There is a guy I met briefly last year at a party who I liked, and I finally found him on myspace recently, so I sent him a message saying "hi and remember me."
Also, I noticed he had his profile set at "In a relationship."
I wrote him that I was coming to his town soon and I was going to ask him out to dinner, but now that I see he is taken so forget it.
He wrote back, "What, so you can't invite me to dinner now?"
Should I still invite him, or do you think he will get the wrong idea, and is he trying to cheat on his girlfriend?
I doubt he will tell her we are having a late dinner together.
2007-01-22 17:04:35 · 14 answers · asked by *nevermind* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PLEASE DO NOT TELL ME TO INVITE HIS GIRLFRIEND. I LIKE HIM AND I DO NOT EVEN KNOW HER...SO THAT'S OUT OF THE QUESTION.
HE KNOWS I LIKE HIM TOO, SO WHY IS HE STILL TRYING TO GET ME TO TAKE HIM TO DINNER?
2007-01-22 17:06:31 · update #1
Again...if I go it will be with JUST HIM.
How silly to invite some guy I like to dinner with his girlfirend I do not know. I'd rather just skip the dinner rather than do that.
Yes I know for sure he has a g/f. read my question.
2007-01-22 17:14:25 · update #2
Honestly, don't bother. He's got a girlfriend so it's pretty pointless. If you were his gf, you wouldn't want him going to dinner with another girl behind your back. I actually went through a similar situation like this myself and I can assure you, he'll probably tell you lies about his current relationship if he sees a shot at hooking up with you. It's really not worth it and you wouldn't want a girl doing that to you so I say forget it.
2007-01-22 17:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was gonna actually say invite his girlfriend. I am a woman and I hate seeing guys I use to have crushes on on myspace and their profile say their in a relationship that makes me mad but If u all are friends firstly, let him take you out. to a simple dinner thats it. but he is a man he knows hes in a relationship and I guess his girlfriend either wouldnt mind or he doesnt care. If you want him in a dating girlfriend boyfriend relationship dont go, because you know hes in a relationship and he will get with u and treat u like he treats the woman hes in a relationship with now. you know what my advice would be to not go to a dinner at all show respect to the other female he said he was in a relationship why put yourself in a compromising position?
2007-01-22 17:24:58 · answer #2 · answered by race1983 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all i dont see anything wrong with inviting a man to dinner. i think you should go to dinner because you might not have the same feelings anymore. you might think you still like him but it might all change when you see him. one did he tell you he has a girlfriend? and two hemight just have that hes in a relationship just because he feels like it. he might be single. if you dont take the chance you wont know how you feel for each other and you might lose the chance to find out the truth. take the chance and see what happens you have nothing to lose.
2007-01-22 17:13:34 · answer #3 · answered by Heide E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I currently have a friend that really loves this guy that has a girlfriend and he is cheating on his girlfriend with my friend and he keeps telling my friend that he is going to break up with her, when he doesn't or has no intention of ever breaking up with her. It is just a big mess and everyone involved is going to end up getting hurt emotionally, it is just a matter of time. So my advice would be to wait until he is single to date him or go out to dinner with him. It will save you and his girlfriend the heartache, because she will find out.
2007-01-22 17:10:43 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Vandersanden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if thats what you want to do then go for it. I would be much more upset with my boyfriend than with you if I was the girlfriend and found out. Personally I would never do this, because I know what it feels like to be cheated on and it doesn't feel good :( Nor am I a homewrecker! I live to glorify God :)
2007-01-22 17:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this question. If you are fine with being second and helping him cheat on his girlfriend then I say go for it. I hope she's not a psycho or you have good self-defense skills.
2007-01-22 17:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you have to look him always as a bf point of you..you can meet him..have a dinner..nothing wrong in being as a friend...no one knows whats real with him..does really loves this girl or not..i think u can just tell him..that u are still his friend..if possible take him to lunch...talk..know about him..then u are in better position to decide
2007-01-22 17:11:57 · answer #7 · answered by gladiator o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..personally, i think u should invite him. if he gets the wrong idea then he's out of it but if its just a "only friend's" dinner then its fine. i dont consider that as cheatin..only if things go out of hand then yea but if its just dinner then its okay. so invite him and have a good time.
2007-01-22 17:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by tinker_shorty07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your intentions are that you like him and want to maybe start something then no don't pursue this. He is taken. Maybe once he isn't taken you can make your move. But for now it is inappropriate if you only want to get involved in something beyond friendship.
2007-01-22 17:08:58 · answer #9 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's a guy...That's why.
Just visit him, no need for dinner without his girlfriend.
Who cares if you do not know her, Can't you all go out and have a good time?
2007-01-22 17:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by ~*~Tessa~*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋