Kinda personal... mature answers only?

Question

My boyfriend of over a year wants me to have anal with him. Is it enjoyable at all? Do u like it, and what are ur experiences with it! Any hints would be so appreciated!

Answer 1

Lots and lots of lube. First time I did (out of like three or four times with one guy) it hurt like hell because he wasn't slow. Go slow and make sure you're both slippery. Never go from anal to vaginal unless you shower and clean him well. The penis can get bacteria from the anus and when it's placed into the vagina it can cause an infection. That's why you never wipe back to front. lol
Anal sex is a totally different feeling. I didn't really prefer it. It felt like I was shitting while we were doing it because of the in and out feeling. My guy didn't care for the feeling either even though he loves seeing my butt. We never finished doing it that way. We always showered and did it our old fashioned way.

And just to be perfectly frank, be sure there's nothing.. inside. lol Make sure you don't need to use the restroom before doing this.

Answer 2

I'll start by saying that it can be enjoyable but you have to kinda take your mind off of what's going on cuz it can be quite uncomfortable. See, your butt has tons of nerves in it making it very suceptable to pain. You must go slow with a thing like that and definitely stay away from the KY it'll only make it worse. My experiences are mixed, but when they're bad they're bad. I curled up in a fetal position my first time and refused to be touched again. It was the most painful thing I had ever felt in my life. But, when you love someone and you want to let them do that you only need to relax and take your time. But can I ask you something? Do you know what's really going on with him that he wants to do a thing like that to you? Do you see where I'm going with that? I hope you do. Time is not the issue here. What is is what does your man really want and how does he really feel, has he told you everything about his sexual preference? Point is you can't knock it till you've tried it. So, humor him and try it. but makes sure there is other stimulation in other areas to make the experience better cuz it won't be pretty if it's done wrong.

Answer 3

Yeah it might be good for the guys but it bloody hurts especially when you have never done it before or if there is no lubrication.
The most important thing to remember is that you dont do anything that you dont want to or that makes you feel uncomfortable.
If he loves you he will respect your decision.
Now if you want to try it start by making sure you are totally relaxed as tension will tighten your rectum and will make entry harder. Then you need to make sure there is plenty of lubrication in and around, dont use spit as it dries to quick and then your mouth ends up being dry.
Then try starting with something smaller then a penis as this allows you to gradualy get used to the idea and allows your rectum to losen up and open.
Then you can start to go slowly as it is extremly hard and very easy to tear which is very painful.
Be aware that when you succeed you will not poo for a few days as it makes your feaces hard to come out.
Last but not least you will most likely put poo on his penis so make sure he knows that before hand as it can be embarrasing for both of you.

Answer 4

Well my bf is kind of obsessed with my bum, so I let him have anal with me a couple of times. It's not very pleasant for me. Basically it feels like you're doing a poo, except it keeps coming back in! But if you decide to do it:
DEFINITELY use a lot of lubricant (KY Jelly is good)... whoever said ky makes it worse is totally wrong. I can't even imagine how painful it would be without lube.
Secondly, make him go SLOW, maybe get him to finger you there first (also with lube) while wearing rubber gloves or something just to get you used to the feeling.
And be careful when he is inserting his penis, it tends to be difficult to get in, and then it just pops in suddenly, which can be quite painful.
If you go back to vaginal sex afterwards change the condom to prevent bacteria transference.
Um, it's best to empty your bowels beforehand too...
You'll probably need to stimulate your clitoris while it's happening to make it even remotely enjoyable.
So, I think that's it... if you do it, I hope it's ok for you, and if you don't like it make him stop! Good luck : )

Answer 5

I do not find anal a healthy way to have sex at all. Your rectum is not meant to have an object inserted in and out of it for over five minutes.
If he is not careful it can cause some damage or inflammation.
Why is he so interested in this type of sex?
I mean, why isn't oral and vaginal sex good enough, a hole is a hole correct?

There are no sexual nerve endings in the anus for women.
So, the only way you will get joy out of it is if he is doing some other stimulation to your vaginal area.

Answer 6

Its a matter of opinion.In my opinion its not enjoyable and I dont care to partake in back door activities.Dont do anything you aren't totally comfortable with just because he wants to and it is very important that you don't cross contaminate by your boyfriend going anywhere near your anal area with his penis and then trying to put it in your vagina,Its very important to always use condoms and to change the condom if he is going to change the entrance.(you could open yourself up to get a really bad infection)

Answer 7

First of all brace yourself, in my opinion there are alot of idiots that answer these questions!! So with that said only you can make this decision and no matter what others say it is a big one. If your not comfortable with it, dont do it!! If you decide you want to try use alot of lubrication, store bot not spit. ALWAYS use a condom and if you switch to normal sex use a differnt condom. Bacteria from back there can give you a nasty infection so be very careful. If it hurts stop immediately and if he dosent listen SLAP HIM!!! ( i no this sounds like i myself have had this experience but i havent, its all second hand from friends, im realy not interested in doing it!!) Also with that um my freind did it with her BF one night and when she told him to stop she accidentaly pood on him so be careful for that too!! Good luck!!

Answer 8

Well the answer definatly depends on the person. Not all girls like it, some love it and some hate it. Some girls say that it makes them orgasm more and better than they ever have, then others say it did nothin to them but made them walk funny the next day. Id say give it a try and see how u like it, but yes... use lots of lube, and ease it in. If you dont like it, then throw that idea away. But whatever turns u on girl

Answer 9

To me it sucks. It was the worst and most painful sexual experience in my life. But if you really want to try it, do a a lot of research on it. There are lot of instructional DVDs and books out. You and your bf should watch and read and then take things very slowly.

Answer 10

Don't do it my best friend did it with her man and now she has serious problems with inability to control her bowels, it comes before she can make it to the bathroom. Also it is riskier for aids, the rectum wall lining is 4 layers the vagina is 26 layers, therefore there is greater possible risk of tearing the skin. She also has hemorrhoids from it, her doctor said that most of the damage is permanent. she regrets doing it now.