with getting signals but in general most guys (when told loud and clear) are ok with the news. You shoudl confront him in a very easy enviornment. Take him to one side and let him know that you are flattered bu his suggestions but you are interested in him as a friend. You want him to be in your life as you think he's an ok guy, but the only space you have for him is a friend. Trust me, this will work - good luck -
2007-01-22 17:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Max G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, get used to it. :)
This happend to me beginning when I was 14, and it hasn't stopped happening to me since.
Depending on how this guy is acting, that is how you will decide how to put him off. Like, if he is being rude -- be rude back. Just tell him to back off, that you do not like him in any way and to go away.
BUT, if he is being nice about it (even though annoying) try to be nice back, while still letting him know how it is. For instance, if you're really young, tell him your mom won't let you date (that worked for me in high school). Or, tell him you have a boyfriend or that you like him a lot as a person, but you just don't see him that way. I know lying sucks, but it's okay to tell a white lie to save someone's feelings.
Good luck!
2007-01-30 14:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by mistaken4sane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys are just in dillusion.
My suggestion is, dont get too close to him
If he texts you, dont reply him
If he wanna meet up, say u're busy.
If he flirts with you, just reply "ok" or "haha" Dont even bother saying anything. He might take it the wrong way.
Telling him straight to the face that you're not interested might hurt his pride.
So just show signs that you are not interested.
Maybe you can even start talking bout the guy that you like often. (well for me, this is da best way)
Then he'll know that you like a different guy (which is obviously not him)
2007-01-22 17:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by kampung_minyak 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to put your foot down. If he persist then you have a stalker on your hands and if you don't put him in his place soon you will only compound the problem. The authorities will deal with type of character so do not wait before you end up regretting letting him have power over you.
2007-01-22 17:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
be honest With him. walk right up to him and say look I don't want to be mean but you are making me uncomfortable with your advances and I don't see us together because I don't have those type of feelings for you and I would appreciate if you would leave me alone. If that doesn't give him a clue nothing will.
2007-01-22 17:20:00 · answer #9 · answered by njredgrl32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you just can't avoid him, then just be straight with him. I don't care for people who hurt other needlessly, but sometimes you just have to be very outright with them. Don't shove the new bf in his face. That's just not classy. Who knows, in a few years you may want to hook up with him. Do really want him to have a bad memory of you? Good Luck.
2007-01-30 15:15:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋