My mom seems to think that I live solely for the purpose of doing crap for her. She doesn't have a job, but she does some freelance work because she enjoys it. She plays solitare, shops, and decorates the house all day. I am a full time high school student, and I am also taking a full load of college classes. But somehow she expects me to cook dinner every night that I'm home--and gets mad if I make plans to not be at home. How do I respectfully let her know that, although gourmet cooking is a hobby of mine, I cannot handle the additional pressure?
2007-01-22 15:26:32 · 13 answers · asked by madmusician007 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Based on some of the responses, I have to add that I have to pay for all of my high school and college expenses, and this is currently draining everything I have worked to save. her husband is a government worker, they are near to rich and will not financially help me at all. I love my mom and I don;t mind doing stuff for her...it's just when she expects me to cook for her all the time because she doesn't feel like doing it herself, it gets on my nerves.
2007-01-22 15:54:19 · update #1
She's the one who's home all day.
You're a student trying to make a future for yourself.
Tell your mother that, though you love her, you have a future you want to get to. Cooking meals is something she can do since she's the one who's home all day.
You both could take turns, cooking meals every other night, or so.
2007-01-22 15:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit Mom down and just straight out tell her, in a calm way, about how you feel, and remind her that you are doing what you thought she was working towards, a better life for urself, by going to school..... and you might have to remind her that it is NOT your duty or calling to be the parent..... that right now she is the mother , you are the child, and it is HER job to take care of YOU......... you do NOT have to be ugly just firm....... God bless
2007-01-22 15:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for a sit down with Mama! Studies come first! If you plan on going further in college--someone will pay dearly-finacially
2007-01-22 15:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mike H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. You live under her roof...she foots the bill. I learned my lesson with my parents. You live under THEIR roof, you do what you are asked or told. No questions asked. Just count the days until you're 18 and you can move out. Rememer, she's the one who changed your diapers, picked up after YOU, kissed your boo-boos. She's paid her dues.
2007-01-22 15:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by Sasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only a little while longer, you'll be done with school, into your career, and out of your mom's house. Hang in there!
2007-01-22 15:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just cook dinner? man im 14 and i make dinner every night. geez...about not being at home...if you tell her like a week before, she probably wont get mad at you.
2007-01-22 15:30:16 · answer #6 · answered by love&&life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that it's too stressful with all of the classes you are taking. I pray she is a reasonable person.
2007-01-22 15:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be tough to get a parents attention. But you have to ask you mon if you can talk to her. Right down what you want to say and jsut say it.
2007-01-22 15:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you encoiurage her to get treatment for her drug /alcohol problems. It sounds like she is suffering from depression, too.
2007-01-23 23:14:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her so. I think your point is undersatndable and you provide convincing explanations.
2007-01-22 15:34:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋