My boyfriends wants to come out to his parents and tell then he's gay but he's afraid that his parents wont accept him. He's wondering if there is a way to come out to your parents in a "right" way where his parents are more likely to accept him. Do you think there is a way?
2007-01-22 16:48:14 · 7 answers · asked by NeedHELP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah....
He's Mexican and his dad is straight up macho guy. I don't think the "hey mom and dad...I'm GAY".
2007-01-22 17:04:00 · update #1
If he has parents that are cool just tell them. If he has parents that are not cool then let them figure it out on their own. Don't make to big of wave, it could sink the boat, then his life will really change...
2007-01-22 16:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by Johnny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there is no right way or wrong way to approach this situation. The only way is to be truthful. Whether it is accepted or not will base on the relationship your bf and his parents have. It's important to know how if they are close or understanding towards each other....and also how open minded are his parents when it comes to such issues. I have lots of gay friends and yes some still hide their sexual identity till today, afraid that they would not be accepted.....well that's because they are sure that their parents will not accept it...but what's makes a person so sure? Some still remain living unhappily this way because they continuously feel guilty everyday.......Can your bf live with that? I ve had friends who had hard times in the begining but slowly their parents have learnt to accept them....parents will always love their children.....they may be angry, shock or whatever negative feelings in the begining but it will come to pass eventually. Hey man.... i would freak out if my son told me he was gay! But then again he is my son and I love him so it's either I learn to accept him and see him happy or loose him totally......... NO loving parents would do it...........however it will take me some time to get adjusted to the facts........well, it's my point of view anyway...............To me, it's better than living a lie.... I guess your bf will have to decide on his chances, loose his family or loose himself and his true identity......he has to choose...... Either way, one of the sides will have to go through the pain....living a lie can also be a living hell.......so sometimes the truth is what we ALL have to face eventually, if we want to live a happy life................. heard this saying????? "The truth shall set you free"................ don't expect that they will welcome the truth immediately..........be prepared to give room for adjustment ok.................good luck! I hope things will work out for him and his family.....
2007-01-22 17:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone who's had friends come out to me, I'd advise against it: Having someone you know and love come up to you and either slap you in the face with it or act like they expect you to throw them out, can really kill a friendship. In the former, the message is, "I don't care about you" and in the latter, "You don't care about me." Hard to bounce back from either one of those...
Leave your boyfriend alone. He'll be gay, his parents will figure it out if they want to, and everyone will live happily ever after.
2007-01-22 17:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by Me, a name I call myself 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I agree with Cookie's comments. There's no right way or wrong way. There's no other way to say it other than the truth! Just say it straight! Why do you need to plan 'what' to say it anyway? Is it supposed to make his chances higher for approval with the words he chooses? Just tell them upfront, just as Cookie said... just give them time to get adjusted to the truth but they will learn to accept it eventually. Good luck!
2007-01-22 17:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by Cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, he just needs to tell it to them and be right to the point about it. there's no right or wrong way to tell them. he just needs to do it. they're his parents, and if they're good ones they will love and respect him just as they always have. It just breaks my heart for him because he's afraid that they won't accept him. he needs their love and understanding more than ever right now. just be there for him whether they accept him or not. and if they choose not to accept him, it's their loss. and he will need you to help him get through this.
I sincerely wish you both the very best.
2007-01-22 17:18:43 · answer #5 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to say: "Hey mom and dad - I'm gay"... his parents will accept him; they are his parents... they may not like it but they'll accept him.
2007-01-22 16:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by Alexandra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so.He is just going to have to tell them...there is no easy way to tell your parents that you are a homosexual.
2007-01-22 16:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by Bootsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋