he acts like he is listening to me, but never tries to take it away. what can i do to make him listen?
2007-01-22 16:24:15 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Maybe he doesnt want to force it. Was this his idea or yours?
2007-01-22 16:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Well, part of me is quick to agree with another poster that it kind of isn't your place to push your bf to get his son off the bottle. Since it is his child, he is the one (and the mother, if she's around) to get to decide what is best for him. And frankly, he may be doing what is best for him. A child will easily give up the bottle when he's ready to do so. When you force the issue before they're ready is when it becomes a big issue. It IS important, however, that baby be weaned off getting milk in the bottle, b/c if he's falling asleep with a milk filled bottle in his mouth, it can cause tooth decay. THAT is the reason doctors push getting them off the bottle. It is a myth that bottles will change the shape of their mouth or make them need braces. Just plain not true, so nothing to worry about there.
My son took a bottle until a few months after his 2nd bday. He only took one a day, at nighttime, and it was filled with water. It was a security thing. Part of his comforting bedtime routine that he wasn't quite ready to give up yet. I tried a few times telling him that soon we'd be getting ready for the bottle, and he howled at me. Then, one day when I said it, he didn't seem to think it was such a big deal anymore, showing he was getting to where he'd be willing to give it up. Children do best when they are allowed to do things when they are ready, at their own pace and not on someone else's schedule. Him still taking a bottle isn't hurting him in the slightest, and I would guess it's only bothering you b/c someone has taught you what they were taught, that only tiny babies take bottles. Let your bf be, the little boy will give up the bottle willingly when he is ready. Hopefully he isn't letting him run around the house with a bottle filled with kool-aid or juice, but other than that, let it be. It'll pass. Patience.
2007-01-23 01:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by littleangelfire81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE THE BOTTLE AWAY!COLD TURKEY!22 months is too old for a child to be on he bottle,it CAN cause teeth problems.by the time i got my son off the bottle he was 2 years.he's 5 now and a few months ago he had to have surgery to have some of his teeth removed cause he developed 'bottle mouth' from being on the bottle for too long.i also have a 4 year old girl who is having surgery this coming week but she don't have bottle mouth but my other daughter who is 2 years old is having the surgery because she has bottle mouth.my 5 year old had 5 teeth removed and 7 caped and now my 2 year old is having her 4 top frount teeth removed.your son is at the age where he should be going to a dentist and drinking from a sippy cup and one more thing,no juice or milk at bed time,that is if you give him a bottle to go to bed with and if you do,give him water.he may not like it at first,but trust me,it will save his teeth IF he don't have any problems now.bring him to a dentist and have his teeth checked,they tell you that same thing i just did and i learned the hard way.
2007-01-23 06:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by vern 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda went cold turkey with my kids, except for an evening bottle. And during the day I only put out a sippy cup with water or milk. And if they said anything I would just tell them the truth even in the morning just a sippy cup of milk, the tall kind. Go to WalMart and get his fav. cartoon character, and be truth full. I threw the bottles away and said there weren't anymore.
2007-01-23 01:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by Nells30 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not your place to nag your boyfriend into making him force HIS child to quit taking the bottle. It really is none of your business. If it was your child, then that is a different story.
Bottles do not make a child's teeth crooked -- Jeez a mighty people. A sippy cup has firmer mouth piece than a dang nipple on a bottle. This is a no brainer.
What is the difference in filling a bottle versus filling a sippy cup?
Not a darn thing!
2007-01-23 00:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by JB 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him and try to find out what he really wants to do about the bottle situation. If he truly wants his son off the bottle then I think he should listen. If you don't have kids, then I don't think you know how he feels having to take the bottle away. Give him time and eventually he'll take it away.
Don't nag him!
2007-01-23 00:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by roxanne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Weaning: Weaning can occur whenever the mother and infant mutually desire after 12 mo. Gradual weaning over weeks or months during the time solid food is introduced is most common; although some mothers and infants stop abruptly without problems, others continue nursing 1 or 2 times/day for 18 to 24 mo or longer. There is no correct schedule
The excerpt above is from the second source below:
PERSONAL NOTE: My daughter was about 27 months old when I negotiated with her to sacrifice her bottle. She was big enough to go to the refrigerator and help herself to the prepared bottles on the shelf. I had her to exchange her bottle for Christmas gifts. Santa would give her ALL THESE GIFTS...and all he wanted in return was ALL HER BOTTLES. After a change of mind once she had agreed, finally, she got all her gifts and Santa got all her bottles.
I tried 'salting' it...to 'ruin' the taste of it.
I tried having her to 'throw it away' ... out the backdoor. Before I could remove it...she opened the door, marched down the steps, and retrieved it.
Mother told me that our dog 'got mine'. I haunted that old dog...asking him for it. He would just look bewildered...like the victim of a cruel hoax. I searched all over him and could not find it; but, Mother just kept repeating..."Tigey's got your bobble". Tigey got run over...he took my bottle to heaven with him...
Sigmund Freud claimed that babies go through certain behavioral explorations of themselves. One involves oral - stage as in the nursing baby. If it is interrupted, he claimed that the child would be predisposed to negative sucking habits such as sucking their fingers, cigarettes, straws, etc...
See the links below:
2007-01-23 00:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by sheila_0123 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take the bottle away, but right after introduce the 22 month old to a "Big Boy Cup." A sippy cup that has maybe his favorite action hero on it, or his favorite movie characters. Something that appeals to him. And just tell him, "You're a big boy now, so you get a big boy cup!" And be sure to throw out the bottle. :)
2007-01-23 00:30:49 · answer #8 · answered by Shortaznchick 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if there is anything you can do. Yes, the boy should not have a bottle any longer. You know it, his father knows it. There's a couple options. One, he doesn't want to battle his son over it or Two, he really doesn't care. Maybe pick up a sippy or two at Walmart and just give them to Dad, saying Oh, I grabbed a couple of these when I was at the store. And leave it at that. The child can't go much longer with one when he sees no one else his age has one. Good luck.
2007-01-23 00:30:58 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara B 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Buy some sippy cups.and let your bf know that if the child doesn't get off the bottle it will cause him problems with his teeth. It will be hard at that age so you will have to wean him gradually. Make the sippy cup exciting for him.
2007-01-23 00:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by busemomme 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
He is still a baby you could give him a couple more months.
First of all let the baby know that all of the bottles are going to be sent away for other little babies, because he is old enough to use a sippie cup. Then on the day sent, you throw out the bottles or pack them up and put them far away. And then the kid has no choice but to use a cup or not have anything to drink. If you get some cute sippie cups it will be fun for the little one.
Give him lots of praise when he drinks. If you keep the bottles around
2007-01-23 00:32:11 · answer #11 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 6⤋