Her biological father is a deadbeat and is stubborn enough that he won't give up his parental right. Also, he is on the birth certificate and my daughter's last name is hyphenated with mine and his. I just want her father out of the picture even more than he is now.
2007-01-22 15:45:24 · 14 answers · asked by Vicki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm in the same pickle. I dont know bout your state, but in my state u have to be married for 1 year before you start filling adoption papers. We are filling in April, but we already changed her last name to my hubbys, that was simple. Her biological father is also a dead beat. My daughter is now 6 and he never tried to be a FATHER. Thank God I found a wonderful man who loved her as his own, and would do anything for her. I hope nothing but the BEST for you and yours and GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-22 16:16:36 · answer #1 · answered by iluvmjstu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to really answer this one because we have no idea as to why you want him out of the child's life. Is he a criminal? Does he do drugs? IS he a bad influence on her? These are important things to know. I say if he wants to be in her life then good for him. I know you have moved on, but he has rights and the law should up hold those rights. You should embrace upon him that if he wants to be a good father to be one. That means financially, mentally, and physically. Now if he is a bad father.... you should try counseling....If that doesn't work...move away from him. Just remember your child is not a pawn, and no other man can claim her if the biological father has not released his claim on her. Let them be in a relationship and let her know her other half. Your new husband should want that for her as well as you. I only wished to have my "real" biological father in my life. My mother new he was unfit and instead of trying to force the issue, she just let his true colors shine. She never once bad talked him around us...with time, the broken promises, phone calls that never came, and never seeing him added up on its own. Good Luck and remember if he is unfit to the point of criminal family court is there to assist.
2007-01-22 15:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by aprildin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the state, and whether or not he supports the child. In Indiana, we have laws which state that if a father (or mother) fails to pay child support, and makes no effort to support the child, he is considered to have abandoned the child, and advocated all parental rights. If you state has such a law, you need to get court to order your ex to be in abandonment. This officially strips him of all parental rights. Basically, the court ill try to contract him, and give him a certain amount of time to prove you wrong (usually around 72 hours). He will have to pay any back child support, and prove he is fit to receive a child for visitations (has a home and a steady job, and is a fit parent).
2016-05-23 23:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think there is anything you can do unless you want to go to court and prove that he isn't doing anything to help you (i.e. child support) so there is no point keeping him around. i don't think any court would force a father to give up his rights if he was being somewhat responsible though.
i left my ex's name off the birth certificate. when i went to a lawyer to see how to make him give up his rights, because he is also a deadbeat, to put it mildly, i was told that in the eyes of the law he already has no rights because he is not legally my son's father. best news i heard in a while.
and all that stuff about giving up rights=no child support, in some states, you still have to pay even if you give up your rights. i.e. delaware.
2007-01-22 15:50:14 · answer #4 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Think about this: You and your intended get divorced. Then what?
See a lawyer about the deadbeat dad and forget about the adoption.
If he really isn't there after several years of your marriage, maybe, rethink.
2007-01-22 15:51:03 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a total deadbeat - doesn't see the kid or pay support for a period of time, you may be able to get the courts to terminate his parental rights. I wouldn't hold my breath, though.
2007-01-22 15:49:32 · answer #6 · answered by S. W 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I looked into this a while back and different states have different laws.
Check with your state laws and go from there.
You might just have to petition for him to show up in court and if he proves to be a dead beat dad...you could win this.
How old is your child, are they old enough to give the court their own opinion?
Check your laws.....it migh prove to be on your side.
best wishes
2007-01-22 16:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by travelingirl005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling the sperm donor that if he signs the rights away, he gets out of paying child support. If that doesn't work you can send him to jail for non payment of support.
2007-01-22 15:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if he is such a deadbeat why did you have his child?
there is nothing you could do except fight him in caught and prove that he isnt a good dad
2007-01-22 15:51:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from experience that doing this without consulting your daughter will make her despise you when she is older. Her feelings may not necessarily be the same as yours. Children love their parents no matter how low they can be.
2007-01-22 15:51:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋