Let's say I ask a guy out to dinner or a movie. Since I ask, should I pay for both the guy and me? Or should we both pay for our own? Our should I expect him to pay? If he offers, should I let him?? thanks!
2007-01-22 16:16:02 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The girl.
2007-01-22 16:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In today's society the person who asks pays, even if the means the girl did the asking. Be prepared to pay and if he picks up the bill before you do, and insists on paying, then you insist on leaving the 15% tip (if the service was excellent, then up the percent.) If he does not get the bill, at least you'll have the money to pay the entire bill, tip and all.
A good first date is a movie and then a coffee shop or similar place where you two can talk about the movie, pros/cons, learn more about each other. Barnes and Noble in my town has a nice area that is semi quiet and a good place to stop for a chat and coffee, tea, latte, etc... Perhaps you have someplace like that in your town.
Then if he paid for dinner, you pick up the bill for the coffee shop, etc.
2007-01-22 16:44:02 · answer #2 · answered by T esira 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age, it is sometimes expected NOT for the guy to pay or the girl. But the person who asks. I've been asked out tin the past, before I was married and most times she would want to pay. I being from past morals would Always want to pay instead. I came to the understanding that it isn't always the correct thing to do. If one wants to pay, the other should at least meet have way. Today it is (in my opion) the right thing to do.
2007-01-22 16:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by gord's360 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A girl shouldn't ask a guy out if she isn't willing to pay. If a guy accepts your offer and goes out for a nice dinner, it has been my experience that they will usually not allow the girl to pick up the tab. If you asked, you should pay...otherwise, it's like asking a guy to take you out for a free meal and that's not very nice. =)
If he offers to pick up the tab let him. If the date went well and you are wanting to repay the favor then try inviting him over and offering to cook dinner for him the next time. Or offer to pick up something on the way over to his place if you are hang out there. Then he won't have the opportunity to foot the bill.....but he will have money to buy wine and roses (haha...just kidding)
2007-01-22 16:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Renee' 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you get the bill for dinner, go ahead and pay. If he says that he'll pay, say "well I asked you out, I'll get dinner." And chances are he'll then pay for the movie. But I definately think that whoever does the asking should offer to pay.
2007-01-22 16:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by tonya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually if he pays the movie tickets i would offer to buy the popcorn. (even though the movie ticket might be cheaper though...so decide which one u wouldn't mind paying for)
If he offers, except the offer. but make sure u offer to pay for something too. U may rather refuse ur offer than u not offering at all.
2007-01-22 16:22:39 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoever asked to go out should be the one to pay. it doesn't matter if its the girl or the guy. now, if the guy offered himself to pay whatever that is, then its OK to let him pay. in addition, if you both set up a date, then you can both pay for your own. or let's say, you can pay for the movie tickets and he can pay for the food.
2007-01-22 16:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by cali 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You pay if you invite. If he offers to pay, then offer to at least to pay for your own. Do not expect him to pay unless he really insists by taking the receipt when the waitress/waiter brings it to the table. If he insists that he pay, then thank him and let it go.
2007-01-22 16:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the person that asks should pay. If he offers to pay, pay your own bill. Do not let him pay unless he insists.
2007-01-22 16:20:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tricky question, you ask him out ,I guess you should pay, UNLESS you say to him beforehand we each pay for our own, is that acceptable to you?
Guys don't always have a lot of money to always pay for dates, and shouldn't be expected to pay for them all the time either.
It's a modern age, if you're making good money and he's making good money, then split the difference, you pay sometimes and he pays sometimes.
2007-01-22 16:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just think it's retarded to ask someone out and look at them like they have to pay. if you ask them out you pay because you don't really know if they have money or not and you don't want to embarrass anyone and you were the one who wanted to go out in the first place. but you should wait until the bill comes and if he's a gentleman he'll pay regardless but if he doesn't offer just pay and you'll know you have a bum on you're hands.
2007-01-22 16:20:22 · answer #11 · answered by twan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋