2007-01-22 16:52:38 · 46 answers · asked by marysoilex 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him the next dinner is on you.
2007-01-22 16:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by MisterRE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never feel obligated to have sex with a guy when he takes you out for dinner. Otherwise, you are basically taking the role of a prostitute (sex for a favor).
After dinner - if he drove you there and after the rest of the date is completed, he takes you to your door. Do not invite him in (especially if you are the type that has a problem saying no - why put yourself in a compromising position?). If he asks why he can't come in - either tell him you are tired or be honest with him.
If he tries to force himself upon you - it's called Date Rape and you can take legal action.
The best thing to do so you don't feel obligated is to go dutch (pay your own way).
2007-01-22 17:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by sagegranny 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that you do not want to have sex. You do not owe a man sex because he pays for dinner or a movie. He is paying for dinner because he wants to spend time with you and if he is paying for dinner so he can sleep with you, you should not be with him in the first place, because that is just not right to expect that from someone that you take out on a date.
2007-01-22 16:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Vandersanden 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What is the saying? "A** gas or cash, nobody rides for free."
Yes, I will agree that the mentality has gotten to be: if the guy pays for the entire evening, he expects a return on his investment.
Go dutch- or at least pay for a portion of the evening. If he picks up dinner, you pick up the show. If you think that he will insist, be quick, and have your card out and ready to plop down- or go up to the waiter and ask for the check and pay it before it comes to the table.
This way- YOU will feel relaxed. You know that he doesn't have leverage on how the very end of the evening goes.
He may be offended. My first date with my husband- I insisted on paying for the popcorn.
At first, he didn't know what to make of it, (He was from the old school of the guys pays everything) but I explained that I believed that first dates should be dutch, and it was the "proper" thing to do.
So- do the proper thing- pay for your half.
2007-01-22 17:10:19 · answer #4 · answered by There you are∫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Taking you out for dinner and paying for your dinner do not equal to sex after the date, at least not all the time. If it does, in a way, it is like a prostitution. If this is true, there must be many many many guys getting laid right now and probably try harder to get a date as likely outcome would be obvious.
2007-01-22 17:01:36 · answer #5 · answered by wat~ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When he takes you home and you do not invite him in, he should be able to figure it out. But I think you are a little late maybe. If it's obvious from the first time you met that you do not want to have sex with him, you should probably not agree to have him take you out to dinner. Of course you can always change your mind and it happens and there is nothing to do about it but try to be considerate of the other persons feelings.
2007-01-22 17:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by sal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a guy taking you out to dinner and paying doesn't necessarily mean you have to have sex with him. 1st of all, don't let a guy pay for you. when you do, they feel like you have to do something in order to repay them back. plus, its just nice to pay for your self on a date, unless you are on a date with a husband or a long time boyfriend. Anyways... back to your question, easy. Don't let him touch you much, as in, hold your hands/hips, kissing, or whatever. Just pull away from him and he should get the clue that you don't want anything more than a mere friendship with him.
2007-01-22 16:58:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
After tha date is over you should politely thank him & promise to let him know about a second date. If he persists then you should just say sorry & that you dont have sex on a first date. Thats perfectly normal & he has issues if he cant accept that.
Also remember to offer to pay for your half of the meal if you know that you dont want to sleep with him.
2007-01-22 16:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by Claude 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to plan this ahead. Let this dude knows that if he insist on paying for dinner that doesn't mean he is getting in the sack later that night with you. Let him know ahead of time. Then you might endup going to a burger joint rather than a fancy five star restaurant. However, don't mislead him.
2007-01-22 16:59:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you should tell him before he takes you out to dinner.
Any girl I've asked out for dinner would be worth the company for the meal, sex would not be required. But maybe I'm just a bit of a romantic.
Anyway for the last few months I've only gone out with girls who paid for the meal and I told them before we went out that they would not be getting sex. Mostly they were fine with that, only one said, "No sex, no food."
2007-01-22 17:01:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Easiest way to never ask this question again is to stop living in the 1950's and split the cheque. Unless your a cheap hooker you arent expected to do anything, even kiss him without your consent regardless of the fact he bought you a ferrari. Ive dated women, payed for meals and the thought of that being some sort of leverage in getting laid is INSANE. INSANE I SAY.
2007-01-22 17:00:28 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋