Ok here is the story. My boyfriend and I broke up about 8 months ago. We both said some things about each other, I guess just to blow off steam. I said some pretty harsh things about him and he still won't talk to me. Now I really regret it because I realize what a great guy I had. Any suggestions about how to tell him I still like him or how to just get things straightened out between us would be great... I really need some advice on this one.
2007-01-22 16:24:09 · 16 answers · asked by BrittanyChantell 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try again to call him and tell him how you feel. It sucks to be on bad terms with anyone, let alone someone you care about. That said, if he is absolutely unwilling to talk, you have to move on knowing you tried your best.
2007-01-22 16:28:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, that's love... sometimes you don't relise what you had until its gone, and sometimes things will be said when breaking a relationship because its not what everyone wants to hear. Im sure there are reasons and name calling or harsh words will probably come out, thats almost natural to most people. Now 8 months is a long time, he may have feelings for someone else, which doesn't mean you're out of the picture, but i bet the last thing he is thinking of is what happened between you two because all he probably remembers is those harsh things. I think, if you get any chance to, you really need to make up with him, try and get back into his life, do not aggrivate or annoy him if he might not feel the same but you never know if you could get him back by just talking normally at first. If he decides he doesn't want to talk to you or is really that bummed by you calling ro talking to him, then there must have been really something wrong with the relationship, or he is being inconsiderate because he needs to listen if you want to say sorry. I think if he doesnt care and blows it off and nothing changes then you may have to move on. As hard as that seems, it might be right and you never know if anything will happen in the future, but dont pressure it too much, being friends is closer to having another chance than being enemies. Just relax and be normal with it, dont rush in, just play it cool and try and make up first, see what happens... move on only if the make up seems right.....
hope i helped a little, just a newbie on here that likes to help other people when they need it..
friends <3 Doug
2007-01-23 00:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by Doug P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if after 8 months he's still not talking to you, there's probably not one thing that could come out of your mouth that would get him back. Did you mean the things that you did say? If you did, then don't worry about making him feel better, you'll be chasing him for the rest of your God-given life. What have you tried already? Try showing up somewhere you know he'll be. Dress cute and get your hair done. You don't even have to say anything, just let him notice you and see what he's missing. Leave an anonymous message on his voicemail or in his locker or something. Apparently, telling him to his face is still a bit much for him to handle, so just take it slow. If you feel as though there is noone else that can do you like him, you could even try talking to his close friends, maybe even family. Whatever you do, don't miss out on your life and any new opportunities that could come up because you're (excuse my french) stuck up his a**.
PS NEVER say sorry for something you meant!!!
Good Luck!
2007-01-23 00:33:38 · answer #3 · answered by The One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we say things in a fight which should have been said a long time ago. I think you just not getting another bf so now you are falling back to him and all of a sudden you see all the good there is a reason why you guys had broke up, i know this i use to do this.
2007-01-23 00:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by SAgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him thru his mobile phone, send him a text message, email him, with the following messages:
*That you're sorry for what happened and that you apologize for the harsh words that you said about him;
*That you realized what a great guy I he is for you;
*That you are ready to straightened out between the two of you
2007-01-23 00:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by louie0894 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great way to start iz by telling him how sorry you are, and how much you regret saying the things you did. Make sure he knows you are sincere. Then tell him you would really like for him to still be in your life, bcuz you hav had a taste of what iz like without him and you dont like it. Be understanding about everything he says, and make sure he knows that you arent worried about any of the things he said about you. Tell him things arent the same. Good luck love.
2007-01-23 00:31:58 · answer #6 · answered by Mr.XXX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
You can email him, call, or call and leave a message with just a "hint" of what you're calling about, such as, in regard to the bitter break up, just say that you thought alot about what happened and you feel bad and that you would like to discuss it at some time.
If you think he might get ideas that you're making up, you can say also that you would like to start over, OR you can talk over what your feelings were at the time of that break up, and ask him to work things out.
It's all you can do, but it's a start! Give it a try!
2007-01-23 00:33:20 · answer #7 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now i am confused, did you break up 8 months ago and just have an argument, Or did you have the argument with him 8 months ago and your thinking twice about what you said to him then???
Personally, the hardest thing for us males is getting over anything and forgiving people for the things that they have said. Maybe its our in ablity to change, or our own stubborness, either or, we just are bull headed.
2007-01-23 00:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by -Dr. D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
8 months later and he still wont talk to you? From my point of view (guys) Not saying he didnt say anything bad or whatnot, but a lot of guys dont want to stay friends if the breakup is tough. Hate to say it but it sounds like you have been written off. Whatever you said irritated him enough to not want to deal with you anymore. It really may be futile to try to reconcile to any point. Sorry to be the bringer of bad news, but i hope this helps a little
2007-01-23 00:32:06 · answer #9 · answered by hlind28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him an email, text message or call him...just let him know that you don't expect him to forgive you right away but that your really sorry and regret it. let him know that it would be ok if he doesn't want to talk to you anymore but that you'd like to at least be friends again and to try and make up for it. maybe he'll come around. things will never be the way they used to and he may never trust you or want to date you again but hopefully you may eventually be friends.
2007-01-23 00:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋