Am I horrible??

Question

Okay, so I love the hell out of my Boyfriend, there is just one thing that he does that drives me INSANE!!! I cannot stand the way he eats. He uses his fork like a shovel, licks his fingers, chews with his mouth open and smacks. Now, at home it's not too bothersome, but when we go out to a resturant, I am very embarrassed, I can't even look at him. I don't think he is rude or doesn't have manners, I just think that he was never taught proper ettiquette. Is this something that I should just let go, or try to correct? Any advice is helpful.

Answer 1

No you're not horrible
You need to bring it up to him Before you Suddenly just Snap in a fit of Rage one night at Dinner. Then he's going to think you're crazy and not know why you couldn't of just told him before you got mad and made it a huge ordeal.
If you tell him how you feel then calmly, you'll feel a lot better and he might make an effort to change but don't Expect him to be perfect overnight.
If he's having trouble help him out to Remember, maybe he isn't aware of the issue because that is normal to him. Explain to each other what the two of you think should be a proper way to eat in public.
Look into some classes aboue manners, and take them together that way he doesn't feel like you're just trying to Fix him your way

Ask him if there is something that you do that really irritates him and them compromise. If you can become more proper in eating then I can do whatever to change what bothers you the best I can

Good Luck But tell him how you Feel
Honesty is what keeps a relationship together

Answer 2

I think you have hit the nail on the head when you state that he was probably never taught proper etiquette. It seems to be the trend.
You could start by talking to him at home, just as you did here. How it really doesn't bother you at home, but in Public you are embarrassed because you were raised to act/behave a certain way in public ~ That way your kind of putting it back on you & asking him if he would mind doing this for you in Public?

Its not just the lack of ettiquiette that seems to have been lost along the way ~ So has basic common courtisy......

Answer 3

i would help him out. Don't do it in a mean or sarcastic way. If you keep holding it in, you will one day just snap say something mean.
why don't you tell him that "today I'm going to help you with something, and tomorrow you can help me with something" and then in a playful or nice way show him what to do right with what he does wrong, when it comes to table manners. don't let your lessons bleed into other aspects, or he will get defensive. Just fix his dinner habits because he will learn the hard way later, when someone he doesn't know says something aweful, or he goes on a lunchtime job interview, and the person doesn't hire him cuz he uses his fork like a shovel.

Answer 4

I think your bf needs to see what he looks like when he's scarfing down food. It is probably the only thing that is going to make him want to learn how to eat in a civilized manner. Maybe you can video tape him, or better yet, have someone else video tape him (maybe at a birthday party or family event). A few seconds of footage might be all it takes to snap him out of it. He really needs to work on this now, b/c it will definitely hinder him later in life.

Answer 5

Do tell him in private, but not in a way to hurt his feelings, as this will likely cause him to become defensive. He may not realize it is not acceptable, possibly he has never been taught better (have you ever dined with his family?).
Maybe try having dinner with a couple of well mannered close friends and maybe (if you clue them in ahead of time to be on their best behavior) he may pick up on few good habits.

Answer 6

It is something you should defintely help him with because it is only goignt o hurt him in life. How can you go anywhere, job interviews, vacation, family affairs? Bring him to a classy place, and just slip in alittle hun, its okay when youd o that at home, but this is a classy place. Or maybe at home bring it up when you're eating around, just chillin basically. It might hurt at first,but you're helping and he'll appreciate it.

Answer 7

I usually resolve that before the relationship goes too far. At the "beginning to know you" stage, I ask them what their pet peeves are. When they ask me mine I tell them "people who lick their fingers, chew with their mouth open, etc"....

Since you are already in a relationship, when you are out at a restaurant and point out someone who eats like him and make a comment like "look how that person is eating, isn't it disgusting?" If he is sensitive to what you like and dislike this should change his behavior. If it doesn't, you know that he doesn't really care what you think.

Answer 8

just leave this page up the next time you know he's about to use the computer and maybe he will "accidently" read it. Its not something your going to be able to get over... If it bothers you now then I will irritate the heII out of you in a few years. Be nice about it but eventually your gonna have to tell him or you will end up snapping about it and hurting him.

Answer 9

If the two of you are really close and have been together for a while, you should feel comfortable bringing that to his attention. Just do it in a nice way, don't make it sound like you are nagging.

Answer 10

you are absolutely NOT horrible. i would be disgusted as well. especially the eating with mouth open. i cant stand it. I would be trying to correct that (but i dont really mind about the others much). every time he does it, tell him you dont want to see his food. hopefully he will get the picture and close his gob.