I'm closer to 30 than 20
Never been on a date
Never had anyone who said they "liked" me
Have no friends that are guys
I consider myself an intelligent person. I have been told that I am intimidating, but seriously, does that stop EVERY SINGLE GUY from approaching me? I'm not ugly. I'm not mean.
I don't open up to a person until I know them well. In high school I was known as a feminist.
I'm just worried that these are qualities that guys are turned off by. I will not change who I am, however, and I like these qualities.
I don't "flirt", per say. I feel fake when I flirt because it's just not me.
HELP!
2007-01-22 15:25:00 · 14 answers · asked by Yasuko 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
30 than 20? Just ignore that.
2007-01-22 15:28:35 · update #1
Young lady, allow me to assure you that there is nothing 'grim' about your present situation.
You are just the kind of no-nonsense woman who would appeal to a real man : And remember that a man usually gets the same amount of mental maturity as a 25-year-old woman, only when he is around 32 to 35 years of age !
Most males remain 'boys' even long past that age - and still remain only on the lookout for 'fun' when it comes to 'girls', who will willingly flirt with them. Worse, some remain "mamma's boys" all their lives - and keep on looking for adoring young replicas of their mothers...
To such immature males, a 'girl friend' is mainly a showpiece to brag about. Even when they get married, they look upon 'the wife' as just another 'possession' that they own - simply because she remains financially dependent on them !
Such overgrown 'boys' would naturally be scared away by any self-confident young lady, who seems to be very much in control of her own life, as well as those around her. And that is what you are. [May your tribe increase !]
Don't you worry, dear : There definitely is a right man just for you - who will definitely come your way, at the right time. That will be the kind of man who looks out for a 'consort battleship' to sail along with through life...
And when you both meet, it will be a meeting of minds - which will slowly lead to a life-long romance, which paves the way for a happy and fulfilling married life.
My very best wishes, that this happy event will soon occur in your very young life.
:-))
2007-01-22 16:00:13 · answer #1 · answered by Indychen 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunantly, most guys go for the 'loose" girls rather than someone who you can have meaningful conversation with. It's rediculous because you probably are a good person, and you should stick to your beliefs. Just hang in there. I know what it's like to be lonely myself. Girls just don't seem to like me for some reason so I find myself being incredibly depressed all the time. Anyway, I'm sure that you will find someone. Just try and be more social. Attend more gatherings, go hang out with friends on friday nights, etc. My heart goes out to ya. Best of Luck
2007-01-22 15:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by Searching4Answers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry, you will find someone. I think there is nothing wrong with the qualities you have, you just have to meet that person who is willing to accept you for you, and you will.
In the meantime be happy and enjoy your life!
2007-01-22 16:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't change or get discouraged. There really is someone out there for everyone. Your guy will show up when you least expect it. Try not to be too closed minded or you may miss him. I wish you good luck!
2007-01-22 15:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
need to relax a little. i can see you get married.
if you are looking for a date, try on-line dating service- if you like someone that you see, ask him to go for a cup of coffee or tea at a cafe.
never know unless you try.
should open up a little and a little bit of sense of humour into it.
good luck
2007-01-22 15:39:53 · answer #5 · answered by manblind1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont change who you are, have you tried places like match.com. That way you could let people know exactly who you are and what you want. Myspace is also good for meeting new people.
Hope this helps
2007-01-22 15:28:58 · answer #6 · answered by auced6371 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never say never! perhaps you could be more willing to open up a little, for conversation's sake. guys are more likely to approach a woman whos friendly :)
2007-01-22 15:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is, and always will be that right, and special person for you....just don't push it, because you might get hurt.
2007-01-22 15:29:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HAVE BEEN INTIMIDATED BY GIRLS BEFORE AND THATS WHY , I WOULDN'T APPROACH THEM ANYMORE ABOUT GOING OUT
2007-01-22 15:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anatawa to tay mo utsukushi
2007-01-22 15:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by Garret Tripp 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋