Ok so I have this overwheight friend... how do I tell her she eats too much?

Question

Her name is Jamie. She is REALLY big. She eats a LOT.
She is really unhealthy. She doesn't know how bad it is to be overwheight. She is the biggest girl in the whole school she ways about 225 pounds and is 6'3 (ninth). Yeah, she's that big. She is a really sweet person, so I don't want to hurt her. But she get's laughed at a lot. She is probably the kindest person in the world. =P
Well, in my point of view.

Answer 1

She already knows she is the largest person in the school. She knows she eats too much. She realizes she did not get that big by eating a lot of vegtables and foods low in calories. Make suggestions about food when you are eating together and maybe suggest that she go for a walk with you or any kind of physical activity.

Answer 2

Your friend knows she's fat. She may not have realized how she got fat in the first place, but she most definitely knows that she's unable to stop eating- which is why she's still fat.

She's not blind, I'm sure.

Your friend is most probably aware that she has alot of people making fun of her. Since she knows this, she either can't be bothered, or sees no way out of it.

In this case, you should be a good friend. Try to start some exercise routine with her- subtly ask her and some other friend of yours at the same time. Also, you could like say "I want to lose weeeeigght! I need to fit into this dress my mum bought me! I'm going on a diet! Join me pleeease. It's so lonely!"

You don't have to diet of course, but just eat healthy while around her.

Good luck

Answer 3

Explain to her that she is a pretty girl and that she would not get laughed at if she did not eat so much. Tell her that she is going to be hating life when she cannot get up off of the couch. It may make her feel bad about herself, but explain to her that you are telling her this out of kindness. Tell her that you are a friend trying to do her a favor. Tell her just what you said in your question. Tell her once, and leave the subject alone. If you keep bothering her about it, she may start eating out of spite.
A diet she should try:
Tell her to:
1. drink a lot of water all day long
2. wake up at 6am
3. eat a hearty breakfast by 6:30
4. Run for at least 20 min/day. Run all at one time. Do not break it up into 10 min here 5min there.
5. Eat lunch at the same time every day, but eat a lot of fruit and vegetables.
6. Eat a snack of fruit at 3:00. Avoid soft drinks.
7. Eat a light supper at 6:30pm. Avoid really fatty foods for dinner.
If this diet is followed you should see results in about 1 month.

Answer 4

Hmm, that's a tough one, i have a friends who's the same way. Her mother's obese so it's genetic, but she doesn't do anything to slow it down (execise, eat healthy). She says that only little anorexic girly girls in the city (we're farm kids) diet(I secretly watch my own weight very closely). I hate to say anything but it's best for her to do someting about it while she's young. You should probably just say that you think she should think about this now while she still can. Maybe invite her to the gym with you, offer to help in some way. It's kinda hard, but someone probably had to do it.

I agree with the guy above, she doesn't need to hear she's overweight, just try to push her towards healthy choices. (the walks is a good idea!) and the thing is, 225 isn't that big yet, there's still time to improve.

Answer 5

Trust me, she already knows she has a weight problem - telling her is like telling someone with blonde hair, "Hey, did you know you have blonde hair?" She doesn't need to hear it from you. But certainly talking about healthy choices in foods. Encourage exercise. Ask her if she wants to go on regular walks with you. You would be surprised how much weight can be lost with a one hour walk five times a week. I lost 60 pounds on just making better food choices and walking! P.S. I didn't need to have anyone tell me I was overweight either - in fact - I found it rather insulting when people said it to me. Some weight problems are also metabolic. She should have a physical before starting any diet or exercise routine.

Answer 6

Well this is a hard question.....

I wouldnt go out and say verbally you eat to much

but instead say... You know there is some lowfat food you could eat because its unfournate my friend that even though we can have a great personality and whatnot unfournate things can happen but some of it can be prevented by being in good health.

motivate her......maybe join the track team.....or something. All I can tell you is that its a lot easier to do something when you have people supporting you behind your back giving you that extra motivation you need...

Answer 7

You don't have to tell her, she knows. Unless she brings it up, I wouldn't say anything to her. If she is okay with it, then others shouldn't judge her. When she needs help, she will ask and also in the future, you may be able to approach her about it. I hope you aren't embarrassed to be seen with her and I can understand if you are. However, if she is sweet and kind, that is all that matters. It is her life and she knows what she is doing to herself. Hopefully, she will wake up someday. I know a lot of big people and they are giving and are happy and enjoy life the way they are.

Answer 8

When she comes over to your house make some healthy snacks for you two. Or at lunch say you tried making this snack you read about and need some guinea pigs. But do not I repeat DO NOT ever tell her that she's fat. It's just plain mean. Encourage her to eat right, don't point out everything she's doing wrong.

Answer 9

just be a friend the more activities she is involved with the less time she will have to eat if you spend time together outside of school stay away from places that center around food study at the library or go shopping or even bowling or for walks

Answer 10

Do you think she doesn't know she is fat or that she is made fun of?
You are her friend and do not need to hurt her more.
If you truly want to help, why don't you invite her to participate in some physical activities you could both enjoy. Exercise is good for everyone and might lead to other positives in her life.